In family education, the father is the role model for the child . The pattern of the father often determines how high the child can fly in the future. Children who grew up in the love of their fathers have a strong sense of security, self-confidence, courage, sunny and generous, daring to try, daring to break through, and often have a higher upper limit.
I. The pattern of the father determines the height of the child's flight
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Children often have a strong admiration for their father and regard him as a symbol of wisdom and strength.
Children will subconsciously imitate their father's behavior. After the mind matures, he will work hard to reach or even surpass the height of his father.
Zeng Guofan son Zeng Jize is an example.Zeng Jize took his father as an example, and learned from his father when he lived and worked as an official. Later, he entered the DPRK as an official and showed no less than his father's ability in political affairs.
Zeng Guofan was dealing with foreign affairs in the " Tianjin teaching case ". His handling was improper and his reputation fell to the bottom. Realizing the importance of diplomacy, Zeng Guofan often warned Zeng Jize to open his eyes to the world.
Zeng Jize learned a foreign language and was about to get up where his father fell.
Sure enough, Zeng Jize played an outstanding role in foreign affairs later, defended national interests in Xinjiang's territorial disputes, and became China's most famous diplomat at the time.
and Compared with mothers, fathers do not spoil their children. They often point the children in a direction and let the children use their own power to arrive.
Children have more room to play and can also exercise their independence.
Therefore, , the best education a father can give to his children is not a meticulous and considerate care of everything, but an aspirational education that guides the direction.
a good father,We must set a good example for our children in terms of pattern and aspirations. This will determine the upper limit that children can reach in the future.
With the increase in the cost of education today, , as the backbone of the family’s economy, the father often bears huge financial pressure. In order to work, he often has little time to spend time with his family. Caused a huge gap in children's education.
Children who lack the love of their parents in their early years are often insecure. It is said that their love is like a mountain. When children do not have a solid support, they will become inferior and anxious.
After growing up, even if they become a strong adult, children cannot get rid of this insecurity.
Children like this are easy to stick to the rules in their careers, fear failure, dare not break innovation, dare not make new attempts.
This often makes his career limited, unable to break through the inherent situation and open up new horizons, which severely restricts the height that his personal career can achieve.
so no matter how busy,As a father, you must also spend more time with your child. The love of the father will make the child feel that he has a strong enough backing, a sense of security, and he will be more confident in doing things, instead of being intimidated.
In family education, the mother is also a gentle and tolerant character that can be important for the mother.
The mother’s self-cultivation often affects the child’s character and personality throughout the life.
3. The mother’s self-cultivation determines the child’s character 5 _strong11span5 5 _strong11span _span5 _span5 strong A pair of children, but only an education fund, who do you invest in?
Their answer is: vote for girls.
Because you educate a boy, you only educate an individual, and you educate a girl, you educate a family.Educated a nation, educated a country.
This is not a lie. In a family, the self-cultivation of the mother determines the character of the child.
In infancy, people's consciousness is extremely simple, their behaviors are not fixed, and they have a unique attachment to their mothers psychologically.
The mother’s behavior, thoughts, and morals can easily leave a deep mark on the children’s mind. gradually formed the initial concepts of good and evil, truth and false, good and bad, right and wrong, And how well they lay the foundation during this period will determine what kind of person they become.
As the famous educator Suhomlinski said in the book "Family Education":
"The source of the moral development of the child 8strong And inner passion, how a person becomes in his own moral development depends on what kind of mother he has. is able to get along well with people,Whether it is possible to avoid making mistakes of principle in the face of big right and wrong.
This kind of person may not have a very amazing performance, but it is better than steady and stable, long endurance, and the road of life can naturally go further.
span5sp The characteristics of women determine that mothers are often more tolerant and patient in education.
So children who grew up in single-parent families, if they were brought up by their fathers, girls are generally more like boys and tend to have a more direct temper. Boys raised by their mothers are generally gentler and generous, more tolerant, and don't like to be aggressive.
Lao Tzu said that soft energy overcomes strength, knowing that tolerance is often more powerful than just being strong. Mother’s unique gentleness and tolerance can help children develop a gracious way of dealing with others. Such children are not sharp and often have strong adaptability after entering the society.
Children affected by their mothers have a much higher level of mental health than average after adults.Career development and interpersonal relationships are relatively stable and are not prone to drastic changes.
In today’s children’s education, school education alone is far from enough. Fathers and mothers are the ones who influence a child’s life.
In family education, both the father and the mother are indispensable. The absence of either party may cause an imbalance in the child's development.
Therefore, Every father and mother must give full play to their advantages and give their children the best education where they are good at.
Only in this way can children develop in an all-round way, so that they can fly high and fly far, and have a successful and happy life.
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