Since ancient times, fathers have always been absent from the topic of family parenting. However, in the current social age, male participation in childcare has become a new fashion and trend.
Parenting has been a mother's bounden duty since ancient times, and it is by nature. With the rapid development of society and the exchange of roles between men and women, men gradually participate in childcare.
Of course, before a father decides to raise a child, he will fully examine the family’s ability to raise children and weigh the family’s interests. When women can obtain greater benefits in career development, men will take the initiative to assume the role and burden of family parenting. In this process, the family's income did not drop sharply, and men also felt the happiness of parenting.
It can be said that this is a way of maximizing the benefits after the roles of men and women are exchanged.
However, men tend to have stronger career abilities and will not consider sacrificing their own interests to create more space and time for women to develop their careers. And this is also the tradition and inheritance of men's career-oriented tradition. Although there is nothing wrong with it, it should be criticized. After all, the phenomena such as “intensive motherhood” and “involution of motherhood” caused by this have put more pressure on mothers for childcare, and made the “work-family” balance of professional women more difficult.
Although intergenerational cooperation in parenting and hiring housekeeping attendants are more feasible and popular solutions, the problems of elderly and nanny parenting have frequently occurred in recent years, which has attracted great attention from mother and father, and brought a certain degree of negativity and Negative impact.
At this time, many women chose to be full-time mothers. In this regard, we should reflect on:
Where is the father in the childcare division? In family parenting, "Where did Dad go?"
It can be said that "widowed baby-bringing" is exactly the mothers' sincere criticism and flogging of the father's absence from family parenting. From a human point of view, it completely denies the rationality of "parenting is a matter of women" and expresses the expectation of men. Deeply participate in the call and cry of parenting.
Of course, some experts and scholars pointed out that under the joint action of the state, market and social system, family parenting has changed, causing fathers to assume the responsibility of parenting in law, reason, and emotion.
So, the father’s participation in parenting actually includes many operational aspects, such as personal care, homework guidance, shared entertainment, food preparation, companionship and cleaning. These require not only the father to learn, but also women to give men more tolerance and training.
Take family counseling as an example. Now the anxiety caused by the education capital market has ignited a raging fire for family counseling homework. We will find that many fathers are not deeply involved in the parenting process. On the contrary, education anxiety is still transmitted more to the mother. Therefore, the mother always plays the role of an education broker, and the father only needs to pay for education and counseling. In this regard, men ultimately maintain a certain distance from parenting. It seems that education anxiety has not deeply affected the position and thinking of men in parenting.
In fact, the topic of male participation in parenting covers many aspects.
First, what is the motivation mechanism for men to participate in parenting?
Second, how do men deeply participate in parenting?
Third, what is the significance of men's deep involvement in parenting?
It is undeniable that the traditional division of labor between men and women does conceal the problem of father parenting. However, we have to think about the new problems that parenting will cause to the father's family relationship, professional development, and personal life.
This is essentially a pioneering work, even with a little ordinary and ordinary background and flavor.
I personally agree that whether a father or mother, whether male or female, should first satisfy individual interests, then talk about collective interests. In other words, I respect individual culture and ideas.
"Live for yourself" and "live your own life" on the one hand demonstrates an extremely high self-awareness, on the other hand, it also achieves the meaning and purpose of living a person. To be honest, the family as a collective should not be a reason or factor for a person to sacrifice for it, but should be used as a tool or means for an individual to achieve success and satisfy selfish desires.
Of course, if every individual advocates "the right to live for themselves," then the collective unit of family may no longer exist.Naturally, there is no way to talk about parenting.
On the other hand, parenting inevitably involves sacrificing personal interests and sacrificing individual consciousness, so the father’s deep involvement in parenting means more or less, more or less, for men to pay a certain price. This is beyond doubt.
When a father invests too much time and energy in parenting, he is bound to make himself inferior to himself in his career and himself in the workplace. In the end, the man's motto of "live your own life" is greatly reduced.
In short, fathers are deeply involved in parenting, which is related to women, career, personal, and quality of parenting. In addition to various factors, more relevant is the sense of family responsibility of men.
Generally speaking, men with a strong sense of family responsibility are deeply involved in the whole process of parenting.
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