Everyone in the world has a different personality.
Some people are violent and perverse, some are warm and generous, and some are taciturn.
People are always social animals, so it has always been generally believed that people with a cheerful temperament and slightly "extroverted" can better adapt to group life, and that children with extroverts have a greater chance to go further in this world .
Moreover, someone once did statistics and said that "many criminals and some people with anti-social personality are relatively introverted." Then the "introvert" was completely stigmatized.
I used to be very introverted, and I have been troubled. For a while, I tried to make myself more sociable, but I still had little effect.
Many parents are the same. They feel that their children are a little introverted, and they are particularly worried, for fear that their children will not be able to make friends or be isolated, and some psychological problems will develop.
In fact, there is no personality that is absolutely bad or absolutely good. Individual differences are the biggest variable.
Moreover, when people reach middle age, it is not difficult for us to find that most of the classmates who mix well are mostly introverts.
Introverted girls marry well, but introverted boys walk steadily.
Speaking of "introverted personality", the first malady we think of is weak social skills, and poor speech leads to missed opportunities.
Yes, it's good to be able to speak well, but the words "speaking too much will lose" and "misfortune comes from the mouth" do not come out of nowhere.
Even if you can say that black is white, but black is always black from beginning to end, you can't change reality. You can fool you for a while but you can't fool you.
The eloquent boys tend to give people unstable senses, and the sharp-toothed girls do not give a good impression either.
look at your side,Look at the men around you who mix well and have been mixing well. Are they not all very good at socializing?
Look at the women around you who are happily married, are they not so gregarious?
People who are introverted, because they don’t like socializing and are not good at socializing, so they can save a lot of time for themselves to study and think about their own life, and use the limited time to do what they really want to do thing.
They have too many advantages that extroverts do not have.
They can endure loneliness and loneliness, boys can meditate, girls can introspect, even if they are in the busy city, they can "shield" the noise around them, and "filter" them unconsciously Get rid of those outside interferences that are meaningless to you, and let yourself focus on what you are dealing with.
Sometimes they don’t have much communication even with their closest family members. They are good at action. Although they talk less, they must do what they say.
The point is that they tend to be pragmatic and rigorous.
I think anyone will despise those who only speak beautiful things.
An introverted man, no matter what he has achieved now, he can endure loneliness and temptation. It is already admirable to really settle down and think about the business he is engaged in. Success comes to him. Say, maybe it's just a matter of time.
And an introverted woman, she can also have a clearer understanding of the world in solitude, and after long-term training, she can also have a stronger ability to think and deal with problems.
The most important point is that they tend to marry better and get a happy marriage more easily.
First of all, in the process of choosing a spouse, because they are more introverted and not good at expressing themselves, they can often attract the opposite sex who can really see her strengths, because they are sensitive and reserved, they will not be so easy to hand over Yourself.
Secondly, I don't think any man would want his wife to "confide in the world" and "to be best friends at home".
again,They are not good at socializing, not only can they calm down faster, but they can also spend more time and energy with the family. You should know that in most unfortunate marriages, there are problems that cannot balance career and family.
Introverts mix well because they are good at using their brains
Of course, there is no absoluteness in everything. Good mixes are not all true introverts, but only those who "mix well "There is a common feature in people who are good at using their brains.
In contrast, introverts have a greater advantage in using their brains.
People who like to be quiet because they spend enough time alone, they tend to have better independent thinking skills and the ability to regulate emotions.
Especially for girls, they may be naturally emotional, so it is easy to rely on emotions when looking at things and when dealing with problems and making decisions.
Psychological research shows that the more extroverted people are usually more difficult to withstand shocks. They are very good at avoiding their own problems, and they are very positive through their "eloquence". They are very positive, but they are always positive in the long-term acceptance. On the one hand, once you encounter setbacks, it is easy to make impulsive decisions due to emotional influence.
Of course, this is just an instinctive way of adaptation and self-preservation. It is of the same nature as "warriors can more easily solve problems by force".
Introverts are not good at communication because they are not good at socializing. They can only face it on their own, and then hone a stronger heart.
People who are introverted can more easily stay calm. They know that emotions will adversely affect their judgment, so they will minimize negative emotions. This is rationality.
is calm because of rationality, and calmness allows people to maintain high-quality independent thinking skills.
Chen Shu has an impressive line in "Who Said I Can't Get Married":
The principle of what I do is:
is based on interests,See if it should be done;
starts from the risk and sees whether it should be blogged;
starts from the ability and sees whether it should do it;
starts from the result to see if it is cost-effective, instead of others telling me it’s right Not right.
This is undoubtedly a very rational way of being in the world, and it is also a skill that everyone needs to master.
Conclusion
Do not have to be inferior due to your own introversion, let alone worry about your child's introversion.
Everything has two sides, as long as you don't go to extremes, everyone can find a way of survival that suits them.
People who are in middle age and have seen a lot will know that those with "introverted" personality actually walk the farthest and most steadily.
One day you will also find that successful men don’t like to socialize very much. Most of them are forced out of their right and left, and powerful women are often those with introverted personality. They don’t socialize, they are just them. Better at pleasing yourself.
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