allows children to be confident and responsible, starting with positive affirmation
Under the current social market environment, there is fierce competition in education and employment, and parents also Educational anxiety and pressure are widespread. In any environment, there are only a small number of conscious and excellent children, and a considerable proportion of the remaining children are under the scolding of teachers and parents. They generally suffer from huge learning pressure, psychological anxiety, and even develop into psychological problems. Among them, the biggest problem exists in children. And the most fundamental problem is not self-confidence, energy consumption in anxiety. So how to improve children's self-confidence?
From the perspective of Malos’ needs, children nowadays have no worries about food and clothing, and basically have no problems with their physical needs and safety needs, but they are prone to fail to effectively meet their higher-level social needs, respect needs, and self-needs. The lack of a sense of accomplishment leads to lack of self-confidence, low sense of value, and inability to find the meaning of learning and even the meaning of life.
The level of needs of the Malos
“ A person needs at least 2000 affirmations to become a self-esteem and self-confident person .”
in the family therapy of human psychologist Satya In the system theory, there is an "iceberg metaphor" that has a strong explanatory power for people's psychological, emotional, cognitive and behavioral responses.
The self and longing needs that exist deep in people's hearts are "eager to be understood, loved, respected, trusted, and recognized".
In 2008, with the spread of Harvard University's happiness class in China, " positive psychology " (positive phscology) became increasingly popular in China.Positive psychology (or positive psychology) is a huge transformation of traditional psychological thinking.
Psychologists have realized that the goal of psychology in the past is to "cure the disease"-assuming normal people are "0", psychology is to study how to correct negative numbers to "0". But the father of positive psychology assumes that everyone is a positive number of different degrees. wants to study how to increase people from this positive number to a larger positive number, so that every normal person can be happy.
Positive psychology has done a lot of research on the code of happiness. Among them is a empirical study published through the book "The Power of Positive Emotions": "Every 3 positive emotions offset 1 negative emotion. "The so-called positive emotions include happiness, joy, hope, gratitude, excitement, self-confidence, comfort, appreciation, etc., and negative emotions include sadness, disappointment, hatred, disgust, inferiority, entanglement, depression, and pressure. Positive emotions can offset various negative emotions such as stress, depression, tension, etc. The more positive emotions, the more confident people will be.
In addition, resilience psychology also proposes that a person’s resilience (that is, the ability to quickly recover from a blow) is related to three factors: a sense of belonging, a sense of efficacy and Optimism. The sense of belonging represents whether there are peers and family members to support him, the sense of efficacy represents whether the person has the ability to do things, and the sense of optimism represents whether the person is confident in the future.
In real life, many parents have not studied, and they tend to scold and attack their children from instinct and traditional habits.This will bring serious psychological problems to adolescent children, especially the existing only child who has nowhere to relieve their psychological pressure, and is more likely to indulge in mobile games to vent, and gradually escape from reality and bring psychological depression and other problems.
One of the simplest and most effective ways to improve children's self-confidence is to look for an advantage or progress of the child every day, and positively affirm the advantages and progress of each child. Over time, the child's self-confidence will blossom and rejuvenate.
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