There is a kind of excellent children called "others' children", and there is a kind of "bear children" who are all their own. In a society where the pressure of competition is so high, children’s education is getting more and more attention, and it is also a hot topic at the moment.
The bear children caused parents to yell and yell all day long. The educational methods of parents who hope their children become dragons and hope daughters become phoenix also make many children lose their happiness, their innocence, and become more and more silent and rebellious. What is the reason? Next, let us reveal the secret together!
Everyone knows that our human brain is like a walnut. Three different villains live in this walnut shape.
The first one: called crawling brain , also known as primitive brain. The crawling brain is located in the innermost layer of the brain and is the oldest layer of the brain. This is the brain structure shared by us and other animals. Whether it is the oldest reptile on the planet or humans who walk upright, they all have crawling brains. The crawling brain controls the body's muscles, balance, breathing, heartbeat and other automatic functions.
When we need to react quickly, the crawling brain is very useful. The function and talent of the crawling brain allow us to quickly respond to stimuli. When our life or body is in danger, this reaction speed is very fast, sometimes even faster than consciousness. For example, when you reach out to the stove, before your consciousness finds that the stove is hot, the crawling brain has instructed you to quickly withdraw your hand.
What are the instinctive reactions of the crawling brain when it encounters danger?
There are many examples of this in life. For example, as a parent yelling at the child, the child’s crawling brain will quickly activate at this time, and immediately freeze there and say nothing, but the more you do this, you may often get more angry. What's the matter with this kid? In fact, this time is the child's crawling brain protection function, but he has not consciously ignored your anger!
Understand this, hurry up and stop yelling at your children!
Second: emotional brain
emotional brain,Wrapped on the outside of the crawling brain, it is called " limbic system " in terms of body structure. The crawling brain and the emotional brain have been working together for a long time, and they have developed to the extent that they can work closely together. The two jointly connect physical consciousness and emotional consciousness, providing active memory and present consciousness. The emotional brain combines what has been learned in the past with what is experienced in the present, but it does not think of future and long-term results.
One of the characteristics of the emotional brain is that the way it reflects on memory is from the inside out. In other words, it will put all the memory into it, as if those things are repeating itself. When you throw into a certain memory, you step into a certain moment in the past, re-experiencing the feeling at that time, and re-experiencing the event, just like the past repeats itself.
The second characteristic of the emotional brain is that it likes to keep things as they are. When you feel resistance to change, it is the emotional brain that controls your thoughts.
The third characteristic of the emotional brain is that the way it considers problems is "yes" or "no", "right" or "wrong", "this" or "that", and there is no gray zone or shadow zone. Black is black, white is white, and there is no gray zone between black and white. When people think in fear, you can easily observe the black and white response of the emotional brain.
The emotional brain is mainly auditory. It is very sensitive to the tone of voice. I don’t know if you find that even a baby who can’t speak yet can judge what should be done and what should not be done from the tone of his parents’ speech do what. When the emotional brain receives negative stimuli related to voice and intonation, such as distrust, look down, and blame, it will produce unpleasantness, fear, depression, and rejection. Roaring is the voice tone that most easily stimulates negative emotions, while ranting stimulates responses in stressful situations.
The third one is the visual brain.
is the advanced brain or rational brain we are talking about. The cerebral cortex on the left controls the right side of the body, and the cerebral cortex on the right controls the left side of the body. right brain more determines a person’s sense of space, abstract thinking, musicality and artistry,The left brain controls more people's linear logic, rational thinking and speech ability.
The working principle of the three brains is that when the current two brains are satisfied, the visual brain functions will be activated.
Communicate with the child, pay attention to the pronunciation and intonation, use encouraging language, let him give full play to the role of the visual brain in a relatively safe state, in order to make learning more effective.
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