More than ten years ago, my parents-in-law lived with us and helped take care of the children. For a while, my father-in-law said that occasionally I felt uncomfortable in my head because there were no other symptoms. It was nothing to go to the hospital in County. Several children thought it might be because of hypertension and (the father-in-law's family had hereditary hypertension), so they didn't take it seriously.
Once, the child went to a big city in another place to do business, so he temporarily decided to take his father-in-law there, saying that he would do a check-up. As soon as he went to the examination, the doctor immediately stated that his father-in-law had a brain tumor, and it was a malignant tumor. Even if he had surgery to remove it, he would have been cut like a leek and grew even if he had not removed it. If he did not live long. The doctor advises taking my father-in-law out for a trip, enjoying life, and not having surgery.
Several children discussed for a long time, but felt that they could not even accept the treatment emotionally, so they decided to take the surgery. Before the operation, my father-in-law had no other problems except for the occasional discomfort in his head. He could eat, sleep, buy vegetables and pick up babies. After the operation, half of his body could no longer move and he could not speak. He could not accept it himself. He was very resistant and even refused to be discharged from the hospital and went home.
After returning home, my father-in-law either lie on the bed or sits in a wheelchair every day. He cannot say that he cannot walk, and only one side of his hands and feet can move in consciously. As soon as relatives and friends come to visit, their father-in-law will burst into tears. Less than a year later, the tumor grew again. It turned out that the surgical removal part of the head was obviously bulging, and the nerves should have been oppressed. My father-in-law's mental state was getting worse day by day, his eyes became increasingly dull and his mind became increasingly confused.
During this period, in addition to taking care of her mother-in-law, several sons had to take turns to take care of her. They also hired several male nannies to help them turn over with their arms around. The father-in-law had bedsores for a long time, and the tumor on his head grew again. The scalp in the surgical area was bulging outward. Finally, he stayed in the county hospital for a long time until he left the west, which took less than two years. It can be said that he was very distressed.
If you make another choice, the children will probably have a higher chance of choosing surgery. The elderly have an incurable disease. Should they treat it or give up? This is really a tormenting problem.
