Children are the hope for the development of the motherland, and the healthy growth of children has increasingly attracted widespread attention from adults, especially parents. Children's mental health growth has also received more and more attention from ordinary people.
Children’s psychological abuse has always been ignored by Chinese parents. Although society has progressed, many parents now do not beat or scold their children, but they neglect their children’s education because they are busy with work. Or some parents respond to their children’s requests because they blame themselves for not being able to accompany their children. In fact, this is also a kind of psychological abuse.
This is psychological abuse caused by parents not paying attention to the cultivation of their children. It will definitely have a serious negative impact on children in their adolescence and adulthood.
Since the mid-1980s, primary and secondary schools in my country have successively launched mental health education courses, incorporating mental health issues into work plans, and initiated theoretical and practical research on mental health education.
looks at the development of mental health education in my country from a macro perspective, and carefully observes the methods and operations of mental health education in primary and secondary schools in my country.
It can be seen that although these models have achieved good results in improving the psychological quality of primary and secondary school students and promoting the healthy mental growth of children, the problem of psychological abuse of children has not received enough attention. This huge loophole hinders the healthy development of children's mental health.
Studying children's psychological abuse and its impact can not only enrich and improve the theory of children's mental health development, but also timely detect children who have been psychologically abused, and help children move towards the path of healthy physical and mental development in a timely manner.
By studying the current situation of children being psychologically abused and its impact on children's growth, it can sound the alarm for parents and remind them to pay attention to the importance of mental health growth. At the same time, it can make parents clear what kind of education will cause children to be psychologically abused, and provide theoretical guidance for children's mental health development.
This is not only the need for children's psychological development theory and children's mental health practice, but also an important process for the country to pay attention to the mental health of children in schools.
Childhood abuse affects social cognitive development more than general cognitive development. Social cognition has a wide range of objects, including cognition of other people's expressions, cognition of other people's personalities, and cognition of relationships between people.
With the in-depth research on children’s social cognitive development, domestic research has found that abused children are more likely to make hostile attributions when processing ambiguous and irritating information. At the same time, when choosing response strategies, more than 80% of children are more willing to choose prosocial strategies in authoritative situations.
Children's decoding bias and attribution bias in information processing are related to their cognitive control functions. Children who have been psychologically abused have shown weakened cognitive control functions in many experiments.
Abused children often lack efficacy when processing irrelevant aggressive information, that is, they cannot suppress their attention to irrelevant information, and the characteristics of their aggressive fantasies make it difficult to control their attention toward aggressive stimuli.
research takes social cognition as the entry point to study the relationship between children's psychological abuse and children's social cognition. The research methods used in previous studies were relatively single, focusing on the impact on adulthood and lacking attention on childhood.
Therefore, the study used methods such as situational experiments and implicit tests to study the development trajectory of social cognition of children who were psychologically abused in childhood from both the conscious and unconscious levels. It enriches the theoretical and practical research on psychological abuse. The
study used a combination of questionnaire method and experimental methods to study the psychological abuse of children in seventh to eighth grade. First, the distribution of psychological abuse among 835 children in grades four to eight was investigated using the Child Psychological Abuse Scale.
Secondly, a three-group inter-subject experimental design was used to study the social cognition of 60 children in seventh to eighth grades, measuring social perception, attribution style and social attitude.
The incidence of psychologically abused children in eighth and seventh grades is higher than that in other grades, and the incidence of children who have not been psychologically abused at all is lower than that in other grades. Among them, the seventh grade has the highest incidence rate, accounting for more than half.
Seventh grade is the first year for children to leave primary school and enter middle school. Children need to adapt to the environment again, and learning tasks suddenly become heavier. Make-up classes fill up all the children's time. Some parents even accompany their children to make-up lessons all day long, thinking that this is the best for their children, and shuttle between make-up classes every day.
Sometimes there is no time to eat, and children’s minds do not get any rest. They will yearn for and miss primary school life.
The seventh grade is also a critical period when children's physical and mental states begin to undergo some changes. Self-awareness begins to develop rapidly, which promotes the rapid development of their independent awareness. This contradiction of wanting to solve things independently but being unable to do so is the pain experienced at this age.
Due to the external environment and one's own state, the most serious psychological abuse occurs at this age, and it can be reported honestly. What we know as adolescence is the second grade of junior high school, that is, the eighth grade. Children begin to have strong hostility towards everything around them, especially teachers.
Therefore, although many people do not answer the questionnaire very seriously, the incidence rate of psychological abuse is still higher than 40%, and the children who show negative psychological abuse are also the lowest among the five grades, which is a very representative grade.
Psychological abuse is also a problem caused by behaviors that need to be accumulated over a long period of time. The older the child, the more obvious the impact on the child. Therefore, in Study 2, this study chose the eighth grade and the seventh grade to measure social cognition.
Types of abuse occurred differently at each grade level, but overall, intimidation was the most frequent type of abuse and derogatory as the least frequent type.
Except for sixth grade and fifth grade, the other grades have the highest incidence rate of intimidation. The highest incidence rate in sixth grade is neglect, and the highest incidence rate in fifth grade is connivance. In our daily lives, we often see parents yelling at their children.
Or threatening words such as saying to children that you are not allowed to finish eating today, some parents will even scold their children in front of guests. These behaviors are common education methods for Chinese parents, but they are incorrect educational behaviors.
There are also many parents who are busy at work. As parents, they have to cook and maintain housework as soon as they get home. They think that they have provided their children with physiological needs, fed and clothed them, and their parental responsibilities have been completed. However, they ignore that children are also human beings, and they also have thoughts and psychological activities, and they need the company of their parents.
Some parents even think that their children's mental state is not easily affected at all, so there is no need to pay attention at all, and they dismiss the term psychological abuse, but facts have proven that psychological abuse does exist.
Neglect is the most psychological abuse that parents give to their children. Children cry every time behind their parents, begging their parents to look back at themselves and pay more attention to themselves. Parents may also have had this kind of psychological state when they were young. I hope this research can cause parents to put themselves in their children's perspective and think more about their children.
Psychologically abused children do not usually experience just one type of abuse; abuse often occurs in combinations. Every parent doesn’t have just one bad habit, and there isn’t just one type of psychological abuse for their children.
In fact, every parent who criticizes his or her children in front of others does not care about the idea that their children have a psychological state and need parental care. At the same time, they will ignore their children's thoughts and ignore the behavior of caring for their children.
For example, during an observation in a kindergarten, I found that a child showed the day's art and craft results to the parents who picked her up. However, the parents were very disgusted and did not even look at it. Tears immediately appeared in the children's eyes.
It can be seen that psychological abuse does exist, and often does not appear in just one form.But the most frequent combination in this study was intimidation and neglect. It can be seen that there are still certain differences between Chinese-style parent education and foreign countries.
While Chinese parents intimidate their children, they will ignore their children's needs. However, if foreign parents often preach to their children, it means that the parents value their children, and this kind of psychological abuse of neglect will not occur.
There were no significant differences in gender among psychologically abused children. Before this study, researchers had always believed that women were more severely abused than men, but the results of the study proved that there was no significant difference in the occurrence of psychological abuse between men and women. Even boys scored higher than girls in all types of psychological abuse.
This result shows that boys may be more fragile and sensitive psychologically than girls. They will not be more careless or care less about their parents' behavior just because they are men. Therefore, parents should not distinguish gender differences when treating their children, but should treat them equally and treat them carefully.
There is a significant difference in the scores between the positive group and the negative group of psychological abuse. The study found that the scores of the psychological abuse positive group were significantly higher than the scores of the psychological abuse negative group in various types of psychological abuse.
At the same time, the study also found that the number of people in the negative group of psychological abuse was also lower than that in the positive group. The scores of psychologically abused children are significantly higher than those of non-psychologically abused children, which shows that most children have realized that they are in an abusive environment and have even begun to resist this environment and conflict with their parents, resulting in family conflicts.
The number of children in the psychological abuse negative group is very small, which shows that there are fewer and fewer children who have not been psychologically abused, and the behavior of parents will have more or less negative effects on their children.
In particular, many parents quarrel or even fight in front of their children, which puts a lot of psychological burden on the children. They think that they are the cause of their parents' quarrels. The self-blame mentality causes them pain and has a great impact on their future lives.
