In our study and life, we will more or less have negative emotions such as depression and depression towards some small things around us.
Human beings are emotional advanced animals, all with joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness. But if these negative emotions are suppressed, the problem will not be solved. Unexpressed bad emotions for a long time will cause people to form strong psychological pressure, leading to psychological diseases such as depression and anxiety.
In the face of negative emotions, we can vent our emotions in a reasonable way. However, many people do not know how to deal with emotions in specific situations.
venting emotions often has an attacking meaning
When we use venting to describe the current state, our emotions often have reached an unbearable level.
When emotions become venting behavior, they usually have an aggression. Either attack yourself inward or attack others outward.
The ways to attack yourself include: constantly belittle yourself, hurt your body, and eating and drinking can make your body bear excessive burden. The ways to attack others include: roaring at others, throwing things in front of your family, and beating and scolding others.
No matter which method, it will only bring you a moment of refreshment. After that, we will enter a state of guilt, regret and self-blame, and the emotions we originally thought could be relieved will come back soon.
holds up emotions, and is not healthy
When an individual is in a state of depression, more emotions will gather inside, and these emotions will continue to accumulate, eventually forming two situations:
One is to attack inward, which often eventually evolves into physical and mental illnesses.
One type is that I can't hold it in, I'm so crazy that the jar that is holding it in my emotions is broken and exploded. Both situations:
have great lethality and are easy to cause "internal injury". From this point of view, whether we hold it in, or vent it, we will not let our hearts be free.
How to face negative emotions?
admits that you are in the mood, take responsibility for the emotions, face it, look at it, but not be caught by it. It can be decomposed into several steps:
. When emotions come, be an observer
When emotions come, don't reject it and experience the perception and feelings it brings to you; don't be swallowed and controlled by it, and keep the distance from emotions.
Don’t rush to drive it away, don’t suppress it, don’t act like it doesn’t exist, because this is all a confrontation against emotions. And confrontation never brings real peace.
When you allow the emotion to be there, look at it, cooperate with it instead of fighting, or even enjoy it as much as possible, it will change instead.
. Understand why emotions occur
You can ask yourself: What stimulates these emotions? What a bad thing happened? What am I afraid of? What makes me fear or angry?
If you don’t understand yourself deeply and just want to solve your emotions as soon as possible, you will often be controlled by your emotions in the end. At this time, the brain will give you a lot of negative hints: You are too bad, you are always not liked or respected, you are useless...
But if you are willing to explore yourself deeper, you will be able to see more aspects more clearly, change angles to untie your thinking and relieve your emotions.
For example, if you make a request to someone else, the other party rejects you. At this time, you feel lost and think that it is because the other person doesn’t like you that he will reject you.
Perhaps being rejected actually touches your deep fear: you are afraid of not being liked. When you realize the feelings and thoughts deep in your heart at this time, your attention will be focused on yourself. Knowing what causes changes in your emotions, you can better regulate your emotions.
so that you won’t expect others to solve your fear, because you know that this fear is your own and has nothing to do with others. Once you understand these, you have a choice.
3. Accept your own emotions
When you experience, see and understand the emotions of anger, fear, and hurt one by one, you are their masters.
But if you deny, reject, fight, they will stay inside your body in a stronger way, creating more pain.
When emotions come, say "yes" to emotions: Yes, I admit that anger, fear, and injury are all part of me. I decided to take responsibility for them.
Don’t get lost in the reason for the emotions, just accept the facts.
After doing this, you will find: Sometimes anger will become vitality, sadness will become beautiful poems, and fear will become your motivation to run hard.
When emotions are accepted and accommodated by you, they will flow naturally, going to where they should go in a relatively gentle way.
So let emotions flow, it not only desires freedom, but also proof of our lives.
Methods to vent pessimistic emotions
. Conflict with others
Psychologists believe that conflicting with others can maintain mental health. Of course, the person you choose to talk to must be a person with a positive attitude, an optimistic and full of wisdom. When you feel depressed and depressed, you can choose to express your feelings. The person you confides can be your friends, colleagues, or relatives. After the negative emotions are vented, the spirit will be relaxed. The injustice in your heart will gradually disappear.
.Cry
People can choose a suitable place to cry loudly in the face of sudden disasters, mental and physical blows. This is an active and effective way to relieve tension, troubles, depression, and pain.
3. Record emotions diary
Record your emotions as accurately and meticulously as possible. The more detailed the emotions you describe, the more precise your understanding of your current state. And this can help you calm down.
4. Quick walk
We all know that exercise is a good way to vent emotions. It will cause the human body to endocrine hormone endorphin , which is a natural emotional booster that can enhance optimism and satisfaction. During exercise, walking quickly is the most convenient way. This is especially suitable for people who are prone to anxiety.
5. Mindfulness Meditation
Stay aware of the current things, but do not make any judgments. Then choose a comfortable position to sit, keep your waist and back straight, focus your attention on your breathing, and feel the changes in your abdomen when you breathe. Once you focus on your breathing a few rounds, your rising negative emotions can be quickly relieved, and although they still exist, it is no longer so necessary to be released, but is relieved.
6. Beat the safe items
Beat the pillow, ball, sandbag, etc. You will find how happy you feel when you are exhausted.
7. Gao Song method
Singing especially Gao Song is not only to please the body and mind, it can also eliminate tension and relieve bad emotions.
Psychological tips
People should not only have feelings, but also have rationality. If you lose your mind, your feelings will become a wild horse that will break away from reins. When we are in a negative mood and cannot extricate ourselves, we cannot suppress it, but should find a way to vent our vent in time so that we can unload our burdens in time and continue to live.
