Human life is the product of the combination of causes and conditions, that is, the aggregation of various conditions. This aggregation is dynamic, that is, to ensure the survival of life, the supply of various elements and conditions required for life must be ensured, that is, to meet various physiological and psychological needs. Once these needs are not met, then those with mild life will be troubled and painful, and those with severe life will become sick and die.
Physiological needs are eating, drinking, defecation, urination, and sleeping, and psychological needs are what is generally called the need for security, acceptance and recognition and love.
Therefore, all psychological diseases are essentially not satisfied by psychological needs, and the same is true for depression , but other psychological diseases, such as anxiety, phobia, obsessive-compulsive disorder , social phobia, etc., are all psychological needs that are not satisfied for a long time, causing the individual to be in a stress state. Depression is that the individual is in a stress state for a long time, and the physical and mental energy is consumed a lot but cannot be supplemented, thus putting the individual in a state of low energy or even energy exhaustion. We can see from the clinical symptoms of depression that the entire energy is very low.
For example, many patients with depression lack security, lack of love or inferiority. The key is why psychological needs are not met? One very important reason is that the way individuals meet their needs is ineffective. Let’s give a case of depression caused by inferiority complex.
A man suffered from depression after attending a class reunion. Before he went to the class reunion, he thought he should have done better than his classmates, but when he went there, he found that all the classmates were doing well. Civil servants and businessmen seemed to be better than him. He felt that he was deeply hit and was very disappointed. After returning that day, he had a severe cold and became depressed since then.
This is depression caused by inferiority, because he builds his sense of value on "better than others", which is actually relying on external recognition. However, as an adult, any dependence is unreliable, and even completely unfeasible, because children depend on their own because there is a parent, and adults must rely on themselves, because no one can make you rely on. Even if there is, it is impermanent, and it is easy to change and is unreliable. However, this man is still relying on external recognition and has not learned to recognize himself. Therefore, when others are stronger than him and no one recognizes him, he feels very inferior and begins to deny himself, and thus falls into depression.
This situation is a kind of persistence, that is, the way to satisfy the needs. This man is still persistent in relying on others and the outside world to meet the needs. This is an invalid behavior. Of course, he will be so persistent, because when his life development is in the dependent stage, his nurturing does not accept and recognize him unconditionally, but often denies him, especially often comparing him with other people's children, which leads to his need for "acceptance and recognition" not being met, so psychological development stays in the dependent stage and forms persistence.
So, if this man wants to get out of depression, he must break the persistence of "dependence" satisfaction method, no longer compare with others, but accept and recognize himself. In this way, the need for "acceptance and recognition" will be satisfied, and the depression will naturally disappear.
