or not? Do it or not?
should I think? Do you want to do it?
This is a circle that can never be avoided for neurosis, especially obsessive-compulsive disorder and depression .
The most fatal thing is that once the amygdala is activated, it will continue to call the alarm. As soon as the fear comes, everything "tolerates pain" and "tolerates it naturally" are thrown behind.
What is important is that these fears and burning feelings are real, that is, the feeling of being uncomfortable and painful because of them is real, it just makes you feel real, but it is not real, that's all. Just like frozen food, thawing-freezing-thawing-freezing... It has changed a lot after tossing many times. The pain of obsessive-compulsive disorder and depression that we are suffering now has been thawed many times, it has changed its quality, and it has been more painful.
If you are also struggling on the road of self-healing obsessive-compulsive disorder and depression, Remember these 3 sentences below, and you are not far from completely getting out of the predicament!
1. Are the symptoms coming? When encountering it, the most anxious thing to relieve
is nothing more than when the symptoms come.
For example, I have a habit of riding on the right escalator. If I am forced to sit on the left, I will ride on the left while "acting a movie" in my heart: Huh? Today is different. Will God arrange something else for me? There is even a hint of worry... The biggest difference between me and obsessive-compulsive disorder is that I just keep curious about it, but I am not deceived! If you repeatedly think about whether you should sit or not, and are repeatedly upset because of sitting, and worry about being magnified from 0.1 to 99, how can you not feel uncomfortable?
Li Hongfu The book "Emotional Self-Rescue" by Teacher Li Hongfu emphasizes that anything you encounter or experience is natural, there are no symptoms in this world itself, they are only subjectively developed, and the more you recognize it, the more it is.
People who have been "sucked in" forced depression for a long time will have more suspicious feelings. If something happens in life and work, especially those who cannot understand or understand, they will unconsciously be linked to obsessive-compulsive disorder. As long as they encounter difficulties or poor mood, they will all blame the symptoms. In fact, difficulties and worries are something that every normal person will definitely encounter, just like three meals in the morning, noon and evening. Therefore, friends with obsessive-compulsive disorder must first recognize this and do not put everything on the symptoms. This will only strengthen and consolidate the symptoms.
is a normal thing, and is not accepted by perfectionism, and is kidnapped into symptoms. Since the symptoms are all fake, I don’t need to take them seriously, especially for friends who are eager to recover. Let your heart slow down and hold the mentality of delaying the matter. The mindset is no longer anxious to react and the twisting force is reduced at this moment.
2. Are the symptoms coming again? If you encounter it repeatedly, you should accept it slowly and slowly. It works very well at the beginning; if you don’t fight, you will feel less uncomfortable!
However, it always feels like a shadow, even if there are no obsessive-compulsive symptoms in the previous second, and then think of this, it will definitely appear in the next second.
You must be clear: during healing, the recurrence and even worsening of the symptoms are normal.
First step, recurrence of symptoms. When you keep accepting and let it go, you may realize more distracting thoughts, and the corresponding anxiety and tension are more than usual. You may also have physical reactions that you have never had before. It is inevitable that you are not firm and have little concentration. The panic at this time is not a compass, but a "wrong pointer", which specifically picks out the places you pay attention to and makes you worry and anxious.
is like a brake, and the inertia is still there, and the car will slip for a while. The inertia of the symptoms stops "obeying", maintains an allowable attitude, and does not react to it. Its rebound will make you more uncomfortable. If you slow down and go on firmly, this will pass.
Step 2, the symptoms are repeated over and over again. When you step over the "mountain" above and can withstand it, you have made a big step ahead! At the same time, you should also be wary of the "symptom resistance" - it is unwilling to leave and does not want to disappear, which is often manifested in the middle and late stages of healing. You may feel that you have fallen to the bottom, or you may be how to accept it and how to live and work with the symptoms. The pain day by day is still, even more painful, and it is too difficult to bear.
with the mentality of "just be finished after passing" and walk slowly. There is no need to dig into how to completely disappear the symptoms. When you are thinking about these, you are potentially paying attention to and fighting them. Hold on and ignore it! After every storm, what we ushers in will be a transformation, and healing will be a transformation again and again!
3. Are the symptoms still there? When you meet it, you have to do it
If a person says he is hungry and you give him steamed buns but don’t eat them, is there any way you can prevent him from hungry?
If something happens or an idea comes, you want to think it clearly and understand it. In the end, you can only "think in". For example, if you know, let it go, you understand, accept it, and allow it clearly. No matter how profound you understand or thoroughly you understand it, it is useless, because these are just a synonym and a pointer to guide your actions. You have to move and do it!
Only in action can one understand that “this will change” at the physical and mental level. When dealing with obsessive-compulsive disorder, you need to let go of your habit of thinking and solving problems through thinking, and do what you are about to do, and the symptoms will disappear little by little as you do things.
For friends with severe obsessive-compulsive disorder, their original intentions are easily shaken. recommends reading "Surprising Obsessive-compulsive disorder". The method of stopping in the book is also practiced in this way to make sure that is clear in every thought, breaking down compulsion bit by bit, and doing what you should do. Focus on your heart every moment, is not twisted or competes, and the force will naturally no longer exist!
