At a time when is being rolled into , many people are easily unhappy and deny themselves.
Psychologically speaking, there are no real negative emotions, only ununderstood inner needs.
Korean author Jung Hye-shin has a book "You Are Right", which was selected as the best book of the year by nine major cities in South Korea. The author believes that all feelings are valid, and when you realize this, you can take care of yourself and others.
You are right, be a powerful and needed person, and warm people's hearts with three sentences.
The sister next door Postpartum depression , living in pain every day, one day she couldn't bear it anymore, so she went for a psychological consultation, and felt good when she came back, until she fell in love with psychology, and waited for the child 2 When she was 2 years old, she also passed the psychological counselor qualification certificate .
Some people say that children need encouragement. In fact, the adult world needs encouragement even more.
The author of the book "You Are Right" has more than 30 years of experience in psychological counseling. Face-to-face communication with more than 10,000 psychological counselors made her understand a truth. Psychotherapists have different starting points, and the help they can provide to counselors is also different. The author of
mentioned in the book that everyone has trauma. No matter how healthy a person is, it is impossible to stay healthy 24 hours a day; even a person with neurasthenia is not in a state of neurasthenia 24 hours a day.
For patients with mental illness who need treatment, only those who understand the nature of the patient and the nature of the trauma that caused him, and then take corresponding treatment measures, are therapists.
Not everyone who holds a medical certificate can be called a therapist.
Regarding psychology, the author mentioned a point of view that applies to psychology.
applies psychology just like applying technology, and it is an effective psychological solution to psychological counselors.
applies to psychology and is a daily psychology method that everyone can master based on psychological knowledge. The author gives an example.
We don’t have chef certificate , does it mean we can’t cook? of course not.
So, if you master a little knowledge of psychology, even if you encounter some problems in life, you can solve them by yourself. Not all psychological problems require the guidance of professional psychological counselors.
In life, when we feel depressed, we will also chat with friends. Some friends are particularly good at explaining things. After communicating with them, the things that originally felt very sad disappeared in the blink of an eye.
The core of applicable psychology is empathy . If you learn to empathize, or if you have a friend who can empathize, it is estimated that a lot of unhappiness in life will be easily cured.
The main content of the book "You Are Right" is that the author also hopes that everyone can find empathy with themselves.
Empathy, and boundaries. Empathy has a magical effect. When you stand in the other person's perspective and consider the other person's problems, you can understand any of the other person's actions and choices.
psychotherapist and founder of " Family System Arrangement " Hellinger has a paragraph that the author particularly agrees with.
I allow others to be what they are
I allow them to have such thoughts
Judge me like this and treat me like this
Because I know
He is like this
Where he is, he is right.
The author has a friend who is open-minded and handles social relationships very well. The author once asked her why, and she said that if you look at everyone as a basic human being, then everything he does can be understood. But if you label some people as relationships, problems can easily arise.
Now that I think about it, this understanding is consistent with the advice of a psychology master.
"You are always right" because all your choices have reasons.
If I were in your role, I would think that all your choices are right. If I am willing to understand the reasons behind all your choices, then I will understand that you just made a choice.
People are social animals and have the need to socialize.They also need to be affirmed and accepted socially. Of course, we must also learn to accept and affirm ourselves.
A person with a strong heart, you rarely see him lose control of his emotions, because he allows everything to happen and accepts everything to happen. The only difference between
and
0 is the way it handles things after they happen.
The book "You Are Right" is not so much a psychology book as it is a communication book. Communication is two-way, personal inward and personal outward.
Inwardly, it is the dialogue between oneself and oneself, and outwardly, it is the dialogue between oneself and the world.
No matter what kind of conversation it is, don’t forget that you are always right. Believe in yourself and take control of your happy life.
