In the field of psychology, when talking about emotional management and internal friction, experts often use "one foot on the accelerator and one foot on the brake" to describe the conflict between people's inner activities and the actions they want to do. In the past, I always f

In the field of psychology, when talking about emotional management and internal friction, experts often use the phrase "one foot on the accelerator and one foot on the brake" to describe the conflict between people's inner activities and the actions they want to do.

Before, I always felt that I understood it and knew exactly what kind of mentality this was. But I discovered yesterday that I never really understood what kind of state it was.

Just like "I don't know the true face of Mount Lu, I just live in this mountain." The poet only has such knowledge and vision after jumping out.

Until yesterday, I somehow completely got rid of this "one foot on the accelerator and one foot on the brake" situation.

Every time I stepped on the accelerator before, I was hesitantly stepping on the brakes. It was not fun enough, not free enough, and the feeling of being in charge of myself, the real feeling, was not enough.

When Xiaobao went to bed the night before, he shouted that he was not feeling well. When he got up early, he said that he couldn't get up and was very boring. The younger brother happened to come over, touched the child's head and said that he had a fever and should be taken to the hospital quickly.

I wanted my husband to study and it would be more appropriate for me to take care of the children, so I told my husband.

felt that he needed to talk to the teacher in charge, so I sent a message to tell the two teachers.

In the past, I would think about seeing a doctor for my child, but at the same time I would be unwilling to ask for leave, embarrassed to ask for leave, and struggled to express my difficulties.

took Xiaobao to see a doctor and have a meal, and then she felt much better. I saw a lot of people at the door of the vocational education school, and also a lot of people at the door of the high school. Just contact your colleagues in vocational education and high school colleagues.

Then, Xiaobao said he wanted to go to the park to play for a while. Because while walking, I told him Teacher Yang’s theory, human = pig + study + play. He said that he actually liked playing and wanted to go to the park for a while. Instead of shouting to go home early and play games.

Xiaobao found a strange piece of glass in the park. I thought it had that kind of pattern, because it was a very uniform pattern, but the child said it was broken.

Patterned broken glass

Maybe you also think it is like this. You'll know by looking at the others.

Transparent glass

No pattern

Then the two of us were studying there. Two passers-by, a couple, saw us discussing the glass in a serious manner, and they couldn't help but join in the observation and discussion.

The man said that it was probably not a child who stoned him. Then we parted ways.

Then Xiaobao and I discussed while walking. I was thinking about "The Power of Seeds" in the book I read when I was in school. This should be the result of the power of plants.

It started to rain lightly, so we went to the small pavilion in front. There were two people in the small pavilion, and then they came out. "Do you want to leave?"

I said by the way.

"Push the car inside." The woman said. The woman was pushing the mountain bike, so I extended my hand to help her because the steps were quite high.

The man said, "I covered the tram with a plastic sheet."

Originally, they were sitting on one side, but now Xiaobao and I came up and reached one side, and they both sat on the other side together.

I didn’t even look up, and Xiaobao and I continued our conversation. He was talking about his brother. We talked for a while. Xiaobao was a little tired and lay down with his head on my lap.

At this time, the woman said something, and then I raised my head and saw the two of them. Then, Xiaobao and I talked about many topics.

They are in their sixties. The kids are older and they're retired. I am too busy and anxious to find anything to do, and I don’t even have to worry about my grandson.

I gave them suggestions such as writing, calligraphy, reading, photography, traveling, sports, exercise...

I found that they found it boring because men did not want to go out to meet people or walk into crowds.

The eldest sister said, "He always takes care of himself. He always considers others first. He feels very tired and doesn't want to go out. He lets me exercise but doesn't exercise."

I found that I have become the mediator of Big Brothers and Big Sisters, and I am very good at mediating. Well, let them be more willing to understand each other and make them more willing to change themselves.

is really happy.

The small pavilion in the distance, the place where we met

I told them that if it were me in the past, seeing the two people I met for the first time talking passionately, I would think that this person is incredible, in short Negative review.

But now, I have discovered that only by sincere communication with anyone can we generate power and links, and can we create real creation and meaning in reality.

I told them that I am learning to change for the sake of my children. I also encourage brother, if your child is fine, then change for yourself, so that you won’t have any regrets when you leave.

said too much, and there is no way to record them all in words, leaving only the feeling of stepping on the accelerator, moving forward happily and unimpeded.

Later, Xiaobao wanted to leave, and we contacted each other on WeChat.

In the past, if I saw someone in the pavilion, I would hesitate to go in. Even if it is raining lightly, I would find it awkward to find a place in the pavilion, carefully sit down, and still think about whether I should say hello, and then sit down directly without looking up. Not to mention making two friends who are much older than me.

At that time, I just stepped on the accelerator and the brake.

left the pavilion and just walked onto the small bridge. Two people walked towards them, and they heard cheerful greetings. "Teacher Xiao Yi!"

is actually a partner who practices yoga together.

Walking beside her was a tall, handsome boy, probably her son. He had a camera hanging around his neck, which added to his handsomeness.

She said that she and her son came over and asked him to take some photos of her.

I watched their mother and son walking through the scenery. It was as beautiful as a painting. Just say, "Let me take two pictures of you mother and son first." On a sudden whim, she felt that she could only take photos of her son, and it would be more beautiful if she also took photos of her son.

The happy couple

Then, a sudden idea occurred to me, Xiaobao, to take a photo with them. I feel like my little son has an older brother who is a role model, so it’s good to link to it.

A little boy, a big boy

In the past, I would step on the accelerator and the brake. I envy them in my heart, and also think that my son will be more like his son when he grows up. It is good for my son to have such role models around him.

However, I just said hello and passed by.

I would have missed this beautiful encounter.

It was noon when I got home. After dinner, I immediately continued to participate in training and learning.

At the end, I walked up to the stage and gave a sign language song "We Are a Family" to every family member and every parent of a child. I hope to awaken every parent’s love and mutual responsibility for their children and family members.

Everyone listened and watched carefully. Several family members who came down said that the song made them cry. Before

, I would probably sit down there, thinking about my ideas and practices, which would be good for everyone, and good for training and learning, and I was eager to try them.

But at the same time, I was thinking about whether I would waste everyone's time, whether it would affect the training process, and whether I would be accused of being too naive.

Then, times changed.

Last night, I attended a training review meeting with Mr. Shi.

review is over, it’s time to go to bed. As a result, he was approached by people to eat, drink and play like he did most nights. I went upstairs to spend time with the child while he went to play with his friends.

I was not happy that the children were playing and the children were not cooperating.

I turned around, picked up the car keys and left.

walked to the door of the farm and sat there with the two of them at the barbecue stall.

"You go back and take care of the children while they sleep. I'm going to the city."

Then, he stepped on the accelerator and drove off into the dark night.

Behind him, his friend's voice said, "Oh, alas, alas, don't leave yet."

I knew that he would most likely continue to eat and drink with them, regardless of the children. When I got home, I called him. Sure enough, he didn't even hear a few of my phone calls.

He said he wanted me to go back, he said he was wrong, and he said he should go back and discuss it.

I have had this discussion many times.

This time I just stepped on the accelerator and did not step on the brake.

didn't think about whether the children would be affected, whether his friends would look down on him, or how he would react.

just express yourself truly and stop when you need to put on the brakes to sleep and eat.

At other times, speak and do things according to your own plans and feelings. On the contrary,

has created real creations and brought about real changes with all other people and the world.

Only by stepping out can we clearly see the past.