64, What is social anxiety? How to get rid of social fear?
I am social phobia, I have social phobia, what should I do?
What is social anxiety?
Formal clinical definition of social anxiety (Social Anxiety):
A. Persistent fear of one or more social situations, such as contact with unfamiliar people or being criticized, and fear that one will behave in an embarrassing or humiliating way (or exhibit symptoms of anxiety).
B. Anxiety is triggered immediately upon exposure to a feared situation, which may take the form of a situation-triggered panic attack or a vulnerability to a situation-triggered panic attack.
C. The individual recognizes that the fear is irrational or excessive.
D. Avoiding or enduring fearful situations with extreme anxiety and discomfort.
E． Avoidance, anxious anticipation, or distress caused by fearful situations seriously interferes with an individual's daily life, occupational (academic) performance, social activities, and intimate relationships.
F． The fear, anxiety, or avoidance is persistent, usually lasting 6 months or longer.
G． Fear or avoidance is not a direct physiological effect of drugs, drugs, or other illnesses.
The essence of social anxiety is the fear of judgment and embarrassment.
The illusion about social anxiety!
1, others can tell when I am anxious and will judge me harshly
2, there are right and wrong ways to behave in every social situation
3, I have to work hard to control what others think of me
4, others are harsh about mistakes
Self-doubt caused by social anxiety
1: I am not lovable
2: I am not worthy
3: I cannot stand on my own
4: There is a right way to behave in every situation
What should you do?
1. It is necessary to understand the mind games of social anxiety and see through the lies of social anxiety;
2. Challenge the thinking fallacies and false beliefs that promote social anxiety;
3. Observe what activities you are trying to avoid or tolerate, system Participate in these activities regularly until your anxiety is gone.
If you want to get rid of overemphasis on external evaluation, you can actually solve social anxiety with a simple and easy-to-understand sentence, that is, "It's none of your business, it's none of my business." Although it sounds rough, let's take a closer look to see if this is the truth.
My affairs have nothing to do with others - so it's none of your business.
I don't want to get involved in your affairs - so it's none of my business.
If everyone can adopt this kind of mentality, in fact, a lot of anxiety will be swept away. Be yourself and give others the freedom to be themselves. This is really good.
