Today Shudongjing doesn’t want to popularize the principles of psychology with you, but wants to talk to you about some of Shudongjing’s feelings about learning psychology. Shudongjing has met many netizens, many of whom have certain misunderstandings about psychology. I think th

Today Tree Hole Jing doesn’t want to popularize the principles of psychology with you, but wants to talk to you about some of Shudong Jing ’s feelings about learning psychology .

Shudongjing has met many netizens, many of whom have certain misunderstandings about psychology. I think that by understanding a few knowledge points of psychology, I can solve the troubles I encounter in life and help others change. What's more, some people believe that if you understand psychology, you can master magical powers such as mind reading and other minds.

However, although the ideal is very full, the reality is very skinny.

Proficient use of psychological knowledge can indeed allow us to find more angles when solving problems, but it will not directly produce any miracles.

Proficient applied psychology communication skills can indeed make our interpersonal communication smoother and avoid many unnecessary troubles, but if we want to rely on this communication skills, we simply want to change other people's perceptions. , and then meet our expectations, it is obviously impossible to do so.

If we want to correct other people's perceptions and attitudes towards a certain matter, even if we correctly master the guidance method, it still requires a systematic and long process.

As for those who want to learn how to read minds, Shudongjing suggests that you should just go to sleep, as you can have everything in your dreams. You may ask, since psychology can’t do this, there’s nothing we can do about it. Do we still need to understand psychology?

If you ask Shudongjing, the answer is yes. Since coming into contact with psychology, Shudongjing’s biggest feeling is that through studying psychology, he can re-examine his own strengths and weaknesses and gradually find his correct position. Let the originally slightly impetuous heart become calmer and calmer.

According to incomplete statistics, the average life span of psychologists is usually longer than that of ordinary people. Although, psychology cannot keep us in a good mood 365 days a year. But it can greatly improve our own adjustment ability.

I am happy when good things happen to me. When bad things happen, it’s just sad. Even if you fall into anxiety and depression, you can rely on your own abilities to get out of it as quickly as possible. Both traditional Chinese medicine and modern medicine have shown that emotions play an important role in physical health. Therefore, Shudongjing feels that if psychology is applied to life, it is actually a way to maintain health.

Some time ago, Shudong Jing had a misunderstanding with a friend. When the conflict arose for the first time, Shudong Jing was not thinking about how to solve the problem, but how to prevent the two people's emotions from deteriorating further.

In many cases, it matters who is right and who is wrong. But if we cannot suppress negative emotions and their effects, even if we are ultimately proven right, the results are often not what we want to see. This ability to detect and control problems is one of the feedbacks brought by psychology.

In life, everyone is both a social animal and a unique being. When we communicate with others, we will inevitably have differences in thoughts or habits, even among close relatives. So many people always think about how to change the other person.

In fact, regarding this point, Shudongjing’s experience is that it is always easier to change yourself than to change others. In any relationship, if unpleasant communication often occurs, there must be something wrong with the relationship. Only by breaking this inherent pattern can we usher in a positive turn.

It is worth noting that changing oneself here does not mean catering and tolerance. The correct way to change is to look for the contradictions between the two parties and try to observe them from a more diverse perspective. Think outside the box and find solutions.

The giants in the history of psychology have already paved many roads for us to move forward. And set up lighthouses one after another to illuminate the way forward. Studying psychology is to stand on the shoulders of giants and move forward.

Shudongjing's greatest hope is that everyone can abandon unrealistic fantasies, correct their mentality, aim to help themselves and others, and apply the knowledge they have learned to make their lives more fulfilling.