But there will also be some basic packages that can be used by ordinary people. How to channel emotions, heal trauma, nourish the inner self, and activate wisdom is a systematic knowledge.
First of all, you need to take care of your own emotions. Learn to relax and take care of your feelings. Sometimes you can also adjust your thinking and those irrational beliefs: you don’t have to be perfect all at once, and you don’t have to maintain a perfect state all the time.
Start with emotions and see how nervous you are? If you are so nervous that your face turns red, your heart beats faster, your throat gets stuck, and you cannot speak.
The most appropriate way is to see a psychiatrist. Listen to your doctor's advice. Because psychology believes that a situation occurs, which causes changes in physiological indicators and causes organic disease.
Go see a psychiatrist and take some medicine to relieve the condition. This is very appropriate. Because if you see a psychological counselor, the cost is very high, but it is possible to say goodbye to this state completely and it will be cured.
Being nervous is actually normal. Everyone will be nervous. It is the first time to give a speech, the first time to meet a girlfriend, or the first interview. But some tension will disappear as some scenes change and things disappear.
This part is about the tension that will not go away, it is inexplicable panic. Unable to sit still to the point that it affects daily life and work. It may also be that he had some unpleasant experiences with a certain scene, so he became nervous when encountering this scene. What
needs to do is to understand the cause, evaluate the current situation, and then set up targeted improvement plans. This is a dynamic process.
Understand and accept
If you are average or slightly nervous, you can first understand the reason for your nervousness. An attitude of understanding and acceptance is more conducive to the improvement of a person's condition.
Parents may have different loves because they have different children. I believe that there is no other person in the world who loves more than your own body.
For example, if you are in a bad mood, you will feel uncomfortable. You will feel that the world is gray, your heart will feel throbbing in pain, and your arms and legs will feel sore. Body and mind are together.
If your body is tense, it is most likely because you feel uncomfortable in your heart. In fact, being nervous is good for you. Although nervousness affects making friends, it may make a person live happily in his own world, and may also avoid certain unwanted states...
In my opinion, being nervous is a choice, even being sick is. In essence, people benefit from illness. The body and subconscious make a choice. When we don't see the benefits of the choice, we feel sick and miserable.
Then if you can understand yourself better and see the benefits of this choice made by your subconscious mind. Evaluate carefully and decide whether you are nervous. Then this person has greater freedom.
Sometimes an important reason why people suffer is that they are unwilling to accept it. For example, a mother suffers from her son not going to school and her daughter crying. She thinks her idea is right, but why doesn't the child listen? She accepted her thoughts as truth.
I was thinking at the time, how painful would it be to have my daughter not go to school? Or is her attempt to change her daughter high in pain?
More essentially, this is a power struggle. The mother tried to force her ideas on her daughter, which caused her daughter physical pain and emotional pain, so she fought against her.
The mother couldn't stand her daughter's confrontation, so she mobilized the whole family to suppress her daughter... If this continues, her daughter may use more serious means to resist, such as abusing her body and running away from home.
The subtext is: I can't resist your will, I can leave you. In fact, a better way is to accept the existence of physical pain and emotional pain, go deep into it, feel the pain well, and let it flow freely.
Stress Relief Buffet
Chinese people speak very wisely. When we talk about being reasonable, we must first straighten out our feelings and then reason. Only in this way can it be useful. When the relationship is blocked, any words are in vain and cannot enter the other person's heart.
After sorting out the emotions, let’s talk about psychological counseling. American psychologist Kohut has a standard. He believes that mental health is self-confidence and enthusiasm. Meaning:
When vitality can nourish the self, it is self-confidence; when vitality can nourish the object, it is enthusiasm. Frankly speaking, by this standard, I know too few mental health people.
This is an ideal state, a direction we can always work towards. Although we cannot reach it, we yearn for it. The highest ideal a person can pursue is self-improvement.
Dealing with daily stress and emotions is actually part of this journey. Regarding stress, the method that impressed me most was the emotional buffet taught by Teacher Yue.
To put it simply, it is like the 10 characters of singing opera, using hands, eyes, body and steps, singing, chanting and fighting. Hands are all about doing crafts, writing articles, and doing some hand exercises. For some people, this is a good way to relieve stress.
eyes can see the scenery, watch TV, and watch variety shows. For some people, this is also a way to relieve stress. The body has too much. Yoga, fitness exercises, running, etc. are all very good ways to relieve stress.
The more strategies a person has when dealing with stress, the better. Because when he faces pressure and setbacks, he has more sense of time and space, and is more likely to come out of adversity. Compared with the average person, this type of frustration quotient is higher.
Everyone has their own unique way of relieving stress. The more unique the more valuable it is. Strategy is the aspect of technique, and more importantly, it is to learn a set of mental methods so that you can still be stable and comfortable in the torrent and stormy waves.
The road is long and long, and I will search up and down. May you become the person you want to be and have a life of your own making. Let’s encourage you all.
Some of the opinions come from Wu Zhihong, Yue Xiaodong and Kohut. Thank you for your appreciation, welcome to leave a message for consultation.
