Everyone has certain psychological needs and desires to have a partner by his side. If there is a lack of a partner, some people will be depressed, irritable, and moody. This is caused by unsatisfied needs. Ms. Zhang is an example, so how does she solve her psychological needs?
Ms. Zhang is just 30 years old this year. She graduated from high school and was admitted to undergraduate. The total score is 520 points. She could go to university. Undergraduate fees are more expensive. She can go to college, but she thinks so. There is no difference between a college degree certificate and no college degree certificate. How many college students do not have a job, and how many college students are paid less than ordinary workers. She feels that ability is far more important than academic qualifications. To buy a house is not based on academic qualifications, but ability.
So she went out to work in society with ambition. She had worked as a general worker, a cashier, a waiter, and a temporary worker at the beginning. These jobs are hard, and they are hard work. Basically, she can't learn anything. After only two years, she plans to give up this kind of work.
The second type is a clerical clerk. She has worked as a clerical clerk, but the clerk's salary is too low. Although she sits in the office and looks high, she knows that the salary is not a good job.
Her third choice is to do sales work. At the beginning, she did life insurance , auto insurance, real estate, teachers to improve academic qualifications, etc., but these need contacts, her personality is not lively, and WeChat friends do not Up to five hundred, there are less than one thousand QQ friends.
What's more, to do this requires her to post at least five circles of friends a day, and also send her friends in groups, which is tantamount to harassing others and may be scolded.
After working for a period of time, she felt that she was not competent, so she gave up this type of sales job that requires contacts to make money.
Finally, she decided to work in a company that sells water purifiers. The company's basic salary is 3,000 yuan, full attendance is 400, plus a commission of more than 1,000 can earn 5,000 a month, and only two hundred calls a day. , Regardless of whether the visit is rejected or not, it is counted as the number of calls. In other words, making 200 calls a day is the basic requirement.
She learned about this on the first day of training, and she felt that she could achieve the management with her own efforts. The supervisor's salary is 6,000, and it is enough to dial dozens of phone calls every day. This is her goal.
The other girls were looking for someone, but she didn't look for it. She was slim, 1.68 meters tall, her appearance was also considered a symbol, and she had at least good features. So she has a high vision, she feels that she is beautiful and ambitious, and she can't find a boyfriend casually. She was one of the best in her studies when she was studying, and she has always been an arrogant person.
Many colleagues liked her, but she ignored her. She didn't need to think about knowing that she was not suitable for others. She felt very keen.
Coming out of society to do hard work, clerk, and sales, there are no less than a dozen boys who have liked her, but she didn't like it. In fact, she is not entirely because she doesn't like it, but because her job is unstable. She just wants to make money early, first work stably, and then think about marriage.
For other girls who fall in love prematurely, she only feels that those girls are either worried that they will not be able to marry, or have a certain need for dating or vent their lust, so she can't wait.
She spent more than a year in the company that sells water purifiers, and finally achieved the management level. She is the supervisor and is responsible for the training of a group of about 20 people. She usually produces reports and is responsible for quality inspection recording.
By this time she was twenty-five years old, and her parents repeatedly urged her to find a boyfriend, so she began to discover the handsome guy in her team.
There is a man who is more handsome, usually more elegant, and his ability does not look bad. She has observed this boy for more than three months and found that he is well-rounded and hardworking.
This boy's surname is He. Mr. He is a tall and handsome man, one year older than her. She thinks this boy is just right.
Because this boy has a better performance, she will ask this boy to stay in her free time or after get off work and discuss some business issues with her.
After understanding, she knew that this boy was a dropout of undergraduate,The scores of the college entrance examination were similar to her, she knew a little English, and she would work part-time as a micro business to make money.
Mr. He told her that he can earn thousands of dollars without going out. With this job, tens of thousands a month, his future goal is to earn millions of dollars a year. Ms. Zhang thinks that Mr. He has great ambitions and is a person with potential.
She is determined to be with this man and often asks Mr. He to call her. Mr. He seems to understand her intentions, so he starts to interact with her.
After that, he doesn't need Ms. Zhang to ask him to have a meal, he also automatically has a meal with Ms. Zhang. After get off work, the two often get along with each other and chat on WeChat after returning home.
The two people talked a lot. Talking about it, Mr. He seems to be very eloquent, humorous, and very good at teasing girls. Ms. Zhang thinks he is handsome and very good.
Once, Mr. He asked Ms. Zhang to go to dinner with him, and Ms. Zhang went. This meal is more than two hundred yuan. Mr. He invited him. He also said to go to the movies.
Ms. Zhang thinks that Mr. He is so good. She invited her to a meal and wanted to love her to go to the movies, which made it clear that she meant to be her boyfriend.
She thought for a while, and felt that there was no more suitable candidate than him, although she felt that she had not fully understood Mr. He's virtues, and followed him.
Two people watched a movie about love. This was arranged by Mr. He in advance. He meant to confess to Ms. Zhang.
After watching the movie, Mr. He suggested that Ms. Zhang go to the hotel for one night. Although Ms. Zhang is not a casual woman, she has considered saying that she can’t be so fast, but she feels that she can’t refuse Mr. He because once she refuses, He might be about to lose him, so he followed him.
After the one-night stand of two people, their performance in the company is relatively close. The colleagues in the company clearly know that they are in love. The two of them did not hide, but admitted that they were in love with a smile on their faces.
The two soon moved in together, and they had been in love for half a year and were about to get married.
But before getting married, Ms. Zhang found out that Mr. Ho was a scumbag.Flower heart big radish.
Because one day, she saw Mr. He flirting with another woman and behaved frivolously and intimately. Her face flushed and her heart was angry, but she didn't expose it on the spot, as everything hadn't happened. In order to confirm this, she secretly looked at Mr. He’s cell phone while he was sleeping. The voice and messages were in front of her. She found that her boyfriend had an affair with several girls at the same time. I went to the hotel to open a room.
She was angry with her eyes full of bloodshot eyes. She woke up Mr. He on the spot. She cursed Mr. He as a scumbag and stared at him, saying that she was cheated by him. Who knows that Mr. He has no expression on his face and feels that it is no big deal, this kind of thing pleases me. Ms. Zhang was excited to break up with Mr. He. Mr. He said casually and made an indifferent gesture. He felt that there were too many girls who liked him, and he had no shortage of women.
After Ms. Zhang broke up with Mr. He, she was hurt in her heart, and since then she has a hatred for men.
After the two broke up, Ms. Zhang did not think about finding a boyfriend for a year in a row. At this time, she was getting older and older, and her family urged her to find a boyfriend, but she said, wait Wait, don't worry. No matter how her family, relatives and friends urged her, she is not in a hurry. Her best friend said to her: "My children are in junior high school, but you are not married yet. You don’t plan to get married again at the age of 30 or 40. At that time, it was not you who picked someone else, but someone else picked you. Can you find a satisfactory boyfriend?"
Ms. Zhang ignored other people's statements and opinions. She also knew that one stick can't kill everyone. Some men must be good men, but you can't worry.
She wants to perfect herself in another way. After all, her life is so long and she is not thirty years old.
She solves her psychological needs in the following ways:
1. She usually read a lot of books, she has read many real examples of women being deceived and emotionally injured.She feels that Tianya has a friend, and she enlightens herself in her mind, by diverting her attention, listening to songs, watching short videos, and sometimes watching some classic TV shows. She also likes to dance, she participated in a dance training class.
2. Traveling, a trip that just walks away. She thought about it when she was in high school, and she made a lot of money in the company. She went to the Forbidden City in Beijing, the Great Wall of China, and the West Lake. Sometimes she goes with her best friend, and sometimes she goes alone. She feels that being alone is a kind of enjoyment. When there is no one to interact with, she is full of inner joy.
3. Improve economic ability
She learned to make short videos because she has learned dance, Latin dance , she knows some jazz dance, street dance, and ballet, plus she often sings, which makes her versatile. She uses her spare time to make money from the media, and her sideline income is even more than that of her main business. She has been wondering whether to quit her job or not.
4. Take care of your skin and beautify well
Although Ms. Zhang is almost 30 years old, she seems to be less than 25 years old. This is because she knows how to beautify and buys a lot of skin care products. , Also apply a mask. Every time she put on the mask, she lay on the bed, meditating deeply, relaxing and feeling that it's great to be alone. She feels that her face is so high that she is not afraid that there will be no Prince Charming.
In the past few years, her personality has become much brighter and her horizons have broadened. Many people may think that single people are a little inferior. In fact, they have their own full spiritual world and have been enjoying the joy of being alone.
She is more and more confident and more radiant. I believe that in the near future, she will definitely let go of her past emotional entanglements, because time is constantly healing her heart and making her more passionate about life and unwilling to let herself down. I believe she will meet a good partner as hers, and be happy for a lifetime. Even if she is really single for a lifetime, it is another unique happiness to live the way she likes.
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