Do your parents hide their emotions? Did you say "It's the same whether you come back for the Mid-Autumn Festival", and actually learned that after you go home, the "Manchu Feast" that you can only serve during the Chinese New Year is on the table? Recently, the topic "How deep are the emotions of parents hidden" has aroused the resonance of the majority of netizens, and soon rushed to the hot search with more than 100 million readings. In addition to hiding joy, parents who are getting old may also hide many other emotions. With the growth of children, the aging of parents has become an irresistible objective law. In the view of Li Jijun, director of the Department of Medical Psychology at Nanjing Brain Hospital, mental aging, like physical aging, is also a phenomenon that most elderly people cannot avoid. As a child, empathy and understanding can actively cope with this aging population. era.
Yangtze Evening News/Ziniu News reporter Lu Yanlin
On the other side of the emotional bond, it is the parents who gradually slow down
How deep are the emotions of parents hidden? Netizen Ms. Li shared such a video. The dad in the video received a call from his daughter telling him that he would go home for the Mid-Autumn Festival. He calmly said to his daughter, "What attitude do you have when you come back from the Mid-Autumn Festival? It's amazing to let your mother cook two dishes for you." But in the surveillance video, Ms. Li's father danced happily alone after hanging up the phone. Under the topic, many netizens shared their stories with their parents. Behind the warm and tearful story, it is not difficult to see that even in old age, there is always an inseparable emotional bond between parents and children.
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On the other hand, do you know that your parents may also be hiding loneliness, depression, sensitivity and suspiciousness. Those are parents who are old and become forgetful and nagging; those are parents who have to ring a lot before answering the phone; the normalized management of the epidemic is a parent who can't learn how to use the health code over and over again. Increasingly aging and the ever-changing intelligence collision, gradually slowing down the pace of changes "can not keep up with the parents", how many people can put themselves in and accompany them to cross the "digital divide".
The process of aging,It is an irresistible "insecurity"
"When people are old, their minds will also age. This is actually a natural physiological phenomenon." With the development of society and the extension of average life span, Li Jijun pointed out that at the same time as the decline of body functions As the old people’s psychology changes with their social status, family life, and living environment, there will be some specific manifestations of "aging". " retirement syndrome" " empty nest syndrome" "loneliness syndrome"... Behind these mental aging that only the elderly can face, it may be that they just leave the workplace and do not have regular things to do every day. Adaptation may also be the loneliness after the death of one of his wife.
"Old children, old children. Mood fluctuations are actually the most obvious feelings of children. Sometimes they are very similar to children. It is easy to be excited, but then you may suddenly get angry." Li Jijun frankly said that even like a three-year-old child, it is easy to have emotions. However, children tend to be more tolerant of their parents, while the emotions of elderly people are often difficult to understand. "Like adolescent children, the elderly will also be depressed." The "silver-haired people" who have been left behind by the times may not be able to play with smartphones no matter how much they learn. They can't help being "disciplined" by their children when they look at their children. Li Jijun believes that most of the elderly at this time are prone to depression. “Most of them may think that they are useless, incompetent, self-blaming, burden their children, or even give up their lives.”
Suspicious and sensitive, this is also Li Jijun’s work It is often found in the characteristics of the elderly with mental decline. For example, it is not difficult to find in life that some elderly people are always suspicious because of physical illness, and even appear as "susceptible if they are not sick, and even more suspicious if they are sick." I feel dizzy today, and my limbs will feel weak tomorrow...The changes in the body that most people can't feel or the pain they can't experience will also be felt, such as the heartbeat, gastrointestinal motility and other changes can also be clearly felt. Even with some minor injuries, Xiao Chao was so frightened that he thought he was desperately ill and hopeless. Sometimes I talk about my illness, but I stop asking about it, and I keep changing my medicine. Li Jijun introduced that an elderly person who had always suspected that he was suffering from Alzheimer's disease in the outpatient clinic, "In fact, he always feels like this, which means that he is not'stay'. It's really'alzheimer', and I can't feel it anymore. ."
Investigate the reason,Li Jijun pointed out that people will always feel insecure during the aging process. "When you are old, you may be very sensitive to the surrounding environment and people. In particular, are there any threats to the surrounding environment and people's attitude to yourself? This sensitivity is actually psychological aging."
Thinking in empathy, Only in order to give the elderly the true comfort
The strong core strength means that the physical and psychological endurance, tolerance, resistance, and immunity are at the peak. It can be " without ", Li Jijun To put it bluntly, only healthy aging and active aging can create a good atmosphere for a society with a rapidly increasing aging population. As the saying goes, "There is an old person in the family, if there is a treasure", the elderly are the wealth of the family and the entire society, and the mental health of the elderly is closely related to the happiness of life in their later years. As a junior, how can we tell whether the elderly at home should be "mentally aging"? Li Jijun told reporters that he still cares about the feelings, cognition, emotions and behaviors of the elderly.
"For juniors, the most important thing is patience and understanding." The gear of life does not stop turning because of whoever. Everyone has an old day. Li Jijun pointed out that facing the elderly "empathy" is eternal. The unchanging recipe. "Caring for the elderly is not as simple as'respecting the old and loving the young'. It should be our responsibility rather than an obligation. Some young people just do their duty to accompany the elderly but lack emotional communication. The elderly cannot be truly comforted." Li Jijun emphasized Only by putting ourselves in a position that we will face in the future can we better understand our parents.
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