Why do we hate communicating with people? Don't like to communicate with people? Even, afraid of socializing? It is because we cannot gain from communicating with others, or even lose more.
What is the main and most important channel for communication? say! We don’t know how to talk to people, which is the root cause of our social phobia.
We always don't know what to talk to others. We are always afraid that others are not interested in what we say, or hate speaking by ourselves. Therefore, the more scared we are, the less daring we are to speak, and we will be clumsy.
Psychologists believe that this kind of person is mainly unable to understand the emotions of others, will not follow the voice, comfort and encouragement, always self-centered, and cannot hold the feelings and emotions of others in their hearts, thus destroying normal interpersonal communication .
When we speak, we do not mix the emotions and feelings of the other party, and we have no sense of rhythm, no sense of true feelings, and too plain. Even if it is mixed with too much of our own emotions and feelings, we will be overly excited and sharp when we speak. All of these will arouse the resentment of others, which will exclude us from the group, which will make us more withdrawn. The fundamental reason is: we don't have other people's emotions and feelings in our hearts, we have no one in our eyes, and we are alone.
If this is the case for our children, they will face a very unfavorable situation during the growth process, even very harmful, and parents should pay enough attention. But the problem is that some parents are unable to give their children more help, or even do not help. For example, some parents will tell their children to play alone and ignore the group. Other parents feel that their children are right and that the fault lies with others. These practices have further contributed to children's communication barriers. In the future, when he enters the society, he always has to contact with others. Always live independently. At that time, everything fails, and you can't even find a good job before you really suffer.
So is there any way to improve this situation of the child? In fact, there are. for example. If our child wants to join a small group, we can tell the child, from this small group, choose one of their favorite people, observe him imitating him, and then play with him. This is to get in touch with this small group first, and then synchronize with them,Finally, say something they want to hear, in order to further close the relationship.
Any social interaction starts with seeking common ground. The so-called seeking common ground is to try to synchronize with the behavior of others. Follow other people's topics and talk about what interests them. This way you won't be hated by others.
So, how to crack social phobia? Start by lowering your body, being a good student, a good listener, and a fancier.
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