boy, 3 years and 11 months, has a certain degree of cognition and understanding, likes to play cars, especially like racing games.
When encountering a toy that I like, I will take it by myself, whether it is my own or someone else’s, without the consent of others, and will not inform others after receiving it, and will not go through the teacher or care when doing anything Human consent.
Looking for other people to ask for toys or taking other people's toys without their consent. Although this situation may seem like a small problem, it contains a lot of social skills and social rules, showing the social skills of the child The insufficiency.
Suzhou autism organization problem analysis
Analyze the reasons why boys have no awareness of rules:
1. Excessive pampering by family members. When the child is at home, the child wants any toy or anything, the parents will give the child what he wants. If not, they will cry or get angry, and other family members will quickly give him the toy or this thing. And will give some other toys.
2. Poor sense of regularity and low consciousness. When a child is playing with other children, when his own toys or things are snatched by other children, they don’t know it’s mine, and I have to come back, so when they take other children’s toys, they will be very casual. With the consent of others.
Intervention process
1-Establish rules in daily life
First, parents must have their own rules, and then set the basic rules for children in life, study, and communication with others.
Parents must have the awareness of helping their children to set rules, and make rules in advance, "If you want something from others, you must ask first and then take it after others agree."
For example: set up a situation where parents want to take their children's toys. You can ask the children first, "Can I play for a while", and they will take them away only after the children agree. Give children an intuitive feeling: ask questions before taking other people’s items. When children want to take other people's things, they also have to ask before they can take them.
2-Proper encouragement
When the child is doing well,The caregiver should give praise or encouragement to the child. This kind of praise or encouragement is not necessarily buying toys or snacks. It can be a hug or verbal encouragement. It will make the child very happy. The key is the attitude of the caregiver. Timely encouragement can strengthen Good behavior of the child.
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For example, when a child is assisted, before taking other people’s belongings, ask: "Can I take it?". When the child asks, give this item in time and strengthen it in time. Of course, don't forget the social strengthening. The caregiver should praise the child in time. The child is great (hold the child, kiss the child).
3-Family must cooperate with each other
If the child does not ask for a certain thing or thing, grab it by himself, so that the child does something unreasonable but wants to get something. Parents must have principles. When one party refuses to give, the other party must do it and not give it.
When the child is crying, don't satisfy the child. You must express your own requirements to satisfy them. Let children know when to follow the rules.
For example: when a child wants a toy, the mother says not to give it, the child cries loudly, and the father does not give it to the child. You can only give it to the child after you say your thoughts and make a request.
4-Pay attention to the generalized scenario
When children can ask or ask about their thoughts about toys, parents should pay attention to the generalized scenario, that is, expand to another scenario.
When the child asks, there is another situation that others are not allowed to take it. For example: When a child wants other people’s toys, the child asks; "Can I play? But the other child’s child says, ‘No’.
How should caregivers face this situation at this time? We can divert the child's attention in time and do some other activities. For example, "Let's go play with other toys." You can also prepare some interesting toys and teach our children to exchange them. Assist children to exchange their own toys: teach children: Is it okay to exchange toys?
is usually practiced in several situations, and children can have a good experience in how to deal with such social situations. As caregivers, we need to give children more ways to deal with situations.
Intervention results
After a month of intervention, the child has established a good sense of rules, knowing that other people’s things cannot be taken without consent, and they cannot do what they want. Under the circumstances that others allow If you want to play next time, or you can express your own ideas, you can tell what I want to do, can I play, and actively express my needs.
Every child has a different development trajectory, and there are different reasons for the same performance. Teachers and parents must be sensitive and find different coping methods according to different reasons.
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