This is the 1016th real person we told
I am Xiaolu
(We are now a family of four)
I am in my hometown in Heze, Shandong. The earliest footprints of human activities can be traced back to four thousand years ago, when the ancestors relied and thrived here. Heze has many beautiful names, such as the hometown of Qilin , the hometown of fine brushwork, the hometown of acrobatics , the hometown of martial arts and opera.
Heze was called Caozhou in the southwest of Shandong Province, and is located in the junction of Shandong, Jiangsu, Henan and Anhui provinces. Heze is also the capital of peony in China. It has a temperate monsoon-type continental climate. The peony planted in this land is the best in the world and has a long history. It has nine color systems, ten flower shapes, and more than 1,280 varieties.
I was born in a rural family in Juye County, Heze. Both parents are farmers and I have a sister at home. In the 1990s, rural families who were generally not rich in life and made a living by farming were even more difficult. The family has old people to support and the children to go to school, so life is tight.
(My parents and sister)
My parents plant some grain and crops on the only acre of three-point land at home, and make a living by harvest. Seeing that the villagers went out to work in the slack farm and their lives became more and more prosperous, my father realized that there was a way out only when he went out and went to do odd jobs with them.
When my mother was a child, she had many siblings at home, and life was very difficult, so she didn't have the opportunity to go to school. This also led to her having no idea about going to school, and she did not pay attention to the quality of my academic performance.
My father, who has been studying for several years, after going out to work, no one urged me to study anymore. I was like a bird flying out of the cage, and could do whatever I like as I wish, such as climbing trees with my friends to pick bird eggs and fishing in the river. I lived a free and easy childhood.
(sister, mother, me)
Mother adopted a free-range model for me. She believed that when a boy grows up, he can also support himself. My father went to work for life and neglected to discipline me, which led to me being uninterested in studying and dropped out of school and stayed at home in the fourth grade, which made him blame himself for many years.
When I lift the brick, I can't hug you; when I put down the brick, I can't support you, which is probably the bitterness of all parents.
13 years old, I was in the fourth grade of elementary school. Because I was playing so much that I really didn’t want to continue studying, my mother had to agree to let me drop out of school. It is not a solution to drop out of school and stay at home. A man from the same village just happened to be a teacher in a martial arts school in the county town, so he suggested sending me to the martial arts school.
(My time in the martial arts school)
Heze is a famous martial arts hometown. Since I was a child, I was interested in the wonderful martial arts scenes on TV, and fantasized that if I learned martial arts, I could also fly over the eaves and walk on the walls and be honest. I agreed with the decision to go to the martial arts school. In desperation, my parents agreed to let me study in the martial arts school.
There are more than 100 students in the martial arts school, and the tuition for others is more than 700 years. Because of the teacher in the same village, the school only charged me more than 300 yuan a year. The martial arts school is closed-ended management, and I go home once a week and live a group life, which makes me feel fresh.
Ideals are full, reality is skinny. Life in the martial arts school was not as relaxed as I thought. I got up at five o'clock in the morning to train and ended my studies at eight o'clock in the evening. It is common to train until you are sweating and sore all over your body every day. Although it is hard, my collective life also regulates my daily routine.
(I returned to Beijing ten years later)
At that time, I had only one thought, as long as I could learn kung fu well, no matter how hard or tired I had to persevere. As I grow older, considering that my employment prospects are not very good, it is difficult to achieve good development. So I chose to leave the martial arts school and go to work in another place.
Four years of martial arts school career not only made me healthy, but also tempered my will. In order to practice a martial arts movement well, I am willing to put in more time and effort than others. This spirit of facing difficulties laid the foundation for my good results in my subsequent career development.
In 2004, the first job I got was to come to Guangzhou with my fellow villager and clean the room in a hotel, with a monthly income of 500 yuan. Although it was not much, this was my first salary. I kept some of it myself and sent the rest back to my hometown.
(I just left the society and was still very young at that time)
When I cleaned, I was very careful. The manager was very responsible for me and gave me many rewards. I am willing to endure hardships, and I do the work that others think is dirty and tired. I do not hesitate to follow up and do it well. I know that I come from the countryside and have no background, so I can only do every job down-to-earth.
Half a year later, the hotel decoration was closed, and my fellow villagers helped me find a security job. The hotel manager previously switched to another hotel and invited me to clean the hotel. Thinking that this security job had not been done for a long time and was introduced by a fellow villager, I was embarrassed to resign, so I refused the manager's request.
Next, I have worked as a Beijing drift, lived in a basement, worked as a security guard, and worked on the assembly line.
2008, by chance, I came to Qingdao to perform lion dance. Due to my martial arts skills, my learning lion dance was quite smooth, but I could not avoid stuttering, making my legs blue and purple.
(In addition to strengthening my body, martial arts also exercise my willpower)
In 2010, I also found a part-time job to teach children to learn martial arts. The salary for both jobs has also become considerable. I just came to Qingdao to dance lions and my monthly income was only more than 2,000 yuan. I had two jobs, which made my monthly income reach five or six thousand yuan.
It was also in this year that I met my wife through social networks. Due to the single work and narrow social circle, I basically can't recognize girls. I have been tired of working for a day and lying in bed after get off work. I like to chat with my friends online.
At that time, a new feature was released on the social network. User searches could accurately reach the county, so I searched aimlessly. By chance, I found a girl from the same county town. Her avatar should be the photo she looked very pretty, so I found an excuse to add her.
(family photo, the one on the left is me)
She works in a factory in the south, and her hometown is not far from me. We were about the same age and both worked alone in a foreign land, and we were talking to each other every little thing that we could not tell our family. We talk about the ups and downs of life to the boredom and distress at work and the complexity of interpersonal relationships.
I often ask my colleagues to take pictures of my lion dance and send it to her to make her happy. As we deepened our understanding, we became friends, and both sides felt that we had met too late. It was almost the end of the year, so we made an appointment to meet back to our hometown. Unexpectedly, this meeting turned us from friends to lovers.
This time we met, the two felt very familiar with each other and were not restrained at all. She was cheerful, very good-looking, and very reasonable. When we have a good impression of each other, we are sure that a romantic relationship will come naturally.
(My job is a wine critic)
In 2012, we formed a family after we fell in love for two years. I am very grateful to her and do not dislike my family's poor family. The other people's brides were more than 80,000 yuan, but she only understood that it was not easy for me to make money. She only had 50,000 yuan in brides, and brought them all back after marriage.
After marriage, she followed me to Qingdao. I still dance lions and teach martial arts. She works in a factory. Our life after marriage is very harmonious, and she understands that my work is not easy. Although life is not prosperous, she said that as long as the two of them work together, everything will be fine.
In September 2013, our son was born. Except for work, I spend the rest of my time raising children with her. Although my monthly income was nearly 6,000 yuan at that time, I didn’t save much savings with the family of three.
(I don’t have a good alcohol tolerance and I don’t often drink famous wines)
In 2016, my son should go to kindergarten. He wanted to give his children a better education, so he wanted his children to go to kindergarten in Qingdao. However, the high tuition fees made us even more difficult.My brother-in-law is working as a wine appraiser in Beijing. Under my sister's persuasion, I agreed to come to Beijing and work hard with my brother-in-law.
I didn’t expect that I would return to Beijing in ten years, and this time I stayed in Beijing for more than six years. Beijing has changed a lot, with more high-rise buildings than before, and people on the street are also in a hurry, striving for tomorrow and dreams, and I have become a member of Beijing's drift again.
It took me 4 years to go from being a layman to the entry stage. In addition, I have high requirements for myself. If I don’t understand a problem, I can’t even sleep at night, and even dreaming and keep the identification knowledge in mind.
(I am at work, tasting wine)
I don’t have a good alcohol tolerance and I don’t often drink famous wines. The way to appreciate wine is to taste, smell, listen and watch. Hold the magnifying glass, flashlight, and purple light required for identification. Observe from the appearance, bottle cap, label and other details. Take a sip and taste some flavor, smell the aroma, look at the color, listen to and watch the hops and bubbles disappear.
from the outside, the most tests the identification technology. Because there are many fake wines on the market and the counterfeiting technology is also very advanced, you need to communicate more with your peers and improve your identification skills. I heard that some fake people, after the fake wine they had made before, came back to their hands again, and they could not tell the truth or fake.
As a wine appraiser, I have encountered many things that make me laugh and cry. My company's main business is to free wine appraisal, collect wine and sell all kinds of famous wines. Often, customers will come to me with famous wines after they meet me online and ask me to appraise them.
(My work day)
Some customers will either let the company recycle it or return it after the appraisal. In case of any damage to the wine during the express delivery process, we will compensate for the losses. This process is also the easiest to argue. I, who was not good at speaking, have significantly improved my communication skills in such incidents.
For example, some customers think that they have fake wine in their hands, but they find it to be real wine, which is incredible. For example, a customer had fake wine in his hands, and he always thought it was real wine. After the appraisal results were released, he did not believe it and insisted that the appraisal results were incorrect.
I do business with all my heart, be honest and treat my work with sincerity. This job has also been touched by me. Some customers met me through the Internet, but they didn't even meet me, so they paid millions of dollars to buy wine. I am very grateful for his trust.
(In addition to wine appreciation, motorcycles are also one of my hobbies)
I also heard from a colleague that someone bought more than ten years ago and buried them in the ground. He wanted to wait for the promotion in the future and dig it out and sell it. As a result, the wine was underground, without sealing, and without shelter from wind and rain, so many impurities leaked into the wine and became damaged.
In order not to let everyone down, I studied by myself to take the appraiser qualification certificate. The self-study process is not smooth, and I have a low education. Although many professional terms cannot defeat me, I have to think about the meaning of many words and sentences together for longer to understand it before I can understand it thoroughly.
Fortunately, hard work pays off. After several months of hard work, I finally got the wine appraiser certificate and became a member of the China Wine Appraiser Association. With the efforts of the past six years, my income has increased from 2,000 yuan when I first came to Beijing to more than 20,000 yuan, a tenfold increase.
(My daily wine acquaintance)
Over the years, I have worked alone in Beijing, and my wife has taken her children to study in her hometown. In 2020, my son is going to elementary school. I discussed with my wife that I mortgaged a house in my hometown county to allow my children to receive a better education. We have all suffered from lack of education and hope to provide children with a better educational environment.
A bottle of white wine does not count, and only after drinking it yourself can you make a judgment. Don’t try to satisfy everyone who has expectations for you. You should know that it is difficult to adjust everyone. No matter how good the liquor is, it may not satisfy everyone. Just be yourself. I think it is very meaningful to do the industry in
. It can help more people to distinguish between real wine and fake wine. I can also make many like-minded friends during my work period. Every time I go to a business trip, my friends are warmly entertained.
(I am a little famous in the industry)
There are also many people who come to me and say that they want to learn wine appreciation from me and that they can pay the tuition fee. I told him that there is no trick to identify wine. Theory should be combined with practice, and observation, exploration and communication should be done more. You can communicate with me more. I don’t charge tuition fees, just think of making more friends.
Everyone gets together to drink. Different people can taste different in the same bottle of wine. The wine is still the same glass of wine. Different people taste it, and the wine will taste thousands of flavors. The same is true for people, with different states of mind. When facing something, everyone has different attitudes and the results are also different.
Many people ask me if I can drink fake wine? I told them that not drinking fake wine, in addition to having an impact on health, can also pose certain risks to the body. I would rather buy real wine from formal channels than be greedy for small gains when buying wine.
(I love every line, and my income has increased tenfold in the past 6 years)
Due to the epidemic, business is not easy now, so I am actively developing into self-media channels. However, in order to be a good self-media, I am a serious person, which makes me very anxious every day, hoping to do anything perfectly and not let everyone down.
Although liquor has no shelf life, they all have their own drinkable periods. If you miss this time, you will never be able to find the sweet and delicious food you used to be.
Life is the same. Many things will have a "drinking period". At the right time, in the right place, when you meet the right person, and do the right thing, you will be very close to success.
[Oral: Xiao Lu]
[Editor: Banxia]
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