A nerd is a very smart person who only grows in a single learning situation and develops in a certain profession. They may be leaders, but they don’t understand anything outside of this field, or are easily To cheat, or simply to do stupid things.
The complexity of psychological phenomena is often confusing. For example, if you open the webpage and search for information about "college students being cheated in the first season", you can see hundreds of thousands of relevant news. A host once asked me, these people can enter the university for their IQ, why are they so easily deceived? What happened to their IQ? Presumably this is something that many people don't understand.
In my opinion, most people with higher IQ are deceived. It is not a problem of intelligence, but a problem of incomplete psychological support. In other words, it is the problem that their family or caregivers are too single in their psychological support.
A person's intelligence level, that is, the level of IQ, mainly depends on the genetic genes of the parents and the match between the two. This level of intelligence is almost innate. If it is to be changed the day after tomorrow, unless disease or machinery damages the brain, a person's level of intelligence is basically stable and lasts for life.
intelligence, in psychological phenomenon is mainly used to recognize and respond to the outside world, including perception, understanding, memory, concentration and reasoning. This ability is more used to learn knowledge in the early years of people. Used to deal with various affairs after adulthood. Children with high IQ tend to have good comprehension, quick learning, good memory, and rigorous reasoning. They have the ability to acquire knowledge and deal with complex problems more easily than others.
Once parents find out that their children have a high IQ, they will cheat and think that only babies are serious about learning. In the future, the probability of obtaining a high degree of education and seeking a high income is very high. Raising such a child is relatively universal, which is like a person's appearance, sometimes covering up the ugliness, but in terms of ability, it is a trick to eat.
In fact, many parents have a misunderstanding in their cognition, thinking that studying hard can improve their IQ and better achieve their goals in life. Therefore, what they value most is how to let their children enter a state of love for learning as soon as possible. They do not want to take their children out to play, nor do they want their children to play with other children. So as not to play wild.As a result, the child can only stay at home and grow up quietly and alone. Because of the simple stimulus, the intellectual development of this kind of children can only go forward in one way: reading, studying, practicing...for more than ten years, they have been in a pure learning state. High IQ accompanied by a single situation is of course higher concentration. This kind of children's academic performance should be "green light all the way" or "progressively".
But man is a social animal after all. After he grows up, he must enter the society to work and live, and dealing with people is essential. The society is complicated, and the human mind is more complicated. Therefore, one's psychological development cannot be overly single and focused. For example, once an over-focused person is in love, he may look for someone. If the other person is unwilling, he may feel that he has been seriously injured, and may even die with the other person. In reality, tragedies caused by college students who fall in love happen from time to time.
People’s early learning time generally lasts for 12 years, and the higher the degree, the longer the duration. Those who have stayed in school for a long time face tireless teachers or classmates of their own age every day. How can they identify liars who look like normal people but have unpredictable and other calculations? As a result, some of them were tricked into a pyramid scheme, some were scammed online, and some were even abducted.
Corresponding to this is that those homeless children who have been out of school since childhood, wandering around, have no family life, and no relatives are seldom deceived, probably because they have been in the society since they were young, they are knowledgeable and not easy Believe in others and don't tell the truth easily, liars can't deceive them.
In 2004, a 14-year-old boy was hidden on the landing gear of an airplane flying from Kunming to Chengdu. He climbed onto the airplane with another boy, and the other fell. He survived. People want to know why this boy would do such a dangerous thing. When the reporter interviewed him, he said that he ran away from home because of the divorce of his parents. But when the reporter called his mother, he was told that there was no divorce at all.
The reporter was puzzled and asked an expert: "Which of these two people is lying?" The expert replied that the adult should be lying. I judged at the time: "This kid is lying." Later it proved that my judgment was correct. My basis is that this kind of wandering child is out of self-protection,When answering questions from outsiders, the first sentence is basically not the truth.
On the contrary, the higher a person's educational background, the simpler the growth experience. They spend most of their time dealing with books, homework, and test papers. The things in the books can be explained logically. However, if you deal with people, you will know that people are very different and will not play cards according to the same logic. Although smart children have an advantage in cognitive abilities, the psychological content that determines the interaction between people and the outside world is very complicated. In addition to the temperament, speech, and pro-social behavior mentioned above, there are also empathy, the ability to recognize people, and Personality and other content. Therefore, it is not possible to know everything with a high degree of education.
If parents do not pay attention to the development of their children's social and psychological abilities, they may cultivate a nerd. A nerd is a very smart person who only develops in a certain profession and may become a leader among them, but does not understand anything outside of a familiar field. They are relatively simple, easy to be deceived, and sometimes even do stupid things.
In 2002, Beijing Zoo occurred in a case of splashing bears with sulfuric acid. The perpetrator was Liu Moumou, a student from a prestigious university. When the incident was reported, the people were very angry, especially the parents who often took their children to the zoo found it even more incomprehensible. Those bears are honest and cute. How can you, a student of a prestigious university, use sulfuric acid to splash them?
The police arrested the college student at that time, but didn't understand his psychology. At that time, there was no crime of harming animals. They didn't know what to do with him, so they called me and asked me. Because while there are harmful results, the most important thing is to determine whether the perpetrator has subjective malice, that is, what is his motive for doing this. After reading the specific reports on the case, including the media interviews with his mother and the investigation of the family situation, I understood his problem.
His parents separated 56 days after he was born. When he was three years old, his parents divorced and have never seen his father again. His mother is a bus driver, very self-reliant and strong. Sometimes Ling Zhan has to go to the morning shift, and he has to go to the evening. You can go home in the middle of the night. Only the grandmother who suffers from a stroke and legs are inconvenient. Mothers can only let the elderly accompany their children and let the children help the elderly. Because I was worried that my child would run out to play, my grandmother couldn’t control it.Mother locked the two at home every time before going to work. In the mother's words, "Even the windows are nailed down." The child is at home, except for his grandmother, which is a basket of building blocks and jigsaw puzzles.
Such a simple environment has cultivated his dependence on his mother. Since he was a child, he has listened to his mother's words, and almost everything is done in accordance with the mother's requirements. As my mother said: "If I don’t do it, he doesn’t know; if I don’t guide, he won’t do it; if I say east, he will go east; if I say apples are sweet, he doesn’t know about apples. It's sour." He spent his childhood in the company of piles of wood and plastic jigsaw, and didn't start to touch the outside world until he was five years old. After going to school, he was bullied and didn't know how to fight back. He was scolded and couldn't hear it as swearing, but his academic performance was always excellent.
During the years when he was locked up at home, his grandma often nagged about the reason why he couldn’t go out to play: "There are blind bears outside. Blind bears have good noses. They love to eat children, and they can smell them as soon as they go out. "Probably, in addition to playing with building blocks, Liu Moumou remembers what his grandmother said about the blind bear.
He said that he loved animals since he was a child, and wanted to apply to the Department of Biology during the college entrance examination, but his mother refused, and finally went to the Department of Mechatronics. But his love has not disappeared. He said: "I have seen in books that bears have a keen sense of smell and are particularly capable of distinguishing things. But people always say "stupid bears", so I want to verify the bears. Stupid not stupid." He thought that sulfuric acid had a particularly strong smell, and bears had a good sense of smell. If the bears found a pungent smell, would they avoid it? In a big city like Beijing, where can I find bears for verification? There was only a zoo, so he went to Beijing Zoo Xiongshan to test the bear's sense of smell by pouring sulfuric acid. As a result, there was a little bear who picked up delicious food from tourists every day, thinking that humans were very friendly, but it was sulphuric acid that splashed down, and his face and mouth were severely burned.
After understanding these situations, I think Liu Moumou didn't deliberately vent his anger, nor was he pranking or deliberately hurting bears, but he did bad things driven by the naive idea of "want to experiment". Except for the experiment, he didn't realize how serious the consequences were in his mind. He did not expect this to be a life-harming behavior, and did not expect that the zoo is an important place for parents to take their children to learn about various animals.This involves public order and norms of behavior. His behavior not only caused serious harm to animals, but also indirectly hurt the emotions of most people who love animals.
Of course, there are not many nerds like Liu Moumou who have a serious lack of common sense, but it is undeniable that now many young students who are good at learning in famous universities will feel hesitated when they enter the society, including the aforementioned American cinema killings. In the case, the perpetrator named Holmes, who has already obtained a Ph.D. degree, does not know how to integrate into society. If a person with high IQ is trained to be like this, he will basically be abandoned. Therefore, letting children go out of the house at an early age and have more contact with people and society is a kind of beneficial psychological training. You must not think that good academic performance will lead to success.
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