3 35-year-old Gao Yixiang in the program sudden death caused everyone's shock. In recent years, we have frequently seen executives of a certain group die due to illness in the news. Many people died of accidents at a young age, and couldn't help but sigh: I don't know which one will come first tomorrow or accident.
Living is a kind of luck, and living well is a kind of happiness.
bestselling author Richard Taple, in the book "From Living to Live: One Hundred Rules for a Better Life", combines his own life experience, adds his own thoughts, and summarizes the One Hundred Rules for a Better Life, which contains 11 aspects of balance, confidence, exercise, entertainment, and diet in life, and involves the "secrets" of a better life at different stages of life such as parenting and retirement.
1. A healthy body is the foundation, and a healthy psychology is the guarantee.
WHO said: "Health is a state of physical, mental and social adaptation, not a lack of disease and weakness: Health is a health in both physical and psychological aspects.
In recent years, the age of onset of cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases has tended to be younger, from the past forties and fifties to seventies and eighties, and has been preceded to the age of twenty or thirty to sixty or seventy. Gradually, health issues have also received widespread attention from everyone.
80s have entered middle age and have gradually begun to maintain health. When people reach middle age, in addition to family and work, health has become the focus of attention.
in recent years, especially in recent years, In the past three years of the outbreak, everyone is paying more and more attention to psychology. Many people also spent that difficult time in the year when it occurred.
" depression " is already familiar to everyone. There are more than 95 million patients, and 40% of the 280,000 suicides across the country suffer from depression, not including psychological conditions such as sleep disorder and anxiety. Mental health is a better guarantee for life.
2. Handle the relationship between yourself and yourself and others is the key
00. Haiwen School believes: "The knowledge about yourself is used to serve relationships and to establish relationships. The starting point and end point of a person and his spiritual life are in the relationship. ”
First of all, we need to deal with our own relationship with ourselves. People like to pay attention to themselves. They want to talk about what they are interested in at parties. In the process of educating children, children are angry in their own way, and they will not receive the same attention as before after retirement in a high-level workplace.
Secondly, we must handle the relationship between ourselves and others. We all habitually want to compare with others: compare the living conditions with others, the children's grades, and our own work , and the romance of your partner. These are all in the process of comparison, and "troubles" come with it.
will be unconfident because of others' judgment, anxious because of others' evaluation of your appearance and figure, and will not know how to refuse in order to gain the trust and satisfaction of your leader.
We are also looking down on ourselves, and we must also see ourselves clearly.
We should understand that everything in the world is not about ourselves, but we should also understand that we should also see ourselves clearly. What do you want, how to do it, benchmark your past, not others.
"What is important is what you think, not what others think"
We must realize that one thing is that we should not take ourselves too seriously, nor do we take others too seriously. Balance in this point and master this degree.
So how to deal with these two relationships?
1, explore and reflect on
in learning 0 Continuous learning can improve self-confidence and happiness. In the current situation of serious intra-books, how to break the intra-books? You can read, because reading more than ten thousand volumes. Although it is just a joke, reading can relieve the anxiety caused by the intra-books. We should not be limited to learning in a certain aspect, but learn diversified, so that we can exercise the brain, establish neural structures, and expand our abilities.
Different stages also require us to learn, how to communicate and communicate in the workplace, and when raising children, we should enrich our lives after retirement.
At the same time, you also need to avoid blindly inputting, and you also need to have your own reflection and processing, internalize it into your own content, and apply what you have learned to achieve the greatest value of learning.
2, Exercise and recreational release of emotions
Exercise can not only improve cardiopulmonary function and immunity, but also promote blood circulation, increase cardiovascular and cerebrovascular elasticity, reduce the occurrence of cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases , and is also a good way to release emotions. However, exercise should be done in moderation, and you should also choose appropriate exercises according to your own situation. The important thing is to persist.
Ordinary shopping, watching movies, drawings, and swimming are all good ways to recreate. The standard for choosing a way of recreation is that it can be easily accomplished, but you should reject those pastimes that are addictive, such as tobacco, alcohol, chocolate, etc., which are just temporary paralysis effects. A simple few minutes of closing your eyes and resting and having enough sleep are both good ways to release emotions and stress.
3, writing and speaking to express opinions and ideas
"Research shows that writing down your feelings with a pen can relieve stress." By the same token, the pain that can be expressed is no longer so painful. You can write down what you have experienced, and if possible, you can share it with other people.
says it is also very important. Many problems with the education between couples and children are caused by poor communication. We must express our thoughts accurately and without judgment.
At the same time, learn to express some humor and learn to tease yourself. You can easily deal with the things that embarrass you.
3. Integrate knowledge and action, discover more laws
"Why do you understand many truths but still can't live a good life." There are too many principles that you understand but do not practice. When teaching you how to use the rules after the book, you specifically emphasize that the rules are not commands, and not all laws need to be followed, choose the rules that suit you, persevere, and make them a habit. And in the process of learning and practice, we constantly summarize and form our own exclusive "laws".
"Knowledge is the beginning of action, and behavior is the accomplishment of action". No matter how good the law is, there is no action, just a few laws on the tree, and life will not become better because of this.
If you want to achieve a good leap from or to a good life, you need to practice continuously and "practice" in practice.
