Wen/Mu Ziqing
01
I don’t know what year it started. The prerequisite for marriage in the marriage and love market is to have a house and a car. In the past two years, there are even women who ask the married couple not to repay the car loan.
Take Xi’an as an example. At present, the average house price is 15,000 yuan. In fact, in the Yanta Stele Forest in Qujiang, better properties can easily cost 20,000 yuan or even higher. There are also many properties in Weiyang in the east of Chanba and north of Weiyang. Even 20,000 yuan, even the unlimited purchase of Xixian New District, many houses are 145,000 yuan.
So, an ordinary working class with a monthly salary of 5,000, what does he buy a house to get married and support his family?
02
Jiang Chao is 91 years old and will soon be 30 years old. Starting in his twenties, his parents are urging marriage every year. At first Jiang Chao feels that he is still young and is not in a hurry. Who knows, this drag will come to 2020 year.
Jiang Chao graduated from technical secondary school and went to work for three or two years in his man's electronics factory in Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai. At that time, he was young and didn't have the consciousness to save money. Basically, there was no pressure in the moonlight and the whole family was not hungry.
Around 2013, Jiang Chao returned to the provincial capital of Xi’an, which is only a few tens of kilometers away from his hometown. Then he found a factory as a skilled worker through the introduction of his hometown. At the beginning, his monthly salary was more than 3,000, but the factory included board and lodging. Don't feel less. There are many young girls on the assembly line of the
factory. Jiang Chao has also talked about love a few times, but in the end they all stopped. Some of the women’s family felt that the two were a little far apart, and some of the girls had a new love. After
came, Jiang Chao no longer had the enthusiasm for falling in love. He felt that it was really troublesome.
He simply plays games with his coworkers all day long while away from get off work.
Over the years, in addition to the soaring house prices, there is also a doubling of the lottery, and the house and car have become a must for marriage. Most of Jiang Chao's peers are married and have children. Even his neighbors and sons who are a few years younger than him also go to kindergarten.
Jiang Chao’s parents were anxious to get angry, and they kept talking all day long, dragging the introductions of matchmakers, dragging introductions from relatives and friends, but in the end they failed to get what they wanted.
At the beginning of 2020, Jiang Chao is staying in his hometown because of the epidemic. Your parents have always been. You buy a house quickly, and the family will add 100,000 yuan to you. You can find a solution for the remaining down payment and mortgage, and wedding gift . .
This year, Jiang Chao started to look at the house. He suddenly discovered that for a 15,000-square-foot house in Xi’an, even an 80-square-foot two-bedroom apartment would cost 400,000 down payment and at least 4,000 per month. Only four or five thousand, even if the family helps to borrow a little from relatives and friends to make up the down payment, the later mortgage is also a problem.
Just like that, his enthusiasm was wiped out more than half.
Even if he lives in Xixian New District or Xianyang, he feels he can’t afford it, not to mention raising a family after marriage. It hurts even to think about it.
03
Ordinary people like Jiang Chao, who are not married without a house, where is their future? In 1978, his salary rose by only a thousand, but the house price in Xi'an has quadrupled.
In the beginning, the girl introduced by the family trustee refused to date as soon as he heard that there was no room. Later, someone introduced a divorced woman. Jiang Chao's parents felt wronged by their son.
In the past few years, even women who are divorced and have children cannot look down on the low-wage Sanwu (no house, car and family) like Jiang Chao.
Many people will say that people like Jiang Chao are also fate. They have no abilities and can't count on them at home. Maybe they should return to the small county or the countryside, or they can only become the forgotten and marginalized people in the trend of the times.
Actually, sometimes thinking about it, the countryside is also a good place. Many Jiang Chao’s peers live in the countryside of his hometown, relying on cash crops or working directly in the factory. It takes a little hard work. There are seven to eight thousand or even over ten thousand in a month. Housing, the cost of living is low, and you can save some savings in one year.
But it seems that young people like Jiang Chao, because they stay in the cityAfter a long time, he looked down on the countryside. He felt that poverty and backwardness were useless, and he even looked down on the base of his family, and he wanted to stay in the city.
But, how can the city be so easy to stay?
04
Some people say that this is an era of fighting fathers. Unless you are particularly capable, it is really difficult to do so.
is also right. Some people do use their wealth and wealth in their families to have a good food and clothing. They get married and have children to buy a house and a car without any pressure, and how can those who have no father to fight and have little ability to complete self-salvation?
Whether in urban or rural areas, we will see that in some families, two generations of grandparents, parents, and mothers share the house to raise their children. Such families naturally have less financial pressure and will not be precarious in the slightest change. But in more families, it would be nice if grandparents can help bring a child. Where else can they count on their financial assistance?
Sometimes, it’s hard for me to understand. Just like Jiang Chao’s parents, although they are ordinary people, they have accumulated small savings in the past 30 years. There should be hundreds of thousands of savings, since they have been urging their son to get married. , Why can’t we do our best to help my son buy a house and get married? Maybe they still want to leave enough pension for themselves. The wave of the
era never stops. How many people are forced to move forward under the influence of the wave, and are gradually marginalized. Even the most basic family formation cannot be realized. What is the bigger dream?
