Men and women who are now in the young and middle-aged stage have a very willful and impulsive behavior.
Because of the actual situation of their age group, most families have only one or two children. They are loved by their parents and the whole family. They have grown up to adulthood. They have also received formal education and have stable jobs. And income.
So, I am very confident and proud. The endurance is poor and the anti-strike ability is also very low.
is prone to lack the ability of empathy in marriage, and because of some small unsatisfactory, quarrels with the other half will casually break up.
shared the thoughts of a person who came over: Don’t get divorced easily after thirty-five people! why? Let's get to know it together in the next time!
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Weng Yixin, 38 years old this year, is a single lady who has been divorced for one and a half years.
At present, she has finally found a job and is trying to adapt to her new status as a worker, and she has no time to take care of finding a target.
now mentions divorce, which has become a thing of the past. She no longer talks about all kinds of "guilt" of her ex-husband, but can hear full of regrets in her tone.
can tell, if it is changed to the present, this marriage, she should not leave. The reason why
has changed so much is because she finally discovered that divorce is not a simple matter. Once
chooses to divorce, whether it is a life that I have already been familiar with, or a lot of things I have already owned, I have to tear it apart and re-stitch it. The process of
is quite long and uncomfortable. It only takes a lot of energy and effort, and the effect is not very good. After all, after 12 years of marriage,
has long been accustomed to being in a state of marriage, with the other half around her to accompany, take care of and manage her life.
suddenly lost everything, she had to rely on herself, and she lacked the ability to deal with various problems that occurred at any time in life, so she felt at a loss.
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She had a job before marriage, but since she became pregnant and gave birth to a child, she quit and came back to be a housewife.
Her housewife is actually quite comfortable. In addition to taking care of the children, cooking and cleaning, she doesn't need to worry about other things.
does not even need to buy the vegetables that she needs to buy every day. The meat part of
was bought by her husband at the supermarket on weekends and Sundays. Vegetables and the like were brought back by the other party passing by the vegetable market after get off work.
As for things like buying large items at home and repairing electrical appliances, she has never even touched it, and she doesn't understand them at all.
Of course, because she doesn't have a job, her monthly living expenses plus her buying clothes, cosmetics, bags and other expenses are also provided by her husband. She has never taken care of these.
Since the child was brought up by her grandparents since she was a child, she has no fixed job nor the ability to deal with all kinds of things at home. Therefore, at the time of the divorce, the child was awarded to her ex-husband to raise her.
originally thought that taking care of herself alone would not be a problem, after all, before getting married, she did not take care of herself too.
However, after she really left, she realized that her divorce life was not as good as she imagined. Instead, she needed to face many things that didn't need to worry about.
She used to live in her parents' home, and her parents were worried about life matters.
Now she lives alone. Although she is supported by a part of alimony, she is only 36 years old and has a long way to go.
can't just sit and eat, just finding a job to support herself makes her feel quite strenuous.
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Before she got married, it was easy for her to find a job because she was young.
has been a housewife for more than ten years, completely out of touch with society. The threshold of many professions, the required skills, etc., have been raised a lot.
During the years she stayed in her marriage, she did not focus on self-improvement and improvement in this area, nor did she have relevant work experience, so she bumped into walls everywhere and became quite passive. After searching for more than half a year,
finally found a job as a counter teller.
Although you have to stand for at least eight hours a day, it’s pamperingShe had become accustomed to being in a miserable situation, but she had solved the problem of survival anyway, and she could only grit her teeth.
Compared with the former comfort and coziness, she now lives in a different way, very hard and busy.
Although she felt that it was an honor to survive on her own, she regretted quitting her previous job after getting married and did not stick to it.
But at the same time, I also understand that if there is no principled error between the husband and wife, it would be an irrational thing to rashly choose to divorce if they quarrel just because of some trivial matters in life. Only then did
realize that it would be unwise to punish people around you indiscriminately because of your own mistakes.
was just because she insisted on making a fuss to leave. Now her son does not have a complete family. Her parents-in-law have to work hard to bring the baby, and her parents worry about her life and future all day long. That's it.
Concluding remarks:
is mature, sensible, and stable. The most important point is: emotional stability and will not be willful.
Marriage is a major event in life, you must not take it for anger!
Of course, there will inevitably be various problems in marriage. The couple must have good communication skills to resolve differences in time, reach agreement, and continue to live the rest of life.
This requires both parties to be able to treat contradictions rationally, understand mutual accommodation and compromise, not be too selfish and selfish, only emphasize their own feelings and ignore the other's thoughts and opinions.
Marriage is a persevering collaboration. Only those who can persist to the end will get the sweet fruits. Those who give up halfway will always taste full of bitterness. In addition to touching the bottom line, any conflicts and conflicts caused by other reasons can be internally digested by the couple through negotiation, so that they will not get divorced. Even if
is really due to personality incompatibility, the divorce must be as early as possible! After
is over 35 years old, don't make fuss about some subtle things anymore. That will hurt each other, but also the children and each other's parents!
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