If marriage is a good story after two people meet, then getting along after marriage and getting along with each other and each other's family can be said to be realistic factors that must be faced.
A successful couple not only needs a good relationship between the two people, but also needs the harmony of the two families. Leaving aside the harmony between the family and relatives, to talk about the happiness of marriage is actually talking on paper and castles in the air.
Therefore, couples with emotional intelligence will maintain a good and harmonious relationship with each other's relatives while handling the relationship between them. This is the way to get along with each other for a long time.
This is why many people need to understand each other's family before entering marriage.
The truth of a mother: choose a husband, but also choose in-laws.
01. The way a family gets along determines the harmony of life after marriage.
The growth of any person cannot be separated from the influence of the original family. It can be said that the growth of each person and the formation of future character cannot be separated from the original The subtle influence of the family. Some people at
may be dissatisfied with their parents, their education or the way of doing things, but what makes people feel sad is that after many years, they seem to have grown into the parents they didn't like back then.
Actually, the influence of parents is a force that penetrates the bones and blood, which makes it difficult for a person to change throughout his life.
Therefore, whether a family gets along in harmony and whether the atmosphere is comfortable also determines the development of the children's character.
Xiaoting’s mother told her that to choose a husband, one must look at the other person’s family. It doesn’t have to be rich or superior. But if there is a harmonious family relationship, the husband will not be bad. , So her daughter’s future life will be more harmonious.
02. The state of eating will expose the other's self-cultivation.
When observing a man, you can actually start from many aspects. Simply eating the state can expose the other's self-cultivation.
Don’t underestimate the matter of eating. If two people go out to eat together, the other person will take care of you more. When ordering a meal, they will first ask for your opinion and take care of your taste. This shows that the other person is more careful and considerate. people.
If you only care about your own taste, you can't eat spicy food, but he orders a lot of spicy dishes, you don't like barbecue, but he only pulls you to eat, these are the other party's more self-centered performance.
In addition, you can also see the atmosphere of the other's family from the state of the other's parents eating. If the family is happy, taking care of each other, talking and laughing, it can confirm the other's family atmosphere.
And from the attitude of the other's parents towards you when eating, you can also see how well the other's self-cultivation is.
03. The attitude of dealing with things, deciding whether the future life is stable,
, the last thing to feel, is actually the attitude of the other parent's handling of things.
Anyone who lives in the world often represents personal accomplishment, insight, and tolerance. If the parents-in-law you meet are sensible, understand advances and retreats, consider everything carefully, and do not engage in blindly, then this family education The children who come out often do the same, and will not be reckless.
If the parents-in-law you meet are at odds with others, quarreling with the Zhang family, and quarreling with the Li family, then you can imagine the children raised by such a family.
Especially marriage is not just a matter for two people. When you encounter unreasonable parents-in-law, your future married life will also have great hidden dangers. After all, your marriage needs to get along with each other's family often.
Therefore, the attitude of the other's family to deal with matters can often determine whether one's future life is stable.
And facing the in-laws who can't handle everything, they are destined to be injured after marriage in the future.
In short, what marriage requires is to choose carefully and face it seriously. In addition to looking at the person and character of the other party, you may also want to know more about the other party's family and parents.
A good family atmosphere and excellent parents are commendable, because such a family and parents are a congenital gift to their children and an inexhaustible precious inheritance in a lifetime.
So, Xiaoting’s mother’s statement can be said to be very pertinent. For women, choosing a partner is indeed necessaryObserved carefully.
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