Hello, everyone, I am the root of the tree.
have to say that boys often live in an environment that is constantly misunderstood.
, for example, unkind. For example, lust. For example, wait.
"You guys are all..." is really puzzling. The reason
says this is because I saw such a "self-righteous" topic on Zhihu two days ago: Will
boys also collapse? The root of
doesn't know what mentality the other party puts forward such a question, but I am really curious, so I clicked in to see how everyone answered this question.
Unsurprisingly, the comments are probably:
"Crash regardless of men and women"
"Are boys not human anymore"
"This question seems to ask whether boys are human"
If we must divide the collapse and vulnerability into girls' exclusive , Then maybe boys have to be given inherently strong attributes when they are not born.
Otherwise, what should they do when they have emotional ups and downs?
Actually, it's not because they don't have the emotion of collapse that boys rarely see a breakdown in life.
just face the responsibilities and obligations of the whole family, they must learn to forbear. There is no natural copper wall or iron wall in
, it's just made into steel.
This is the decision, compared to the "dominant" way girls resolve the emotional breakdown. The collapse of
boys is always silent, repressive "hidden" self-digestion.
is not the way they will not be "dominant".
But before this boy decides to deal with the emotional collapse in an "explicit" way, he must think about whether he can withstand external evaluations such as "a big man so hypocritical" and so on.
Therefore, most of the boys' crashes are silent.
Maybe they look normal, work normally, talk and laugh normally, socialize normally, eat and drink normally with friends.
even calmly comforted the friends across the wine table after the third round of drinking.
But who knows that the bad things in their hearts have actually accumulated to a certain extent?
always suppresses the emotion of collapse to the bottom of his heart, trying to solve it through self-digestion, which is probably the way boys deal with the collapse.
Therefore, boys who seem to be all right are just "depressed" patients. The root of
is the most impressive. I saw a "patient" on the Internet saying:
"In the daytime, I look like a normal person.
eat, drink, play, have fun, socialize, work, always one thing. The deputy looks positive and happy. Every time
comes home at night, although he can breathe a sigh of relief outside, he dare not let his family notice his bad emotions. Z2z
is helpless despite the fact that everything goes wrong.
Sometimes I can’t help lying on the bed in the middle of the night, tears burst out.
But thinking about the sleeping wife and children lying behind, you must hold back and not let yourself make any noise.
boys’ collapse is really silent, because Knowing that you have to carry your weight forward."
Yes, these seemingly normal "depression" patients are in fact abnormal long ago.
Although they will not slam doors, smash things, and will not be hysterical.
, but it may actually accumulate to the moment of collapse, and they will not speak or collapse.
They feel that they have no appetite for everything they eat, and they have no interest in what they do, and they even go into a meaningless infinite daze.
They don't want to live, nor dare to die.
bears the emotion of collapse in his heart, yet there is a mechanical smile on his face.
Maybe it wasn't until the moment before going to bed with their eyes closed at night that they dared to calm down the stiff smile carefully and truly release their emotions.
But so what, it doesn't matter to them.
They will be able to deal with their emotions before the sun rises tomorrow.
Brushing his teeth and washing his face as usual, eating breakfast, and then squeezing the bus and subway to go to work.
Although social animals have no dignity, they are still willing to carry forward with heavy burdens on the way to protect themselves and their families.
Z4z may be the case for the collapse of adults, silent and self-repressed.
But in order to better protect the people we want to protect, please be kind to yourself, don't fall down, take time to find a friend to talk about your concerns.
If you feel embarrassed for the sake of face between friends, or there is no one who is willing to listen.
Click "Learn more and come to me directly in the menu bar below. The root of the tree will always be your backing. Z2z
You can't fall down! Z2z
Good night, my friend. Z2z
Which moment will make you crash? Z5z
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