Chinese parents are always the most selfless dedication, they can work hard for their children for a lifetime. Starting from the birth of the child, education, raising, sending out to study, etc., after adulthood, he also helps to get married and help with grandchildren, and often needs to subsidize them. When
is old, he dare not live together for fear of being rejected by the children. All this is just because of being a parent and I hope the children are well.
1. The mother born in the 1970s had no choice but to complain: "No matter how rich you have money, don't buy a house for your daughter"
Aunt Huang is almost fifty years old, and she has just given birth to one daughter in her family. Fortunately, children have been well-behaved and smart since they were young, and their academic performance has been very good. They graduated from abroad two years ago and returned to China and stayed in big cities. The daughter of
has worked for two years and lived in a rented house. Sometimes she is far away from the company and has to get up at 6 or 7 in the morning. When the project is busy at night, she often works overtime until the end and there is no car to go home, so she can only take a taxi.
Aunt Huang asked her daughter to rent a place close to the company. She saw several houses. Either the shared house was not clean, or the single group was too expensive for lighting. With my daughter's current economic level, she can't afford the rent of several thousand yuan a month.
sometimes faces the experience of being kicked out by the landlord in the middle of the night when renting a house, and it is also very difficult to refund the deposit. Finally, Aunt Huang, who loves her daughter, bit her teeth after discussing with her wife to buy a two-bedroom apartment for her daughter.
asked her daughter to repay the loan by herself every month, and the down payment was more than half, which spent Aunt Huang's savings. At that time, Aunt Huang thought that it was only this daughter, his wife and herself, who hadn't retired, and she could work for a few years, so she could save some dowry money for her daughter. We are old-age, and the house in this hometown can still be sold for treatment at that time, and we can live in a nursing home.
2. As a result, less than a year ago, Aunt Huang began to regret
1. After buying the house, the children went home even less
Aunt Huang Tucao Since buying the house, the daughter rarely goes home, because in big cities His own nest. I usually get together with friends and make appointments around the surroundings on weekends. I feel a sense of belonging in the big city and gradually forget my parents in my hometown.
There is less and less intersection between the elderly and their children, and they no longer understand each other's lives. It is difficult to have common topics to discuss. Sometimes the phone call is trivial and homely, worrying about whether the daughter has eaten or sleep well, etc.
2. The daughter does not want to go into marriage.
After having a house, Aunt Huang found that her daughter's mate selection requirements have become higher. She wants her partner to have a car and house, preferably a local. After the aunt urged her to get married, her daughter said that she was doing well by herself and didn't feel lonely!
has a sense of home because of having his own house, so I don’t have that yearning for marriage. Moreover, after having a house of one's own, the idea will become different, and the requirements will naturally increase. Certainly, you cannot accept a person who does not have a house, and will live in your own house after marriage. At least it is of the same strength, everyone should have one house per person!
3. After buying the house, my daughter has become more passionate about work.
's daughter, who rarely goes home, has to repay the mortgage after buying the house, and wants to buy a trolley to live her own life. So I started a side job, and sometimes I can go home and rest in the middle of the night. The schedule was full, and Aunt Huang began to worry about her daughter's health.
Because of the pressure, the children will become more motivated, and some people become less motivated after their parents buy the house. Thinking that the house is all there, it is really impossible to let my parents help to pay off the mortgage, and my salary can support myself.
No matter what kind of mentality it is, it is because once you have a house, you will have confidence and will not worry about having no money to sleep on the street.
3. Whether or not to buy a house for their daughter, parents don’t care about money.
In fact, whether or not to buy a house for their children, parents don’t care about money. They just want to let the children go home and see them more so that parents will not be so lonely.
Children’s ideas are sometimes quite different from their parents, and they need to communicate more and tolerate each other. No one can fully understand another person, let alone two generations? So reserve part of the space for each other, do their own things, and occasionally care for each other and have family affection.
Parents also need to be more tolerant of their children. Sometimes letting go of their children to live on their own is also a kind of growth. After all, children will always have their own blessings when they are older, so don't worry too much!
