Being a mother is a bit crooked, and childrearing is very positive! (Text| 歪妈)
, my girlfriend Chen Jie complained to me "I doubt if my husband has an affair ".
Since Chen Jie became pregnant and , her husband was afraid that her own sleeplessness would affect her, so she moved to another room to sleep, but after the baby was born, , for the convenience of to take care of the child to feed the child , Husband still sleeps in another room with . As time passes, the between husband and wife seems to have no two people’s world . When there is a demand, ends in hastily due to various reasons of , and everything becomes boring , just Like a roommate in a shared room.
has changed from husband and wife to roommate, how many people have been in "asexual marriage"
have such distressed women is not just Chen Jie, many netizens leave messages discussing after giving birth to a child, and her husband have a gap , There are many family conflicts , in fact, the main reasons are as follows:
1. After the wife is pregnant, she sleeps in separate beds
Many families have experienced such situations as . After the wife was pregnant and gave birth to children, kept sleeping in separate beds , When sleeping in separate beds to take care of the children, ’s husbands who have a stronger sense of responsibility, come to look after regularly in the middle of the night, and some husbands only care about sleeping well , doesn’t care how ’s wife takes care of the children, whether will Tired .
So we, , often hear such remarks from , "The child seems to be who gave me a life of , and he doesn’t even care about it. When the wife is full of disappointment , the relationship between the two people is also difficult to restore . .Z5z
2. The focus is different, and there is less and less communication between husband and wife
The birth of a child makes 's two-person world become a family of three , raising children is a very hard thing . Chest rise Milk may be as hard as a stone when it is painful, and the body has not recovered from after delivery. However, you have to get up in the middle of the night and breastfeeding. Coupled with the changes in postpartum hormone levels, women do not have mood and physical strength at all. Life.
Family with children expenses increase , at this time the wife is also unable to work , the husband devotes himself to work to support the family , busy work coupled with sleep in separate beds lack of communication , Then the relationship between husband and wife will go farther and farther .
3. quarrel when there is a contradiction, and cold war after the quarrel
When two people have a conflict when they are young , it’s easy to say that after giving birth, the female body The hormone level changes , coupled with 's hard work in taking care of the baby easily lose control of emotions, some husbands are not tolerant and understanding at this time, the two will often quarrel.
especially couples who have no sense of responsibility for marriage , Unwilling to communicate, after quarreling, they just cold war , sleeping in separate beds leads to conflicts and estrangement between the two people accumulate day by day, in the end the relationship can no longer be restored.
couple occasionally sleep in separate beds, give A little bit of each other Independent and free space will increase the sense of freshness and help couples devote more love and energy to the marriage. However, long-term sleeping in separate beds will make the couple feel alienated and strange. Z2z is It is not conducive to the relationship between two people. If is used to sleeping in separate beds for a long time, and just eats and lives under one roof, then has really changed from a husband and wife relationship to a "roommate relationship." Z5z regain the passion of life , The establishment of the intimate relationship between husband and wife The relationship between husband and wife needs to be carefully maintained and operated by . We can try to change the bad state of through some methods. 1. grow together and achieve mutual achievement Carina Lau once saidAfter " has no permanent marriage, there are only couples who grow up together ." In marriage, the two people want to maintain the same pace of progress of , and works together to work hard. 2. Explore the fresh areas in life People have a strong curiosity for unknown areas
3. Leave a space for privacy
Between husband and wife Appropriate retention of Some privacy space is very necessary for . Giving each other an appropriate distance can increase the freshness between the husband and wife, and it will also make you always have a sense of mystery , and make the other party want to constantly explore .
Crooked mom Conclusion:
Many women and their husbands sleep in separate beds after giving birth. In fact, is not a very good way , because parenting is a family’s responsibility , and husbands should not be pushed to At that time, the husband and wife should experience the happiness of the father and the mother together. The company of , especially the father’s company, is also indispensable to the growth of the child, and taking care of the child together can also enhance the relationship between and husband.
Today’s topic: After gave birth, did you and your husband sleep in separate beds?
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