confidant: Dalu
(pseudonym, male, 38 years old)
This issue of confession focus-
after the outbreak of the epidemic, the business has declined, the peaceful life has been broken, and the originally harmonious couples have also continued to discord, blame each other and complain, and fall into love Crisis...
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■ Because I don’t have a stable job, my wife often complains about
. I often read your emotional articles. Most of these are about conflicts between husbands cheating on their wives and having an affair with their mother-in-law’s daughter-in-law. I’m a little confused, not this Can you talk about something like this here?
I have no affair with my wife and no cheating, even with others, but even so, the relationship between the two people is still not good. We quarrel every other day and we have little awkwardness every day. This year is about to pass, but we I didn't have a few days to go, I was so depressed and helpless.
Actually, my wife Xiaolei and I had a very good relationship. Her family was in a rural area. At first, she felt that marrying me was a high climb. She was obedient to me and filial to my parents. Just go back to my parents’ house, what about her I did it all. When my mother said that she wanted to hug her grandson very tactfully, she dispelled the idea of having a baby two years later and got pregnant early and gave birth to a daughter.
As for me, I understand that my parents are ordinary workers and the economic conditions of the family are average. I have never had the concept of being superior to her. On the contrary, I think she can definitely find someone richer than me based on her looks. Therefore, the two are good, and our life after marriage is not very rich, but it is harmonious.
The two quarreled because of money.
Last July, I rented a stall from the mall to sell grilled sausages and fried chicken fillets. The location of the stall is good, and I try my best to make the food delicious, so the business is still good. But because it is sublet, after paying the money, there will be four to five thousand left per month. Xiaolei complained that the business hours were long and tired, and the money she earned was given to the mall and the lessor, so she asked me to sell the stall to make health care products.
I didn’t agree, and I said that it’s hard to make the current business smoothly, and doing other things again is a waste of time and money. The money lost from opening a shop just paid back, and the running water of selling sausages also needs money, so I can’t invest blindly. Up. Xiao Lei was very upset, saying that it was because I didn't have the courage to make the family life never get rich.
As long as Xiao Lei mentioned this topic, I dare not say anything. When
was just married, my sister asked me to apply for a job in a factory. I think it’s inconvenient to go to work on the east side because it’s home in the west. Besides, I was working as a clerk in a government agency. Although it was not a formal establishment, I thought that maybe I could become a worker, so I said that I couldn’t transfer within five years. Just when I go again, sister-in-law said that you don't have to be in someone's house when you want to.
At that time, I still felt that the factory was incomparable with the organization. As a result, in five or six years, the factory mentioned by my sister-in-law could not be climbed high: I wanted to apply for only a master's degree, and I had to graduate from 211 college... …Z2z
Xiaolei supported me at the time, saying that she was also working in the east, and we could change the house there in the future. After arguing on this matter for a while, the following is gone. Now ordinary workers in that factory can earn seven or eight thousand, let alone other benefits, but I regret that it is too late.
When I was 30 years old, government agencies cleaned up external employees. I didn't want to work in a company. Seeing that my classmates were very profitable in opening a barbecue restaurant, I took the money from my parents for barbecue. Earning in the first year was okay, but after the next year, the rented venue was closed because of the creation of the city. I sold tables, chairs, benches, and barbecue tools at a cheap price. After
, there were several better development opportunities. Xiaolei also encouraged me to do it, but when I thought about investing a little bit, I persuaded Xiaolei to give up. It was not until last year when I sold grilled sausages and chicken fillets in the mall. Come down.
Due to lack of income during the epidemic, the two of them quarreled almost every day
, but my luck was not good. When the business became more and more prosperous, the epidemic came, the shopping mall was temporarily closed, and the hotel where Xiao Lei worked was closed, just like most people. , We have been at home since the Spring Festival. Seeing that we were sitting and eating, both of us were very anxious, and they kept arguing over trivial matters.
Because many children go to the mall and amusement park during the Spring Festival and the business is good, I bought a lot of goods before the festival. The freezer at the stall and the refrigerator at my parents' house are full. After the winter vacation, the business was obviously better than usual. I was very busy every day, but no oneUnexpectedly, when the epidemic came, the mall would not open in the third grade.
Because I was forced to stay at home, I changed my tricks to cook three meals a day for Xiaolei and her daughters, and also made snacks and snacks for them. The mothers ate very happily and praised my dexterity. After the meal, I drank tea and chatted with Xiao Lei, and my daughter watched TV. The days were much more comfortable than usual.
At that time, I didn’t think the consequences would be serious. I thought it would be back to normal in seven or eight days, but the more I watched the news, the more panicked I was: Although the sausage and chicken fillets in the freezer will not expire for a while, they can be baked after a long time. What should I do if it doesn't taste good, and I can't use it and don't want to throw it away. If you can’t open business for three months, the money you have saved at home will be gone, and you can’t ask your parents for food by then?
For a period of time, besides the chicken fillet, it was grilled sausages. I tried my best to stir-fry and bake it. I didn't stop until my girl said that she felt like vomiting when she smelled the grilled sausages.
Because of anxiety, I started to mess around with cooking, and I didn’t want to make dessert. Xiao Lei must be very irritable in her heart, she didn't even bother to fold the quilt after getting up. Seeing the quilt piled up on the bed, I said a few words to her, and she became unhappy, and said that you are also idle, why don't you do it.
I did not refute, but took a sigh of relief. After two days, Xiao Lei complained that the food was getting worse and worse. Seeing me drinking without a word, she became more and more angry: I can't open the pot at home. Do you still have the face to drink? The words
irritated me. I yelled at Xiao Lei while I was drinking, saying that I was under pressure but I didn’t get caring. Xiao Lei had only money in her eyes, but Xiao Lei was so angry that she ran out crying. After I was sober, I coaxed with my daughter in the garden of the community and persuaded her to go home.
That was the first time we quarreled and turned our faces during the epidemic. There was also a mistake before, and I endured it, because I knew that if I continued to argue, Xiao Lei would sort out all the small contradictions from beginning to end. Before
, Xiaolei turned over the old account and I hid, but after being locked up at home, I had nowhere to hide. Sometimes I couldn’t suppress my anger and I quarreled with Xiaolei. The more noisy I got, the worse I was. To the point of tolerance...
■ The child can’t stand our quarrels all day long, so he offered to divorce us. put. For example, I gave up going to the factory that my sister-in-law talked about. Every time Xiaolei mentioned that the owner of that factory was already the richest man in Shandong Province. If I gave up a good opportunity so easily, my brain was flooded; if I had listened to her, it would be too early. Turning the grilled sausage stall will not fall to the point where it is today...
Xiaolei was only complaining at first, and then turned into disgust, saying that marrying me didn't enjoy the blessing and just got tired. As for me, I started to listen, but her words got worse and worse. I couldn't help but quarrel with her. But if she quarreled with her, I went out to find a friend to have a sullen wine. When I came back, the quarrel was even worse, until a girl cried and said: You It’s been noisy all day, so annoying, I really can’t get together, the divorce is over, I’ll go with my grandparents...
It’s so sad that a twelve-year-old child can say such things. I suddenly woke up. I had a good talk with Xiaolei and said that she would work hard to make money in the future. Xiaolei also agreed well and said that she would not complain about me in the future.
It didn’t take long for a peaceful day. Because I lost more than 30,000 yuan at the trade booth, I couldn’t find a suitable business temporarily. I went to apply for a job at my favorite unit, but the age limit was exceeded. In desperation, I had no choice but to give a business table. Uncle is a driver. My cousin is a little bit stingy. He doesn’t pay a lot of salary, but he always finds me no matter how soon or late. This makes Xiaolei very upset, saying that selling grilled sausages is still a boss, but in the end he gets mixed up with driving. The worse I got worse, and I said that I was almost forty, and I didn't even have a serious job. I really didn't expect to follow me.
Originally, I kept admonishing myself to suppress my anger, but Xiaolei's nagging became endless, and the more I spoke, the more uglier I was, and I got mad and yelled at her loudly. In the end, she cried and went away. Ignoring anyone, after the reconciliation, the old drama repeats itself within a few days.
is like this. From the New Year to the present, I feel boring, but I can’t help it. I know that the root cause of the quarrel is money. I want to leave my cousin and borrow money to buy a car and drive Didi, but Xiaolei disagrees, saying that her family can only give 10,000 yuan, and my parents can only get 30,000 yuan, which I want to borrow. Too much money, if you can’t make it, it’s even worse if you just lose it or not, so you should find another way. I don't want to beThis thing goes against Xiao Lei’s meaning, afraid that she will complain at that time, but she has been unable to find a suitable way to make more money. The days are coming over in the noisy day, although the noisy is not to the point of separation, but the feelings But the more noisy, the lighter.
Now I am very contradictory. I want to start my own business without capital. I want to borrow but I am afraid that I cannot earn it. The key is that I have no confidence in what I want to do. Seeing that it was almost forty, I was so flustered that I was afraid that the older I was, the less opportunities would be, and that Xiaolei's grievances would be greater in the future, and I would feel more uncomfortable at home. Now my biggest wish is to find a suitable high-paying job to make my life a little more prosperous, so that Xiaolei and I will not quarrel with each other all day, and life may gradually become better. For more information, please pay attention to the "Weifang Radio and Television News"
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