Marriage is not love, it is only about the emotions of two people, but the fusion of one family and another family.
Qian Zhongshu wrote in "The Besieged City" that marriage is like a besieged city. People outside the besieged city want to come in. People want to go out.
two people form a new family, which means taking on bigger, more and longer responsibilities.
firewood, rice, oil and salt, support the family;
be filial to parents, respect your partner;
continue offspring, educating children...
all these are responsibilities, no matter where there is a trouble, it will lay hidden dangers to marriage.
The old saying goes well: people without long-term worries must have near-term worries.
Marriage is a boat carrying love between two people and an umbrella to protect the growth of children.
Marriage is not a safe for love, nor an impenetrable siege.
There are too many risks in marriage, among which money, emotions, and health are the most deadly.
People who enter into marriage can only keep their marriage safe and protect their family members if they are always in awe.
fear money, work hard together, gather wealth and keep money, it is a safety lock for marriage.
Respect for laws and disciplines, abide by marriage laws, respect morals and customs, and develop good family habits are the most basic protection of marriage.
Respect for life, strengthen exercise, pay attention to safety awareness, maintain physical and mental health, and have a positive attitude are the longevity soup injected into marriage.
However, not everyone, marriage is as good as expected.
can't help but sigh: What kind of curse is marriage? Can people who "originally love each other" become unfamiliar and selfish immediately after marriage?
Maybe, no one has changed, but the role has changed!
There are tens of millions of unhappy marriages, and too many women do not get the respect they deserve after marriage, and they are bullied.
men seem to be not good at dealing with family relationships. Most of them only use evasion to solve problems. Such people are cowardly.
But there are some people, regardless of any conflict between mother and wife, they have a noble moral look: "It is not easy for my mother to raise me so much. You should not treat her this way, you should treat her better."
is even more different. Many mothers-in-laws rely on themselves to have a "filial" son and make things difficult for their daughter-in-law.
has a hot search recently~ the mother-in-law said to the daughter-in-law: "I can find a better son without you"! The daughter-in-law of
was angrily: "Good Bingbing, your son is going to give people Bingbing shoes and people don't even look at him"!
looks like a funny joke, but it reflects the status quo of countless people's families.
Married woman is wronged in her husband's house, and her husband is not distressed and inaction! These 3 reasons point to the pain point
Most women suffer from grievances in their in-laws, but cannot get a response from their husbands. They can't escape these three reasons. Really!
1. No one in the family backed up
. The ancients really made sense to pay attention to the family. They are not all the same. Even if they are screwed together, there will still be various contradictions after marriage.
Because of the environment in which the two people lived since childhood, the education methods of the original family are different, the education they receive, the attitudes and methods of dealing with things and people are different.
For women, no matter what kind of family they marry, there must be someone who can speak in their natal family, and the mother-in-law family is psychologically afraid of three points.
Especially when there are conflicts in the first few times after marriage, if a woman is fragile and has no backbone, no one in her natal family can speak for her, or even speak out for her.
In the days after that, the in-laws' reckless behavior is certain.
As the saying goes: To bully you must pick soft persimmons!
Of course, most people are reasonable and easy to get along with. In case of unfairness, you can only suffer.
If there is no reliable person in your family, you must make yourself strong, otherwise, you will never have a good life.
2, your husband’s attitude towards you not as a
in-law depends on your husband’s attitude.
The status of a woman at home depends largely on her husband's attitude.
For in-laws, daughter-in-lawIt is a child of someone else's family, although it will say: "After getting married, I will treat you like a daughter."
But in fact, this is just a courtesy. After marriage you will find that your mother is still your mother, and your mother-in-law is still your mother-in-law.
Never think of mother-in-law as dear, because she is not at all.
There are countless silly women in marriage, from treating the mother-in-law as a mother to being unable to scream, only they themselves know what happened!
People’s hearts are not cold all day, but once some people are sad, they really hurt their bones.
3, not self-reliant, not self-reliant
marriage is not a long-term meal ticket, but a mirror.
If you say that a woman can be willful before marriage, but after marriage it means that you are living with the attitude and identity of the protagonist. No one in the family is used to you and spoils you like mom and dad.
Most women are in marriage and honed themselves to become strong women, even if they were only small women.
Countless women found that they wanted to find a man to live, but they found that life had made themselves a man.
Although it is sad to grow up, it is a treasure for women at every stage.
Those painful memories and cruel reality will inspire us to become better people.
Life is one's own, like a person drinking water, knowing his own temperature.
No one will sympathize with your cowardice and difficulty, even if you are just a weak woman, a mother with no income.
Fate will not take care of you, and society will not. Every day is a live broadcast.
If you want to have a good tomorrow, you have to push yourself cruelly. There is only the brilliance that can be achieved, not the brilliance that has been waiting.
Never pin your hopes on anyone, even your husband.
Many men think that marriage is a safe haven. Getting married just wants to live comfortably.
is like the marriage between Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu in this summer's super hot "Thirty Only". Except for a chicken feather, two people with different personalities have different dreams in the same bed. No one wants to change themselves.
Zhong Xiaoqin yelled at Chen Yu: "I want to avoid it, who will be Hong Kong?"
Yes, the reason why countless people are unhappy in marriage is because they put their hopes on others, always thinking that the vows in marriage are true Yes-I will use my whole life to treat you well.
The words of love that are still warm have not dissipated, and the faces of the people who once fell in love have changed. Everyone wants to live more comfortably, but where is there a warm harbor without paying?
Therefore, most women develop their own skills in their marriages. They can work and earn money and teach and bring their babies. They are versatile talents. Every experience of
is a kind of gain. Even if I am not happy now, all the experiences are paving the way to become a better one.
Author: zero voices
tribute: every stage of life growing up women!
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