Chen Yun always thought that Gao Cheng had not received the love of his parents since he was a child, and that he should have more yearning for normal family life and will make more contributions.
But she is still too naive. After three years of marriage, life is 1,000 times more cruel than she thought. Her poverty-relief marriage did not die of poverty, but was about to be destroyed by Huabei.
Now she wakes up: marriage is like a boat, requiring two people on the boat to paddle hard together. But sometimes one person wants to paddle forward, while the other person just wants to stop and blow. In a two-person boat, why is it that I am the only one to contribute, but you sit back and enjoy it?
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Poverty alleviation marriage is the most frightening without hope.
Married for 3 years, life is really a thousand times more cruel than Chen Yun thought.
When online car-hailing was very popular, Chen Yun moved his mind and wanted her husband Gaocheng to go to a sports car after get off work. Gao Cheng is very leisurely at get off work. After work, his favorite thing is to buy, buy and buy, Chen Yun thought, instead of letting Gao Cheng spend all kinds of advanced consumption after get off work, it is better to force him to go to a sports car.
But the car used to make money has become a tool for Gao Cheng to tease his sister.
Initially, Gao Cheng drove a ride before going to work in the morning, and went out immediately after dinner after get off work in the evening. At the beginning, I can earn two to three thousand per month. Later, it became less and less. Chen Yun asked. He always said that it was because of the decrease in platform subsidies. Slowly, he just went out for a run every other time. So thinking about it, those who can't make money, as long as Gao Cheng has something to do.
But unfortunately, once in a while, Chen Yun saw Gao Cheng's collection records. There were many penny payments, which were token payments. When Chen Yun asked what was going on, Gao Cheng said that he had met an acquaintance. But at this frequency, I'm afraid it is not to meet an acquaintance. If there is such an acquaintance, I always come to touch him and deliberately take advantage.
Chen Yun didn't want to be a fool, so he secretly installed a dash cam in the back seat. A week later, Chen Yun took the recorder back and found that most of the time Gao Cheng went out of the sports car was the same “acquaintance”. The conversation between the two was full of various sultry words.
Chen Yun questioned Gao Cheng with the driving recorder, Gao Cheng said with a clear face: I just want a happy mouth, like me, a poor person, which woman would like to follow me? After I ran the car, I went home.
Chen Yun is angry, yes, only she is a fool, a romantic man who is full of thoughts, will look at the poor man like Gao Cheng.
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I didn’t understand love when I first fell in love.
Gao Cheng is Chen Yun's first love. At that time, Chen Yun had just graduated and started working. Gao Cheng is 4 years older than Chen Yun. He has been working for several years, so he has more work and life experience. Z1z probably didn't understand love when he was first in love. In short, Chen Yun was attracted by Gao Cheng somehow. After the two of got together, Chen Yun asked Gao Cheng why the two previous love relationships broke up. Gao Cheng said: "They despise me for being poor." This aroused Chen Yun's heart: Why are women so material?
What's more, in Chen Yun's view, although Gao Cheng's life cannot be said to have a rich life, it is really not poor. Although Gao Cheng’s parents divorced very early, they still gave everything they could to help him buy a house in the provincial capital with a down payment. Gao Cheng’s income is medium, and half of his salary is paid off the mortgage every month, and half is used for living. Hold tightly.
Chen Yun is an only child, and his family is in a third-tier city. Both parents have stable jobs, and they are considered high salaries in small cities. So Chen Yun was prepared to settle down in the provincial capital very early. After being with Gao Cheng, Chen Yun's parents were not satisfied with Gao Cheng, on the one hand because of his family, and on the other hand because he felt that Gao Cheng was unsteady.
Chen Yun in love can hear these words : "He is only in his twenties, and he is naturally stable when he is old." Three years later, Chen Yun paid for her thoughtless sentence.
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There is no parent who can hold up their children. Finally, Chen Yun's parents agreed to their marriage. The wedding gift received more than 20,000 yuan. Gao Cheng's mother gave it to Chen Yun. Chen Yun was too tired to go to the bank. After changing hands, he gave it to Gao Cheng to deposit. More than half a year later, Chen Yun’s cousin temporarily borrowed money for turnover. Chen Yun asked Gao Cheng for the 20,000 yuan. Gao Cheng said, “I spent that money!” Chen Yun learned that Gao ChengBefore getting married, I owed a lot of credit card debts for credit cards and online loans. Chen Yun was not relieved. He checked Gao Cheng's credit records with a friend and found that his credit card was not overdue once or twice.
Chen Yun was a little silly, thinking about it, Gao Cheng's life was really comfortable. The mobile phone is the latest model. When the new shoes come out, they will catch up. Usually, I get a taxi when I get up late at work. Chen Yun asked him if he had ever thought about the future. He said: "We just make so much, what can I do if we can't save money? One day counts as one day."
Chen Yun, who was carefree before, felt worried for a moment. died. In this case, let alone the future, the children dare not ask for it.
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Marriage is like a boat, requiring two people on the boat to paddle hard together. But sometimes one person wants to paddle forward, while the other person just wants to stop and blow. In a two-person boat, why is it that I am the only one to contribute, but you sit back and enjoy it?
Gao Cheng has wine and is drunk. He finally drove a ride. He was not honest and settled. Chen Yun began to think of divorce in his heart, but at this time her father found out coronary heart disease and made two stents. Gao Cheng took the opportunity to take care of him for a few days, and showed his favor to Chen Yun. People of the older generation always persuade them to make peace without persuading them to leave. Chen Yun's mother persuaded Chen Yun to go back and live a good life, even if they subsidized a little. In the end, he said with great anxiety: Your father is like this, his heart can't stand the stimulation.
For fear of his parents worrying, Chen Yun went back and continued with Gao Cheng. But from beginning to end, Gao Cheng did not apologize. Chen Yun tried to communicate with him countless times: You have such a life and work attitude, you can live on, but there is no hope, no hope, and even children dare not give birth. Gao Cheng sneered when he heard it: You know that you don't even dare to give birth to a child because of unreasonable worry? You just look down on me to not have children.
Three years later, Chen Yun has given up his heart, just waiting to crush the last straw of the elephant:
I always thought that he had not received the love of his parents since he was a child, and he should have more yearning for normal family life, and there will be more Pay more. I'm still too naive.
The marriage of poverty alleviation must not be required. It is either physically or mentally tired, material and spiritual, there will always be one that will overwhelm you. The former, poor couples, Pepsi, and the latter, talk to cows and chickens and ducks. The boat of two married people can only join hands for a lifetime.
