The most important part of interpersonal relationships is respect, which is the so-called self-cultivation, which is reflected in the sense of boundaries in interacting with others.
For example, when you first meet someone, don’t ask about other people’s income or family members or other people’s privacy. This is the so-called sense of boundaries.
You can't just rashly say that you are very familiar with someone when you have only met them a few times. Whether you are familiar with them or not is not defined by how many meals you have had or when you went shopping and watched a movie. They really talk about everything and even exchange secrets.
However, in order to prove that they are familiar with the other person, some stupid people will even expose other people's privacy or secrets.
Many of these celebrities have also verified that when they say it, they feel like they are the other person's close friends, but if they don't say it, it seems like they are worse than ordinary friends.
But in fact, true friends know but don’t tell. The more they know each other’s privacy, the more they know that privacy cannot be spoken.
does not need to prove whether he is familiar with the other person, because big mouth is not the only way to verify friendship.
In mature relationships, people often have a sense of propriety and should keep silent about everything about the other party. Even the better the relationship, the less likely they will take the initiative to ask about other people's privacy, such as income, relationship between husband and wife, because these are not helpful to friendship at all.
I still remember there was a joke before, saying that the more a person knows, the faster he will die.
Bang⋯⋯You know too much.
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Therefore, smart people always maintain an appropriate sense of boundaries, give each other enough space, and form an independent sense of self. At the same time, they will help others within the scope of their abilities, which is called friends.
I consider myself a person with a good sense of boundaries. I don’t even ask for my husband’s mobile phone password unless he takes the initiative to tell me.
Of course I also know the reason why curiosity killed the cat. We are all independent individuals. Although we are in the marriage system, it is precisely this independence and non-gossip that maintains our sense of mystery. He has his circle of friends and I have mine. It is good for everyone to live in harmony and civility.
In fact, some people are very smart. For example, after participating in an event or taking a class with a celebrity or celebrity, they pretend to be familiar with someone else after getting their WeChat account, and then comment on others’ friends and take screenshots to prove that their circle of friends is vast.
But anyone with a discerning eye can tell at a glance that this kind of fake familiarity will not help her interpersonal relationships at all.
If a celebrity or star responds to her, it comes from the upbringing of a celebrity or star; if you don't respond to her, it's normal. If anyone responds, they probably won't be too busy.
But you said that if you really want to ask a celebrity or star for something, do you think others will pay attention to her?
I still don’t understand the meaning of this magical operation.
Speaking of this, I have to mention that since I published one or two articles about 100,000 and 200,000 plus, there are always people commenting on me in the background. It is obviously my fans' advice or messages to me. I marked it with a star, but someone told her to ignore me. I was also very upset by this magical operation.
To put it simply: I am the subject, I posted an article, someone left me a message, I posted it, and another person who doesn’t know me or my fans told my fans not to talk to me⋯⋯
What is the reason for this? Has any psychologist tried to figure out this person's purpose or thoughts?
Of course, the only thing I can be sure of is that if she leaves a message on me, she will probably also leave a message on other public accounts. Originally, she had something to do with me, but I really can’t bear it if she gets my fans, so I’ll just stay on the blacklist.
If a person doesn't even have a sense of boundaries, his life is really sad. I can imagine that as soon as she speaks, everyone will scatter. Who wants to be friends with someone who constantly tells others not to play with another person? Young or not? ? ?
