I saw this sentence on the Internet yesterday:
is intermittently complacent and constantly eats and waits for death.
After reading this, I will look back and think about myself, and I will be right. Isn’t this what I am talking about now?
The more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I felt, and my mood suddenly dropped to the extreme.
1. I understand the truth, but I still can’t control my emotions.
In terms of life, I seek a glimmer of hope for survival among the chicken feathers on the floor every day...
In terms of self-growth, I originally wanted to change the status quo through reading and writing. However, I persisted for more than half a year with little effect. Although
has also submitted a manuscript and received positive feedback, he still did not persist long enough and was not thorough enough.
Actually, this result was within my expectation. After all, I haven’t read or written for many years, and my foundation is weak. How could I reach the point of proficiency after a year and a half of persistence.
The seemingly effortless achievements of those big names are actually the result of countless days and nights of hard work and persistence.
understands the truth, but still can't manage his emotions well.
2. Emotions are a compass that conveys messages to us.
Ever since I had a child, my emotions have been particularly easy to explode. Sometimes I know that this is not good and want to control myself, but I always get angry for no reason, making myself often irritable and anxious...
I often feel that I can't do anything, and that I can't do anything well.
There is a saying:
Emotion is a compass, it conveys information to us.
If you are sad, why are you sad.
If you are anxious, what do you need to change?
Emotions are telling you what isn't working in your life.
No matter you are sad, anxious, panicked, depressed, internally conflicted, irritable, inferior, procrastinating, etc., in fact, these emotions are not you. They come and go, but you are still you. There is a saying in the book
: The way you interpret emotions and the state of constantly complaining about yourself are the source of your pain, not the emotion itself.
In other words, your emotions are determined by the way you look at things.
3. Mastering the correct method can better improve your mood.
There are many factors that affect mood, including
- our sleep
- our body
- our words What we do
- What we think
- The environment we live in
- The music we listen to
- Our breathing
These will affect our emotions and thus our lives.
There is a formula in the book that can well explain how emotions are generated:
Interpretation + identification + repetition = strong emotion
Interpretation: Explain some events and ideas based on inherent cognition
Identification: You choose to identify with a specific idea when it occurs
Repetition: The same idea appears repeatedly in your mind
Strong emotion: When you experience the same emotion multiple times, it has become part of your self-identity. Every time the thought associated with it comes up again, you will naturally experience the emotion again, and it will become more intense. This book
not only has theoretical support, but also provides special practical methods.
Now you might as well recall something that happened recently that made you angry, sad, frustrated, fearful or depressed, and then try to write down the answers to the following questions:
Interpretation: What happened, and what thoughts did you have as a result?
agrees: How do these thoughts make you react? Repeat: Do you identify with these thoughts repeatedly?
Through analysis, you will no longer be dominated by emotions when you encounter similar things next time.
4. Only by managing your emotions well can you achieve self-growth
Vernon Howard said in "Your Super Powerful Brain":
To change your emotions, try to change the way you look at someone or something.
Don't get hung up on your emotions as if you need them to survive.
Don't endorse your emotions as if they really define you.
Remember, emotions come and go, but you are still you.
If you also have such troubles, you are usually burdened by your own emotions. You want to change but are powerless and have no way to start.
Then, this book "Emotions by Me" written by the famous French psychologist Thibault Meurisse is definitely worth reading. Here is the answer you want.
