Details show self-cultivation, and eating shows your character.
Ma Weidu once said that you can tell a person’s character by watching him eat with chopsticks.
The breadth and depth of food culture has penetrated into every aspect of life. The fast-paced life makes modern people actively choose to reduce social interaction, and meeting friends at the dinner table has become a shortcut to socializing today.
If you want to understand the other person's character and cultivation, the easiest way is to have a meal with him, because it is easier for people at the dinner table to put down their guard and reveal his true character and purpose. As a person of loyalty, when we look at a person's cultivation, we must not look at his relationship with you, but at how he treats ordinary people.
Diet is the easiest way to reveal a person’s character. If you meet these three types of people at the dinner table, please stay away as soon as possible. Dealing with them will only consume your energy.
01: People who eat and look ugly
At a dinner party, if someone eats and looks ugly, it will be annoying.
In " Guanfu Dudu ", Mr. Ma once gave such an example. A friend came to the house for dinner, and the father of the protagonist of the story happened to be at home. The father didn't like to talk, and he quietly observed the two of them during the dinner. After the friend left, the father said to his son: "Son, you can't have a close relationship with this friend."
The son was puzzled and said to his father: "I have cooperated with this friend several times and we get along pretty well."
As a result, the father said earnestly: "You can basically tell from the way he eats that he is a selfish person."
It turned out that his father noticed that the friend had a habitual action when picking up vegetables, which was to insert the chopsticks into the dishes, turn them up, and then pull them a few times before picking them up.
The son argued again: "Everyone's habits are different, maybe he just doesn't pay attention to details." But in the father's view, if you are a person who lives in distress, it is understandable that you will eat ugly when facing a table of good food. But this friend is a boss, and his eating appearance can tell that he is an extremely selfish person. After a period of time, the son was put in a different position when doing business with that friend. The ugly friend abandoned him because of profit and betrayal, which just confirmed his father's previous judgment.
It may be understandable to pick and choose without scruples at home, but in some public dining places, people who still look ugly when eating will definitely not have good character.
The private lives of these people are relatively rough, and in fact, in the eyes of others, they lack education. Character is never a fig leaf for behavior. If you don’t even pay attention to details, you won’t be able to do things reliably.
02: People who take themselves as the center of the topic
At the dinner table, if someone can't control their mouth and looks at things subjectively, it will also be offensive.
Chen Meng graduated from graduate school this year. When attending an undergraduate reunion, she sat at the same table with her old classmate Zhao Jie.
During the dinner, Zhao Jie was full of sour grapes and said in a strange way that Chen Meng had become more aloof since her education became higher. Chen Meng was already very drunk, but Zhao Jie repeatedly tried to persuade her to drink, as if Chen Meng didn't drink and looked down on her.
The most annoying thing is that Zhao Jie also said that even Chen Meng can be admitted to graduate school, so she must be able to do it too.
In fact, Zhao Jie was already unemployed at this time. The kind-hearted Chen Meng also recommended several colleges to him to apply for. However, Zhao Jie complained that he was showing off his knowledge and mocked Chen Meng for being rustic like others at the same table.
Throughout the event, Chen Meng endured Zhao Jie talking to herself. Others also began to resent what Zhao Jie did.
Dinner Book is the best way to communicate feelings and promote friendship. What you eat is not important, what is important is the quality of the conversation.
Some people like to treat dinner parties as a show, crazily showing off their material wealth to others, and some people like to keep chatting about topics they like. Regardless of whether the other person is interested, these behaviors reveal that a person's self-cultivation needs to be improved urgently. When you encounter such people, staying away from them is the right choice.
03: People who like to eat and drink
Food is the most important thing for the people. Tasting delicious food is indeed a happy thing, but taking eating as the main purpose and eating and drinking among friends is very disgusting.
Changxiu is a senior this year and comes from a poor family. Ever since she entered college, she has loved eating and drinking.
Whenever her roommates go out to eat, she will find a way to join them. At first, everyone thought she was doing this because of her enthusiasm. Gradually, the roommates began to discover that Changxiu never paid for the party, and did not even accept the AA system.
Once, when roommate Han Xue suggested that everyone have a barbecue, Changxiu agreed well at first, but unexpectedly, after finishing the meal, he hurriedly left the table with the excuse of answering the phone.
finally got a "treat", but in fact it was just "changing the soup without changing the medicine." When she was a sophomore, Changxiu invited everyone to sing at a KTV. Her roommates felt that she had finally changed. When paying the bill, Changxiu took out the coupon she received on the roadside. After the discount, everyone still paid for it themselves.
This kind of thing has not happened once or twice. Her friends have also learned their lesson and drifted away from it. Four years later, Changxiu finally became a loner abandoned by his friends.
Three feet of ice does not last in a day.
At first, some people are broad-minded and don't mind being plotted, but if they keep taking advantage of others, a fool will not suffer the consequences.
A person who hurts his friends because of small temporary gains actually does not regard anyone as a friend. You may be just his tool. Your sincerity and kindness deserve to be left to people who really care about you, not to people like this.
This small detail of eating is definitely worth paying attention to. By eating, you can eliminate some people who are not suitable for dating, and they are worth savoring.
Who you go with on the road of life is very important. People who expose themselves at dinner must not be close friends.
Instead of exhausting your mind on how to deal with a relationship that shouldn't be there, it is better to select the person who is matching you. Such peers are a win-win situation.
