There are thousands of couples in the world, and each couple has its own way of getting along.
As the saying goes, every family has a difficult book to recite.
In today's society, there are many people who get married and divorce. Some couples seem to be in love, but in the eyes of outsiders, they are a model couple who are well matched.
However, the marriage suddenly disintegrated one day without any warning.
Outsiders looked confused, and even the parties involved in the marriage were kept in the dark and didn't understand the reason.
Even, many people think that the reason for their separation seems "absurd" and they should not get divorced.
01.
Xiaofen and Xiaogang are a couple. After being introduced by someone, they got married naturally after two years of getting along.
After getting married, the two have always had a good relationship and they are loving husband and wife.
Xiaofen is a hard-working, simple and kind-hearted professional woman, gentle and virtuous, very considerate and caring for others.
02.
One day, Xiaofen got off work and went to pick up her children and go home from school. After picking up the children, I went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, and then hurried home to cook.
After finishing the meal, Xiaofen answered the questions about the children's meals and tutored the children on their homework. They were very busy.
As for her husband, Xiaogang, who came back from get off work, he was sitting on the sofa paralyzed, playing with his mobile phone without even raising his eyelids.
Xiaofen reminded Xiaogang:
"I'll wash the dishes later."
Xiaogang: "Okay".
3.
About an hour later, the child’s homework tutoring was finished. When Xiaofen came out of the child’s room, she found:
Her husband Xiaogang was still lying on the sofa, browsing on his mobile phone.
Xiaofen reminded again:
"Xiaogang, please wash the dishes."
Xiaogang:
"I know, I'll wash it later. You go and do your own business."
04.
Xiaofen then continued busy:
After giving the child a bath, he also took a shower himself. , and washed all the dirty clothes at home.
After washing the clothes, when Xiaofen was drying them, she found that Xiaogang was still sitting on the sofa looking at his mobile phone, while the bowl on the table did not move at all.
Xiaofen:
"Xiao Gang, remember to wash the dishes later!"
Xiao Gang:
"Oh, don't rush me, I will wash it, don't worry!"
Xiaofen then continued to do housework:
By the time she put away the children's toys and mopped the floor, it was already past 11 o'clock in the evening.
She glanced at the bowl on the table and found it untouched.
According to past practice, if Xiaofen couldn't stand it, she would wash it herself.
But this time, she didn't wash it. She wanted to see, if she didn't wash it, when would the child's father plan to wash it?
05.
At about 12 o'clock in the evening, Xiaogang threw his mobile phone aside to charge (the phone ran out of battery while playing), and walked into the bedroom with a sigh of relief.
Xiaofen saw Xiaogang entering the room and couldn't help but ask again: "Xiaogang, have the dishes been washed?"
Xiaogang:
"Let's wash them tomorrow! It's too late today. I want to sleep. I can't open my eyes. I'm so sleepy." "
That night, from when Xiaogang entered the room and said the above sentence to when he took off his clothes and went to bed and got under the quilt to sleep, Xiaofen didn't say another word to Xiaogang. She took off her clothes angrily and gave her back to Xiaogang.
06.
The next day, Xiaogang got up and dressed, and asked casually:
"Honey, what are you cooking for breakfast?"
Xiao Fen angrily said:
"The pot has not been washed, and the bowls have not been washed. How can we make breakfast? What are we going to eat? Not done!"
Xiaogang turned to look at the pile of bowls and said:
"Then let me go out to eat! Otherwise, it's too late and I'll be late."
Xiaofen couldn't help but asked Xiaogang casually:
"Didn't you say you knew how to wash the dishes? When are you going to wash them? Just a few bowls, how many hours have they been sitting there?"
Xiaogang:
"Oh, it's such a small thing, look at your ink stain. You're in a rush in the morning and it's too late to go to work. Just wash it after you get back from get off work in the evening.""
07.
Xiaogang looked unhappy when he said these words. The tone and attitude expressed in
's words are already very unhappy.
Xiaofen resisted the urge to wash the dishes. After sending her children to school, she also went to work.
In the evening, when Xiaofen picked up her children and returned home, she took a look:
Xiaogang still hadn't washed the pile of bowls.
Xiaogang got off work first that day and was still sitting on the sofa, "Geyou paralyzed", lying down and scrolling through his mobile phone.
Xiaogang saw Xiaofen looking at him, and the silence was louder than the sound at this time.
Before Xiaofen could ask, Xiaogang felt unhappy and angry:
"Why don't you just wash the dishes?" What will happen if you wash it? Can I lose a piece of meat? Is it necessary to keep staring at me and let me wash?
is such a trivial matter, do the couple have to worry about it? If I marry you home, what can I do if you wash the dishes? "
08.
Xiaofen was silent when she heard that Xiaogang had taken the initiative and stopped working.
The thought of divorce suddenly flashed through her mind.
She was furious: "It was originally your fault, but everything has become my fault as a woman. If I wash those dishes, this won't happen? "
Xiaofen felt particularly aggrieved:
I came back from get off work yesterday and picked up the children from school, bought groceries and cooked meals, helped the children with their homework, washed the clothes, bathed the children, mopped the floor, cleaned the room, and put the children to bed... I did countless things, just asking the child's father to wash the dishes, but he kept putting off, and finally, he even raked the dishes.
So, at that moment, Xiaofen had the idea of divorcing Xiaogang!
It can be seen that Xiaofen's desire to divorce Xiaogang was not just a whim. , it was groundless, and it wasn’t because Xiaogang cheated on her or didn’t take the money home, it was because of small things like washing dishes, which made Xiaofen feel that Xiaogang had no sense of responsibility and was an irresponsible man.
There is still a long way to go in life, and the children are still young. In the days to come, there will be many emergencies.
Faced with the man in front of me who can't even do such a small thing as washing dishes, puts things off again and again, has no ability to execute, and doesn't keep his word, he can't live this life, he has no future.
In this kind of widowed marriage , if a woman tolerates it and wants to maintain the marriage, she must turn a blind eye to the man's failure to fulfill his duties, his promises, and his lack of family responsibility, and pay willingly.
If you care about men, it will be a woman's fault.
Xiaofen filed for divorce from Xiaogang.
Xiaogang was confused. He didn't understand that his role as a model husband had touched the nerves of his wife Xiaofen, causing her to file for divorce from him so decisively.
Xiaogang couldn't understand the reason for Xiaofen's divorce:
He went home after get off work every day, never made fair friends, had no money in his pocket (his pocket was cleaner than his face), didn't go to dance halls, didn't play cards, and made a lot of money to help his family. Such a "treasure" that was "hard to find under a lantern", his wife Xiaofen actually disliked him as if he were throwing away garbage, and wanted to expel him from the family.
Xiaogang felt that Xiaofen was making a fuss out of a molehill by filing for divorce because he didn't wash the dishes.
Xiaogang is puzzled.
#Marriage and Love Manual#
