Husbands and wives need to trust each other, especially couples who work in different places. After all, they often live apart in two places. If they don't trust each other, they will inevitably have random thoughts.
The prerequisite for a wife to establish mutual trust is that she does not lie, knows how to consider the other person when doing things, and must provide reasonable explanations and explanations afterwards to satisfy the other party.
When things happen, they don’t explain or explain things. Over time, trust will decrease, and it can even directly affect the relationship between each other.
There is such an example. A man who was working abroad did not send living expenses home and did not explain to his wife. The wife came to the construction site to file for divorce with him.
This man lived in his wife's house after marriage. The couple went to and from get off work together every day and lived a very happy life. However, since he had a child, everything has changed.
The wife needs to be responsible for taking care of the children at home and cannot go to work to earn money as before. However, relying solely on the man to work and earn money cannot meet the daily expenses of the family.
In order to break the status quo, the man discussed with his wife that he would quit his job and go to work at a construction site in another place, hoping to earn more money to support his family.
After hearing his thoughts, his wife felt that he was a motivated and responsible man. She felt very happy and agreed to let him go out to work without hesitation.
At first, he would send money home to his wife on time every month for living expenses.
However, just four months after he left his hometown, he never sent money home again.
When his wife called him, as soon as she asked him to send money home, he would change the subject or hang up the phone directly without explaining to his wife why he did not send money home.
As time went by, my wife felt something was wrong. So, he sent the child back to his parents' home for his mother to help take care of him, and then he took a car to the construction site to find out the reason.
When she came to the construction site, she saw her husband wearing a red hat and standing in an open field watching the workers at work.
She originally thought that her husband was sick, so she didn't earn any money to send home. When she saw her husband who was safe and sound, she became furious.
She casually picked up a long wooden stick, walked up to her husband, put the wooden stick against his chest, lifted his hat, and then asked him: Why don't you send money home? Where did you spend the money you earned?
The husband was very happy when he saw that his wife could come to visit him at the construction site. Even though his wife held a wooden stick against his chest, he was not angry.
He comforted his wife and told her to go back to the dormitory to talk about something and not let the co-workers laugh. However, his wife refused to listen and insisted on telling him the reason why he did not send money home.
He explained: I have been working hard, but the project payment has not been received yet, so I have no money to send home.
His wife doesn’t believe his explanation and thinks he has changed his mind. After all, he has not paid his salary. He can explain to her why he evades every time he calls to ask for money.
Just when he was about to continue explaining to his wife, his co-workers were worried that the couple would quarrel at the construction site, which would have a bad impact, so they came over to drag him to work.
When his wife couldn't get a reasonable explanation, she filed for divorce from him. But he ignored him and followed the workers into the construction site without looking back.
Author's point of view: In fact, it is not surprising that his wife would be angry about this matter, because it was originally a very small matter, but he did not know how to explain it, and was even too lazy to explain it to his wife, which made his wife unhappy.
When his wife calls him to ask for living expenses, he can tell her directly that he has not been paid at the construction site, so he has no money to send home. I believe that his wife will understand, instead of choosing to avoid and let her think wildly.
Moreover, when his wife came to the construction site to find him, he had more opportunities and conditions to explain that he should not leave with his coworkers, otherwise his wife would not file for divorce from him.
He can ask his wife to go to the construction site and ask some workers alone whether they have been paid in recent months. After the wife asked them, she would naturally believe that what her husband said was true.
