Yesterday, Aunt Wu from downstairs came up to complain that her daughter had a boyfriend from another province. Aunt Wu's daughter is two years younger than me. She is very pretty. She has been a good child since she was a child and has never done anything extraordinary.
Aunt Wu does not have very high requirements for her daughter. As long as her daughter can have a stable job and find a boy who treats her well, she will be satisfied. But what Aunt Wu didn't expect was that her daughter would find a boy from other provinces.
Last week, Aunt Wu’s daughter came to the house with her boyfriend for the first time. When they met for the first time, Aunt Wu felt that the young man was pretty good in terms of appearance, conduct and family. But the only bad thing is that I'm not a local.
Aunt Wu has only one daughter. If the two of them agree, then this means that Aunt Wu and her daughter will be "separated." Don't say that transportation is convenient nowadays. If you miss each other, buy a ticket immediately and you can meet in a few hours. No matter how convenient the transportation is, it cannot change the fact that communication is not convenient when my daughter is not around.
We don’t know what Aunt Wu’s daughter is thinking. I only know that the girls around me who are marrying far away are directly risking the rest of their lives. If it succeeds, you will live happily alone, and your family will live a life of lovesickness. If they live an unhappy life, both the girl and her parents will live in fear and complete ruin.
Girls who marry far away will have many disadvantages. First, it is the issue of “communication”. The communication issues here include not only dialects, but also customs. When girls arrive in a new and different place, they face tremendous pressure. There are some remote mother-in-laws who cannot speak Mandarin but only dialects. Communication is a serious problem.
Secondly, if your mother’s family is not around, you will be easily bullied. Some families in Guangdong do so in a big way when marrying off their daughters, so that they can show off their family's strength so that their daughters will not be made any trouble when they marry. Having a strong natal family is very important. As long as the natal family is strong, no matter what happens, the daughter who gets married will have confidence. If there is any grievance or injustice, the mother's family will come out to seek justice. Even if there is a quarrel, you can still go back to your parents' home.
Third, place your happiness entirely on boys. If boys are always nice to girls who marry far away, then it's okay. If the boy is not good enough, then the girl who marries far away will definitely live an unhappy life. Of course, this is the same for girls who are recently married. It’s just that girls who marry closer are not as risky as girls who marry far away.
Girls who marry far away are somewhat cruel to their parents. For the sake of a boy, he was willing to abandon his parents who had raised him for more than 20 years. We don’t know whether Aunt Wu will agree to her daughter’s marriage. We only know that Aunt Wu is ready. As long as his daughter settles down somewhere, he will buy a house in the city where he is and stay with his daughter!
