In my life, I have given it to my children and parents-in-law in the first half of my life, and to my grandchildren in the second half of my life. If I had not become a Xiaoyang person, I would never have thought of stopping to live a life for myself.
My name is Meng Yao. I am 60 years old and an ordinary rural woman.
When I was young, my wife was working in another place and I was at home with my children. In modern terms, I was a left-behind woman and my children were left-behind children.
There is no time to finish the work in the countryside if you want to do it. Planting in spring and harvesting in autumn is covered in mud on sunny days and mud on rainy days. When you are busy, you don't even bother to eat.
Thanks to my parents-in-law who take care of me and help me from time to time, I can get through the tough times.
As soon as the children were separated, the mother-in-law suffered another stroke and collapsed on the bed. Although their children have more than one lover, we can't just let it go, right?
Everyone gets old. Isn’t their today our tomorrow? The most important way to educate your children is to lead by example.
My two sisters-in-law and I took on the heavy responsibility of taking care of my mother-in-law.
My lover has seven brothers and sisters, three boys and four girls. Men have to earn money outside the home to support their families, and sisters-in-law also have families of their own, so they cannot rely too much on them.
What's more, at that time, people who had sons had to take care of their daughters in old age, which would make people laugh if it spread.
My mother-in-law finally passed away after five years of paralysis. She was 72 years old that year, and my father-in-law also died without illness the next year.
I have also climbed the threshold of fifty.
My daughter went to normal school and taught in the county town after graduation. She happened to get married the year her father-in-law passed away. Seeing that I had nothing to worry about at home, she told me in advance and asked me to help her take care of the children.
"It's only right to let your mother-in-law take care of your grandson, and grandma will take care of your grandson! I still have to farm:"
"Mom, you know, my mother-in-law and I don't get along, and I'm afraid that if she comes, your son-in-law will find it difficult to live in the middle.
Besides, your two acres of land will be useless if you don't plant it. You two can't spend my father's salary at all, so why are you so tired? "
My lover also advised me: "Don't plant the land, you don't know what your girl's temper is, just obey her."
So, I started to take care of my grandson, and I didn't let go until he went to kindergarten.
Before we could catch our breath, our son got married, and our grandson came again...
A year from now, my wife retired, and we didn't go back to the countryside, so we bought a small second home in the county.
We are all old, and it would be nice to have our children by our side to take care of us.
I go to my children’s house to take care of them during the day, and go back to my own home at night. My lover can also help me, which makes me feel a lot more relaxed.
My daughter said that when her younger brother’s child goes to kindergarten, they will have a second child and let me take care of it.
I smiled bitterly, but did not refuse.
After three years of raising my grandson, and three years of epidemic, the little people have become accustomed to going out in full gear, and wearing masks has become a matter of course.
But with the opening up of the national epidemic prevention policy, even if you wear a mask all day long, you still have not escaped the poison of virus , and there are more and more people around you.
Unfortunately, I also fell into the trap.
I felt dizzy when I woke up that morning. When I checked the thermometer , my fever had already reached 38 degrees. I have antigen test paper at home, and I test two bars at a time.
I asked my wife to call my son and put the speakerphone on. I told him that we would not go there and asked them and the children to take precautions.
The son's tone was obviously irritated: "Why didn't you tell me earlier that you couldn't come over? I have to be on duty, what should I do with the child?"
"You or the mother of the child can take a leave. There is really no other way. Your mother only felt this morning..."
"Dad, you are okay. Why don't you come over and take care of the child? I will go to the work unit and try to come back in the afternoon.
l0It's time to go to work soon, and it's not appropriate to ask for leave..."
"What will your mother do if I go to your house? Her fever must have reached 38 degrees now!
In your heart, is your job more important or your mother's life?
Besides, your mother is already infected and I’m afraid I won’t be able to take it off. Aren’t you afraid of infecting the child? "
The son muttered something and hung up the phone.
My wife looked at me, shook her head in disappointment, and went to the drawer to look for spare medicine.
Only then did I remember that all the medicines I bought a few days ago were not brought back to my son’s house. There was no medicine at home that could reduce fever.
called again, but his son didn't answer the call.
I told my wife: "How about you call your daughter and ask if she has any medicine at home? If she does, ask her to bring it to the door, and we can go out and get it ourselves..."
My daughter's phone calls were answered very quickly. One day we were looking for antipyretic medicine, and she kept saying:
"Dad, Mom, what a coincidence. I have two boxes of antipyretics at home. The day before yesterday, the child's father went to his hometown and brought them back to my parents-in-law.
Now we only have the ones for the children at home. How about you think of something else?"
My lover hung up the phone silently.
"I'll go out and look around to see if I can buy..."
My lover went out, and I lay in bed crying silently. I don't understand what went wrong. I have been kind to others all my life, and I have been very filial to my parents-in-law. How could I have raised two such ungrateful children?
My lover went out for a long time and didn't come back. What I said seemed to be getting worse, and he was half asleep and half awake.
The sudden ringing of the phone made me try hard to open my eyes. When I answered the phone, I realized that it was my eldest sister-in-law calling me:
"Hey, Aunt Xie, why did it take you so long to answer the phone?"
"Oh, sister-in-law, I don't feel well, I have a fever. Your brother-in-law went out to buy medicine, and he hasn't come back for a long time. I don't know if he can buy it..."
As soon as I spoke, I was startled by my own hoarse voice.
"You also have a cold. It's okay. I have medicine at home. I'll ask your nephew to send it to you right away. Don't let his uncle wander around outside..."
"Sister-in-law, no need, they say this disease is life-threatening. If you can't buy a hospital now, it will be over."
"How can this be done! It's hard to buy medicine now. I bought this in advance when the highway was opened.
Don't worry about it, I'll ask him to deliver it right away. It's only a 20-minute drive away, and it's not really that far. "
" That's okay. You ask him to come over and make a phone call. Leave it at the security guard at the entrance of the community. I'll ask his uncle to pick it up.
Be sure to protect yourself..."
"Well, I won't let him get off the car! "
I called my lover back and asked him to wait at the gate of the community.
It really only took more than 20 minutes. My nephew sent the medicine over. He also put the medicine in a carton filled with eggs:
"Uncle, my mother said, if my aunt has a bad cough, give her some egg water to drink. She watched the video
The medicine is at the bottom of the box, and there are some herbs. These things are in short supply now. My mother is afraid that if she leaves them with the security guard, she will be intercepted again..."
When my lover came back and told me about it, I couldn't help but laugh. It's rare for a big brother like my sister-in-law to be so careful.
My son called me back in the afternoon and asked me if I had anything else to do on the phone. I told him that nothing happened.
I fully expected him to ask me, "Do you still have fever?" Do you have any medicine at home?
is destined to disappoint me.
My daughter, too, only remembered it at night and asked me if my fever had gone down. She said that my son-in-law had bought some medicine at a high price from a colleague and asked if I wanted to send it over.
I...
I just lay in bed for five days and it was almost healed. My lover should be naturally immune to and , but he was not infected.
Of course, this may be attributed to the herbs my sister-in-law gave me.
Soak your feet in mugwort leaves and smoke them, Toad grass Boil water instead of tea...
On the seventh day, my son lost his temper and asked me if I was okay: "The child has to look for grandma all day long, and we can't take any more leave.
There is still home at home. It’s all a mess, Mom, we can’t even find a clue to clean it up...
After hearing this, my wife and I shook our heads with a bitter smile. My son regarded us as free nannies.
My wife said: "It is better to rely on ourselves than to rely on our children. In the end, no one can count on us."Old lady, I've thought about it. When you get better, let's go back to the countryside.
People in the countryside, if nothing else, are kind-hearted, not to mention that we still have a group of old brothers and sisters together.
Don't worry about whether they want a second child or a third child. We are all over 60 years old and have to think about ourselves.
We can’t let them rely on us for the rest of their lives! If you can support them, just raise them. If you can't, we can't take care of them..."
After listening to my lover's words, I nodded, yes, they have to learn to grow up on their own and shoulder their responsibilities. We old people have to withdraw from their lives...
Conclusion:
Nowadays, many young people take the elderly to help them as a matter of course. They also say that if you don’t help me take care of the children, I will not provide for you in old age.
But they have forgotten. , the elderly also have their own difficulties and things that are beyond their power.
They have even forgotten that the elderly also need care.
Some elderly people, in order to help their children, do not hesitate to add problems to themselves, and they are still afraid of increasing the burden on their children.
They protect their children under their wings, always feeling that they have not grown up yet, but they forget that children whose parents do not let go will never understand the meaning of the word responsibility.
Therefore, no matter the elderly or children, only by learning to withdraw from each other's lives can they grow better.
