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I don’t know if you have discovered that if you want a long-term relationship between one person and another, it actually requires skills, that is, be intimate when you should be intimate, and not be intimate when you shouldn’t be.
Only in this way can the relationship between two people last long. Especially sometimes, you will find that no matter when a person is closer to you, you will be more uncomfortable and uncomfortable.
Because you are like this, the two of you have expectations and hopes for each other, what you want the other person to do, and how you want the other person to do it. At this time, you will find that the other person is not as good as you thought.
Once this happens, a relationship will not last long and a relationship will not get better.
So a truly good relationship is actually about having a sense of proportion and boundaries. In this way, a relationship will be thicker. If you want a relationship to last longer, the best way is to do three things: don't cross the line, don't please, and don't care.
Do not cross the boundary
In any relationship, once the boundary is crossed, problems will arise in the relationship, because the relationship should be what it is originally, and once the boundary is crossed, problems will inevitably occur.
For example, sometimes, the relationship between you and a person is originally that of friends, but your care for the other person has exceeded the boundaries of your relationship, and then the relationship will become ambiguous.
Once there is ambiguity, it is easy for something to happen. Once something goes wrong, there will be problems in the relationship.
So no matter what time it is, no relationship can cross the boundary.
When my friend Xiao Cheng was working in the company, he had a female colleague with whom he had a good relationship. At first, it was a normal chat between colleagues, but as time went by, the content of the chat between the two changed.
From work to life, they started to care about each other every day. In the beginning, they cared like friends, but as time went by, the care between the two changed, from caring to missing each other.
In the end, the relationship between the two became ambiguous, and they even fell in love together. In fact, no matter what kind of relationship it is, there must be certain boundaries, and not all relationships can cross the boundaries. There is some relationship between
. Once the boundary is crossed, problems will occur, and when problems occur, many of us cannot afford it.
So no matter when, when you want a relationship to last longer, the first thing to do is not to cross the line, that is, no matter when, always maintain the relationship of friends or colleagues.
Only when the boundaries are not crossed, there will be no problems between each other, and a relationship will last long.
Unpleasant
Sometimes, the relationship between people is mutual, that is, two people must feel comfortable with each other. Once both people feel comfortable, a relationship will inevitably last a long time, and a relationship will inevitably become better and better.
When a relationship gets better and better, you will find that the relationship between two people will last for a long time, because when they get along together, they are very comfortable, and when they get along together, both of them can feel the beauty of the relationship.
At this time, a relationship must be long-lasting and a relationship must be stable.
But in some relationships, when we get along, we need to please the other party. That is to say, many times, we need to please the other party. It seems that only by pleasing the other party can our relationship with the other party become better.
At this time, you will find that two people are uncomfortable and unhappy together. Once we are uncomfortable and unhappy, we are not willing to be with the same person.
The relationship between two people will not get better in this way, so in this life, what we always need to know is that when we are with a person, we should not try to please the other person, nor let the other person please you.
Once there is flattery, the relationship will not be good and the relationship will not be stable. But only if there is no flattery and equal equality, a relationship will be better and longer-lasting.
Don’t care
What people are most afraid of is caring. When we care too much, there will be problems in the relationship. When we care too much, the relationship will become different. So many times, what we really have to do is not care.
That is to say, don’t worry about too many things, especially trivial things. The more you worry about it, you will find that the more conflicts you have with a person, the more problems you have with a person. When there are more problems, you will find that your life will only be more difficult in the future.
So no matter what time it is, what we always need to know is that the world of emotions is like this, and what we really need to do is to care about other people's feelings and value other people's feelings.
When we can care about other people's feelings and value other people's feelings, you will find that your life will be smoother and better.
Because we don’t care about many things anymore, and we don’t care about many things anymore. The more we care about, the more we care, you will find that the more painful you are, the more uncomfortable a relationship will be.
So no matter what time it is, what you must always understand is that you must learn not to care.
When we learn not to care about whoever we are with, we will find that many things become much simpler and more comfortable.
So no matter what time it is, what you need to know is that when you care about it, you are uncomfortable, others are uncomfortable, you are unhappy, and others are unhappy.
At this time, no relationship will get better, and no relationship will be happy.
And if you want a better relationship and a longer-lasting relationship, the best way is to learn not to care, that is, to look at many things openly. When faced with a series of things, what will I do if we encounter this thing five years later?
At this time, when we find that we don’t pay attention to it, we will find that these things are actually not important at all and don’t matter at all.
So now we must learn not to care about it, not to let ourselves suffer and feel uncomfortable. The more painful and uncomfortable we are, the more unhappy we will be.
In fact, this is how people get along with each other. When you cross the line, problems will easily arise in the relationship. When you try to please, you will feel uncomfortable and the relationship will have problems. When you care about it, the relationship will not get better. So at this time, when you want to have a longer relationship with a person, the best way is to maintain the above three points.
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