A 34-year-old migrant worker from Henan Province taught himself English in order to work in Africa. After 6 years, he married a wife but could not have a child.
Author: Mr. Xiao Han
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Pang Yanbin is 45 years old. This is his ninth year in Zambia.
11 years ago, in order to marry a wife, Pang Yanbin taught himself English for two years, and then with the help of his friends, he went to Zambia, Africa, to work hard. In 6 years, he lived frugally and made a lot of money, and successfully married an African wife. However, he never imagined that the wife he had worked so hard to marry could not have children.
This was a very heavy blow to Pang Yanbin, but he was reluctant to divorce.
Many friends advised: Get a divorce and find a new one, it’s not like you can’t find one.
Pang Yanbin is not sure that he will be able to find a wife again after his divorce. After all, he is just an ordinary worker, not a big boss. In Africa, he also has a strong belief in materialistic life. When his wife was willing to marry him, he thought that a monthly salary of 10,000 yuan was an unimaginable figure for his wife and her family.
Three years have passed, and Pang Yanbin, who has reached middle age, is in a dilemma, not knowing where to go.
The following is a self-report from Pang Yanbin:
My name is Pang Yanbin, from Anyang, Henan, I am 45 years old.
was born in a rural area and has lived a life of poverty since childhood. With six children in the family, his parents feel a lot of pressure. But at the same time, his father is happy because in this family, there are two more sons than daughters, which means more labor in the future.
When I entered school, my parents had little awareness of education. I only started studying when I was 8 years old. But at that time, I could skip a grade if I studied well. After finishing the first grade, I went directly to the third grade. But after graduating from junior high school, I stopped studying because my academic performance was very poor and my parents felt that schooling was unnecessary, so they started working outside.
I am the youngest boy in the family. After my eldest and second brothers got married, we already had a lot of foreign debts. My father asked us to find ways to marry ourselves.
Although I work as a worker, I have also visited many cities. Sometimes I feel that I am a city dweller. I have their living standards and attitudes towards life. The only thing I lack is an identity certificate.
When I was young, I was ignorant and didn't save money. I was what everyone calls the "moon-light tribe" . After thirty years old, I started to worry because I didn't have a wife. Every year when I went home to celebrate the New Year, people in the village would ask questions, which made people very embarrassed and didn't know how to answer. Maybe it’s because I have stayed in the city for too long, and I also like learning new knowledge, and I started to change my thinking.
Some of my colleagues who worked with me went to foreign countries and lived a very good life. However, they could not speak foreign languages, and no boss was willing to take me with them, so they have been working hard in China. Once a person determines a goal, he will move forward towards the goal. At that time, he also thought about marrying a foreign wife. After all, foreigners do not have a bride price and do not need a house, so there is little pressure.
I started learning English just after my 34th birthday, but I came into contact with English too late. I only started learning simple English when I was in junior high school. After so many years, I have almost forgotten it.
Starting over from scratch is not an easy task.
But now that I have made up my mind, I think about my future wife, and I feel more confident.
studied by myself for two years, and could already speak less than standard English. Later, my friend's labor service company sent an engineering team to Zambia, and I entered through the back door. In this way, in 2013, I arrived in Zambia to work. It is true to work part-time, and it is true to marry a wife.
worked day after day, and because of my extracurricular English, I became very popular on the construction site. Sometimes I also acted as a translator for the leaders. Of course, there was no salary increase, but I could communicate with local girls because Zambian girls can speak English. Over time, after working hard in Zambia for six years, I married a wife who is 20 years younger than me.
However, marriage between Chinese and foreigners is very difficult. First of all, it is cultural. Girls here do not know how to entertain guests. Sometimes when coworkers come to visit, the wife hides out, or we go out to the pub to drink by ourselves while the wife is at home.
Then there is the difference in diet. I am from Henan and like to eat noodles. My wife has never seen it, let alone makes it. Basically, I am not used to eating their local food. Except for fruits, I feel like there is nothing to eat here.
But life has to go on. Being able to marry a daughter-in-law is a great blessing for me. I also hope to have a child as soon as possible. However, three years have passed and my wife is infertile. I never thought of this at the time.
In fact, not many Chinese people who work in Africa marry local girls. Some of them asked me to divorce and marry a second wife in China. It is simple, can I definitely find a wife when I return to my country? There is no guarantee, and the wife feels very guilty. When she reaches middle age and encounters such difficulties, she can only wander around, not knowing what to do.
