Emotions do not rely on pleasing, but on conquering.
Professor of Fudan University Chen Guo once said that long-term love is love again and again. If two people fall in love with the same person, they will stay together for a lifetime. When you are unable to attract and conquer, you will lose the other person's heart and eventually lose the other person.
Lasting love is what everyone hopes for. I heard that a man can fall in love with a woman easily, but he will not fall in love with a woman easily. In a man's world, love is more like a responsibility, which requires careful management and maintenance, and requires responsibility for his life and future. Therefore, they dare not touch it easily. But if you like her, it's much simpler. You just need to make her happy, spend some time or money for her, and let her go for a while. Therefore, for women, if they want to establish a long-term and stable emotional relationship, they must make this man fall in love with you. If you want a man to truly fall in love with you, you have to conquer him first. So how do you completely conquer a man? Keep in mind that if you don’t do these three things, you will win.
A woman who does not revolve around men, has her own interests and hobbies, lives a fulfilling life, and is unpredictable is the poppy flower in a man's mind.
In real life, those women who revolve around men give up their own circles and social interactions, and almost sacrifice all their time. Even though you have put in so much effort, why can’t you escape the man’s favor? Because men are born hunters, their desire to chase is innate in their bones, and they will no longer have to worry about the prey they get. Once you are taken over by him, his interest in you will be greatly reduced. As the novelty slowly fades away, he will cherish you less and less. Therefore, smart women know that they must learn to ignore men appropriately and create some harmless sense of crisis for men from time to time, so that he will love you more and more. As for what to do specifically, that is, be sure not to hang around a man. This will only tire you out and make him feel bored. You should allocate more than half of the time and energy you spend around men and use it in your own hobbies or social circles. You must always have something to do, and you must let him feel that he is just a part of your life, not all feelings, and not measured by time. If you stay with him 24 hours a day, he won't be very grateful to you. On the contrary, he will be flattered if you rarely find time to have a meal with him, watch a football match, or go shopping with him. Human nature is like this. The easier it is to get it, the less you know how to cherish it. The more you ask for it, the harder it is to let it go. Therefore, the first step to conquer a man is to learn to show off your man from time to time.
2. Don’t be overly manipulative. Men have their own bottom line and principles.
In fact, many times it is not the men who become bad, but the women who spoil them. When you truly love someone, you are willing to give everything you have for him, but this does not include your own bottom line and principles. Because when your bottom line is trampled and someone else's is broken, the relationship between you will deteriorate. My friend's aunt has a bright face all year round, thanks to her husband. She tells everyone she has a miserable life. But in all of our minds, once upon a time, her husband was also a gentle and gentle man. But later, as the pressure of life suddenly increased, during a quarrel between the two, her husband lost control and slapped her. Afterwards, she not only did not make her attitude clear, but also comforted her husband who was blaming himself. So like a chain reaction, her husband gradually evolved from being out of control at the beginning to being unable to bear it, and now he is at peace with himself. He had been wronged a lot, but who was to blame for all this? Always remember that bottom line and principles are the foundation of your life and the protective layer of your personality, which should never be desecrated. And there is a need for a bottom line in relationships.
3. It is not suitable to be attached.
Men have their own careers and pursuits. Yu Feihong said that an independent and confident woman never needs to build happiness on relying on marriage, nor will she place herself on others. Independence is always the foundation of a woman. Don’t listen to what men say. Don’t like strong women. In fact, what they often admire most are those independent and capable women. Because appreciating high-value people is a person's instinct, just as people always instinctively want to appreciate beautiful scenery. Men's appreciation of women is actually a kind of conquered adult. Men have more or less machismos in their bones, eager to be needed and worshipped. When he meets a woman who needs his constant care, he may feel accomplished at first. But as time goes by, if this woman never has her own life and needs to rely on her, she will be impatient and want to escape. Life is an independent individual, and women are never an accessory to men. If you want to get men's respect and long-term love, you must remember it. Whether spiritually or materially, you must maintain an independent personality and never give up your career and pursuit easily. They are not your burden, but your armor. In the eyes of mature and excellent men, those women who can hold the steering wheel by themselves are much more attractive than those women who act coquettishly and let them buy bags. So do you understand? There are many secrets to conquering men, but they can all be summarized into three words, that is, being yourself can be firm in love and destroy love.
Two people will love each other deeper or shallower or more dependent on how to manage their relationships and do not know how to manage them. Even if you love deeply, you may end up in an unhappy way. No matter how much you love a man, don’t revolve around him, have your own interests and hobbies, don’t suffer too much, have your own bottom line and principles, don’t blindly rely on men, have your own career and pursuits, as long as you maintain your nobility, your own independence, and your own charm, you can truly and completely conquer men, and let men always love you deeply, not betray or abandon them.
