Text/Pang Du Xiaofang
Is there love in this world? A friend of mine told me that there is no such thing. All there is is interest and three-minute fluttering. Even if there is, it is just a fast food love where one person falls in love with another.
I don’t know what she went through, but I still believe that there is true love in this world. But there are thousands of kinds of love, which kind is yours?
1. Do you want this kind of love?
I am tired and don’t want to talk...
Don’t cut your hair short...
You are fat, lose weight quickly...
Besides me, which other man would want you...
Lying, non-communication, cold violence and PUA seem to be normalized in some unequal relationships, and my lover calls it a beautiful name because I did not hit him.
Mira was abandoned by her parents since she was a child, so she was extremely insecure and did not dare to touch love. Until she met Xiaokai , she fell into the trap of innocence.
Although Xiao Kai finally chose Mira as his lover, Xiao Kai didn't like Mira. He felt that Mira was not beautiful enough, nor virtuous and gentle enough. Even though Mira made a lot of changes for him, learning to do housework and trying to be gentle. But Xiaokai still traveled alone and refused to communicate too much with Mira.
Later, Mira left. Before leaving, she left a particularly calm note: I used to love you so much, so I stayed with you for more than ten years, always thinking that one day you would learn to fall in love with me, but now I don’t like you anymore.
Everyone desires to be loved, but only mature people have the ability to love. If you love someone and let yourself sink to the dust, such unequal love will make people miserable if it goes on for a long time.
2. What is it like to love someone?
The three senses follow the five senses? wrong!
When you love someone, no matter whether they are tall and handsome or not, you just know that they feel right and their souls are in tune with each other. They are that unparalleled hero who comes to you in the center of everyone's attention, riding on colorful auspicious clouds .
Xiaowei has a boyfriend of four years who is neither handsome nor well-educated. They have experienced long distances and cheating, and finally got together. Some people don't understand why she can forgive such a boy.
Xiaowei shared one thing lightly, because everyone has a trough, and when I was at a trough, even my family gave up on me, but he did not give up on me. He only did one thing every day, and that was to watch me until midnight every day, for fear that I would do something stupid.
To love someone is to see through his title, education and experience that he is really just a child. No matter whether it is good or bad, he is just the person you want to love in your heart. That's why I want to hear his childhood stories, and how many times he survived disasters. If you love someone, you will remember many of his past events.
3. Love is exclusive
Although you will encounter many love relationships on the road of life, in each love relationship, you can only love one person. If there are several, it only means that you are unwilling to be lonely, or even no longer love.
My friend Xiaocheng has been married for ten years, but he still dotes on his wife as much as she wants. He often sends flowers and gifts. His friends all laugh at him for being a wife slave, but he doesn't take it seriously. Later, a new young female college student came to the unit. She asked Xiaocheng questions every day, and Xiaocheng answered them very patiently.
Over time, the girl fell in love with Xiaocheng, started to create various encounters, and even knitted a scarf to give to Xiaocheng, but Xiaocheng sternly refused, "What's the matter with you giving me such a special thing?"
A person who is truly loyal to feelings will give up the whole world for you. He must give priority to whether his partner is happy, learn rejection and a sense of boundaries, and give his partner a sufficient sense of security. You don't need the other party to force you, you will be self-disciplined.
People with different views will be very tired after being together for a long time. The other person does not mean to make you angry, but he does not understand your happiness and grievances, and does not know what you really want, so he broke up after walking.
When there is such a person, you can't help but share your sadness and happiness, then he is the person you love, and he happens to love you, and love that goes in both directions is the most beautiful.
I am a chubby little house who uses words to record my inner vision, a migrant worker who has worked in the online world for more than 20 years. Let's continue to talk next time.
