Some time ago, a popular male god posted a status on social media, saying, "Hand sanitizer has become a scarce commodity. I have been married for nearly 10 years. My tin is the cleanest part of my body. Why do they need to disinfect after touching it?" This post is very informative and makes people think a lot. Some netizens asked him what the current status of his marriage was? The male god's response turned out to be: "lack of use". It translates as lack of use and he joked that he had not lived in a couple for a long time.
As soon as this statement came out, a trend of discussions about middle-aged sexuality was set off on the Internet. Funny jokes and videos about middle-aged couples having no sex life were very popular with the content label of "the friendship between middle-aged couples". Is this true? Why does this argument appear?
3% of middle-aged couples give up their husband-and-wife life
A survey of 32,906 people in more than 10 cities including Beijing, Chongqing, Guangzhou, etc. through the Internet found that middle-aged couples generally lack daily emotional communication, and the quality of life and intimate relationship index of couples is low, among which more than 30% of middle-aged people give up their husband-and-wife life. So is the life of a couple not important anymore? No! The "Survey on Marriage Happiness of Middle-aged Couples in China" shows that the satisfaction of couples' life directly affects the happiness of marriage life. Most people say that among the factors that affect marriage happiness, "harmonious couple life" is more important than "richer material life".
Why does it cause a situation to give up sex? The analysis may be related to the following reasons:
1. Excessive work and life pressure
The above study shows that 37% of people believe that family responsibilities and pressure have led to a decrease in the degree of intimacy between husband and wife. This pressure mainly comes from children's education, parents' health, family economic status, etc. The phenomenon of losing interest in couples due to stress among the respondents is manifested as a rising trend with age.
Moderate pressure is beneficial and can make us burst out with greater motivation, but excessive pressure will suppress our happiness and suppress our desires. Therefore, middle-aged people should learn to regulate and release stress. For example, couples can travel together, which will help release stress, improve awareness between couples, and enhance mutual understanding and tolerance.
In addition, couples have unexpected effects in relieving tension and stress. The life of husband and wife can promote the metabolism of in the human body and can also make the relationship between the two genders closer. Because when a couple lives, they need to take off their clothes and meet honestly, and get closer to their bodies through interaction.
Many studies have confirmed that people will feel happy during the life of couples, making their skin shiny and tender and strengthening and firming. A harmonious couple's life can relax both parties' nervous body and mind. After a refreshing and lingering relationship, both parties will easily fall asleep tiredly. The next day, you will find that you are full of vitality and resurrected with full blood.
2. Lack of communication, romance is no longer
When the relationship is in a "death" state, multiple factors may exist at the same time, but lack of communication is the most important factor. Many couples are busy with their own business after returning home, and they use their own mobile phones. The occasional communication will also argue because of inconsistent opinions on family matters or children's education, and end up with an unhappy end, let alone couples' lives. Therefore, it is recommended that couples increase communication and not take everything in mind.
Communication with the other party is also a way to trust and release stress. At the same time, couples can often make small jokes, which will help maintain a happy mood and increase the fun between couples. Often they hold romantic rituals, such as buying a bouquet of flowers for their wife on Valentine's Day, so that she will be very happy.
3. Both parties become familiar strangers
. Both husband and wife are together day and night and can easily become the most familiar strangers, just like what the Internet says, "Touching the wife's hand is like touching the right hand with the left hand." Although this is just a joke, it also shows that the couple has retreated for many years, resulting in insufficient desire for their husband and wife's life. Frankly speaking, when a couple reaches a certain age, if both of them feel that they can no longer live a husband and wife, it is understandable that they both agree. After all, this is a matter between the two.But if one party still wants it and the other party doesn't, it needs to negotiate, rather than one party as the basis.
Since you become a husband and wife, you must consider each other, compromise with each other, and shoulder certain responsibilities and obligations for each other. This is also the hardest thing about marriage but the most attractive thing. You can try to increase your interest or make some changes. For example, create a romantic atmosphere, create a trip opportunity, and temporarily withdraw the two from their dull lives.
4. Age and physical changes will also affect
As age increases, physical strength, energy, and androgen secretion will begin to slowly decline, and men's abilities will gradually decline, affecting the quality of life of couples. If you suffer from certain diseases, such as erectile dysfunction (ED), it will make the couple's life unable to complete, which will directly affect the quality of life of the couple and cause a sexless marriage.
Relevant surveys show that nearly 30% of husbands and 43% of wives say that ED is the main reason for the discord in sex life. More than 70% of the respondents who were troubled by ED chose to respond negatively, believing that "it was an age problem and would not take action" or "deliberately avoiding topics", especially women.
Don’t think that xìng is the “patent” of young people. When people reach middle age, their work and life are becoming stable, and they should enjoy the life of their husband and wife better. Couples with ED problems should go to the hospital in time to find out the cause of ED. The occurrence of ED in middle-aged men may be related to a certain disease, such as diabetes , heart disease , hypertension or Parkinson's disease . The emerging aggravation of ED or ED may indicate that the condition is getting worse. ED during medication can also be a side effect of some chronic disease drugs.
At the same time, the quality and quantity of husband and wife's life are affected by various factors such as the emotions, concepts, purpose, physique, age, and environment of both parties, and change greatly. It is often incomparable to those times. Doctors must fully understand under what circumstances the "symptoms" appear, how often they appear, and the feelings and attitudes of both parties in order to determine whether treatment intervention is needed. There are many treatment methods for
ED, such as drug treatment, hormone treatment, device treatment, psychological treatment, surgical treatment, etc. Among them, drug treatment is the first-line treatment method in the treatment guide. Our common therapeutic drugs include PDE5 inhibitors (such as avanafil , sildenafil, etc.). Long-term regular use of this type of drug can improve the endothelial function of the reproductive organs and help the recovery of ED. The number of times taken is recommended to be used according to the specific circumstances of the individual. Taking avanafil as an example, it is generally taken 2-3 times a week, and it is at most once within 24 hours. The recommended dose is 100mg, which needs to be taken 15-30 minutes in advance, and intimate movements to improve the performance of the medicine.
Of course, unilateral treatment cannot verify the effect of treatment, and men are also susceptible to discrimination by their wives or cold eyes during treatment, which greatly reduces the effect of treatment. Therefore, it is particularly critical to treat the husband and wife together. The wife becomes the "ally" of the husband's treatment, which can cooperate with the treatment and verify the efficacy.
Mardiola life is another workplace for us and should be treated as a career for life. Usually hard at work, why do you treat intimate relationships casually when you get home? The love of middle-aged couples can be slow and qualitative, because they become more and more familiar with each other, and their intimacy is getting higher and higher, and they will become closer to each other in their performance in their husband and wife's lives.
If you have asexual state, you should try to adjust your state and manage your intimate relationships. If you have medical problems that cannot be solved, you can seek help from a doctor. I hope every middle-aged friend has a better and harmonious sex life.
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