Dear is a matter for two people, but marriage is a relationship between two families. Especially for women, if you want to get married, you must keep your eyes open and treat it carefully. After all, marriage means integrating into a new family environment, facing more trivial matters in life, and sometimes you have to deal with complex relationships between family members, such as conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and sister-in-law issues, etc.
After entering marriage, women not only have to give everything to their small family, but also have to accept their husband's shortcomings. Sometimes they have to deal with their mother-in-law and family, especially their mother-in-law. A good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will make the family full of warmth and happiness. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not in harmony, they will only have constant conflicts, which will affect their marriage.
Xu Dan and Wang Hui are in a free relationship and have always had a good relationship. However, when they were talking about marriage, Wang Hui's mother refused to help buy a house on the grounds of a bad family background, and even the dowry was unwilling to pay. Wang Hui had to take out 60,000 yuan as a dowry, and the two were able to get married smoothly.
Therefore, Xu Dan had no good feelings for her mother-in-law. In her opinion, when her mother-in-law refused to help when she got married, she naturally would not owe any favors or money from her husband. So after getting married, she moved out with Wang Hui and did not want to live with her in-laws. Fortunately, Wang Hui was also very successful later, and invested in a small business and made some money. With Xu Dan's savings, the two of them also made up enough money to buy a house.
Only after having a house did Xu Dan feel like home. However, not long after, her mother-in-law always brought her sister-in-law to the house. Xu Dan knew that her sister-in-law was not easy to get along with. She grew up under her mother-in-law's doting since childhood. She was arrogant and willful. After graduating from high school, she went out to work. Later, she fell in love with a man with a bad personality, and finally got a marriage certificate secretly.
Life after marriage is not good. I go back to my parents' house to get things every few days, and often ask for money with my mother-in-law. So when Wang Hui got married, my mother-in-law was unwilling to pay for money, because she was afraid that when my sister-in-law needed her, she would not be able to help. Xu Dan knew that my mother-in-law felt sorry for her daughter, but a bowl of water had to be even. My sister-in-law was an adult, and she had to take the choices she made. Being partial to her like her mother-in-law would only make her enjoy it for granted, and she would not work hard for life.
Therefore, after learning that my daughter-in-law had bought a house, the mother-in-law often brought her sister-in-law to eat and drink, and Xu Dan had to serve them. Over time, Xu Dan became dissatisfied because her sister-in-law almost regarded this place as her home, and went in and out of Xu Dan's room at will, and she didn't ask for it when she saw good things. Xu Dan saw that she was a pregnant woman, and most of the time she didn't care about her, but the more she was tolerant, the more she became more and more arrogant her sister-in-law would be.
Until that day, my sister-in-law was rummaging around Xu Dan's room again. Xu Dan was immediately angry when she saw this. However, my sister-in-law said: Sister-in-law, your room is really good. I will come to your house for confinement. Xu Dan was very surprised and asked directly: Who said you can have confinement at my house? But my sister-in-law said with confidence: Of course it was my mother who said it, let alone my brother’s house, we are a family again, so you will give me the master bedroom.
After hearing this, Xu Dan found it funny and replied directly: OK, if you want to live in my house, you can give 4,000 yuan a month’s rent and living expenses. The sister-in-law got angry when she heard this and started to make a big fuss. When the mother-in-law heard the voice, she also came in. She blamed her daughter-in-law first without any discrimination. Xu Dan could no longer bear it, so she decisively issued an order to expel the guest and told them not to come to their home again in the future.
Afterwards, the mother-in-law and sister-in-law complained to Wang Hui. Fortunately, Wang Hui understood the whole story and chose to stand on his wife's side. He knew that his mother was partial and he could not care about it before, but now that he has his own family, he has to worry about his wife's feelings, otherwise, like before, his marriage would probably not be preserved. With Wang Hui's support, the mother-in-law and sister-in-law did not continue to make trouble.
Love is beautiful, but if you want to enter into marriage, you not only need to meet the right person, but it is best to have a good family in the family. The mother-in-law knows how to care and understand the daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law will respect and be filial to the mother-in-law. They have their own principles of life and can not interfere with each other to maintain family stability. Otherwise, if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not in harmony, they can only fight wits and courage, and they will often end up in a mess.
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