■Author: Uncle Nanshan
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01, volume beginning.
China emphasizes family affection. For example, when we go to a relative's house to pay New Year's greetings during the Chinese New Year, such as inviting relatives to be guests during the marriage, these all show that we attach importance to blood relationships in our hearts. Some people say that when people live, they should value family affection and communicate more with relatives and friends. Only in this way can we get strong support from relatives and friends when we encounter difficulties. Of course, this sentence makes sense, but this principle only needs fair exchanges.
However, not all family affection is worthy of our care. Sometimes, keeping a certain distance from relatives is actually a very wise philosophy of life. After all, most of the relatives we can meet cannot help in time, but are better at putting in trouble. Some relatives and friends will become accustomed to it after we treat them too well and start to gain a better position. Then, in such a situation, getting too close to relatives and friends becomes a disaster. is like Zhang Wenli in the following text. Just because she and her husband are so kind to her uncle's family, they start to gain a better attitude.
02, I worked in the city for many years, and later married the silly Daegu.
Dear friends, my name is Zhang Wenli, I am a girl from the countryside. After graduating from high school, I didn’t get into college and went to work in a private enterprise. Although I don’t study well, I have a good ability to learn labor skills. Within two years in this private company, I became a business expert in this private company, and my salary would be increased to 8,000 yuan. Perhaps, this 8,000 yuan is nothing to rich people, but for me, a girl from the countryside, this 8,000 yuan is the ceiling of my life.
For this reason, I cherish this hard-earned high-paying job very much. I know that working in a private enterprise is actually a life of youth. Only by working hard to make more money can I gain a foothold in the city. Starting a business by myself in the future may make my life better. Coincidentally, when I was twenty-five, I met my current husband, Daegu. Daegu is also from the countryside. He looks silly, but he is very real and hardworking. For this reason, I fell in love with him. Later, we entered the palace of marriage with a close relationship.
03. After we founded our family, we bought a house through hard work. After I started my family, Daegu and I worked harder. We agreed that we must save money, save more money, and then buy a house in Jiangcheng City. From now on, we will become city people. Because I had more than 200,000 yuan in deposits, and in Daegu, we also saved some money. Then, after we worked hard for another two years, we finally got enough of the down payment for buying a house. Fortunately, Jiangcheng, where we are located, is a small third-tier city, and the housing prices are not too high, so the house we bought is quite large, with a total area of 90 square meters.
With this house, we have a harbor to rest. Every day when we come home from get off work, we often look at the house we bought with joy with our hard-earned money, just like looking at a big baby. After we had a house, we also had our own children. Daegu and I took care of our children, guarded our home together, and enjoyed the beauty of this mundane world. We believe that as long as we continue to work hard, our future life will definitely be better.
04, my uncle often comes to visit the city, and sometimes stays for several days.
However, after we bought this house, our worries began to increase slowly. This house has three rooms. The child has not grown up yet and two rooms are empty. However, I used one of them as a study. Another room is regarded as a temporary room. Because we bought a new house, relatives and friends who live in the countryside will turn to our house and then board our house for a day or two.After all, we are relatives and friends, and we are always happy to accept these people.
However, the arrival of our uncle made us a little unhappy. My uncle is my husband's elder brother. He is three years older than my husband and has been married three or four years earlier than my husband. My uncle does some small business in the countryside and sometimes comes to the city to find a source of goods. Every time he comes to work in the city, he always comes to our house as a guest. When we see our uncle coming, we always welcome us warmly and often serve us with delicious food and drinks. Our uncle is also happy to accept such hospitality. , so he often stays in our house for several days.
05. During festivals, my uncle brings his family to my house.
Originally, my uncle was our elder brother. He came to stay for a few days and we would treat him well. It was understandable that was not wrong. However, when my uncle comes to our house, he often treats our home as his home. Sometimes my husband is not at home and I eat alone with him, and I am more or less embarrassed. What's more, he would throw his clothes around after taking a shower, and sometimes I would have to help him wash clothes, which really made me feel a little uncomfortable.
However, what makes me even more angry and upset is that during festivals, my uncle often brings his family to our house as a guest. He said that the whole family would be familiar with the life and rhythm of the city. In the future, they would also come to Jiangcheng to buy a house and become a new residents of Jiangcheng. When my uncle's family came, our home became very lively. Because my uncle likes to drink, they stayed at our house for a few days and my husband and I were both overwhelmed, but we didn’t dare to show any unhappy appearance.
06. Seeing that my nephew was about to go to elementary school, my mother-in-law called me.
I know that this won’t work. In the future, we have to find a way to reject these relatives and friends who like to stay in our house. After all, our home is our private space, and it is really inconvenient for relatives and friends to live there. So, gradually, when relatives and friends came to our house and wanted to stay at our house, we decisively rejected them. However, we will arrange for them to stay in a hotel, and we helped pay the accommodation fee for the first night.
Just like that, relatives and friends gradually became fewer to our homes. Just when we were happy to find such a good solution, suddenly, I received a call from my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law said on the other end of the phone, and she said: Daughter-in-law, your nephew Tiedan is about to enter the first grade. It is better to go to school in the countryside than to go to school in the city. So, your uncle asked someone to get a degree from a public school in the city. came to the city to go to school in September this year. The school is near your home. From now on, it will be boarding at your home. You have to take good care of him.
07, I could no longer bear my uncle's family, so I decisively rejected her.
I heard my mother-in-law say this, and it was natural that I quit . I know that sometimes, we must show our bottom line in time and offend people earlier in order to avoid constant entanglement in the future. Although face is a good thing, it should be given to people with good looks. People who do not know how to be grateful, selfish, greedy, and have gained ambitions, must dare to turn against each other, even if they are one of our relatives. What's more, my uncle treats my home as his home, and he has no scruples when he is boarding our home. Now he wants his son to board our home. It seems that he wants to eat and live in vain again. I never want to be such a sucker again.
So, I decisively rejected my mother-in-law. I said, Daegu and I have a lot of things to do, and we have to take care of our little baby. Now that my nephew is coming to school, we need one more person to help take care of him. This is really too difficult for us, so we can't help my nephew's visit to school in the city. Please find a way to solve it yourself. After saying that, I hung up the phone decisively. After put down the phone, I told Daegu about this. Daegu was stunned and finally expressed his firm support for my decision.
08, my mother-in-law asked to give us money in the future, and I asked my brothers to settle the score clearly.
With my husband’s support, I am no longer afraid of anything. After all, this home belongs to us and is our private space, and we have no way to allow others to enter our private space. Although my nephew is our relative, he is not our child after all. In terms of blood relationship, we have no responsibility or obligation to give him a lot of energy and money.
On the evening, my mother-in-law called again and said that my uncle still hoped that my nephew could stay in our house. He will calculate the fee for us. When I heard this, I sneered and said, "Okay, since I am a brother, I have to settle the score clearly. My nephew stayed at our home, and the living expenses were 5,000 yuan a month. I would like to ask a nanny to take care of him. You can give us 10,000 yuan a month." Hearing my answer, my mother-in-law knew the attitude between Daegu and me, so she had to sigh and hung up the phone. is like this, I decisively and cleverly rejected my uncle and restored our peaceful life.
09, conclusion.
Friends, my uncle treats my Daegu home and his home as his home, and he is really a little arrogant. Do you think such relatives and friends are too close to each other? Later on , my mother-in-law called me and said that my nephew wanted to board our house. It was obvious that she would eat and live in vain. I deliberately said, "Brothers settle the score clearly" and made them give up. You guys say, isn't it a bit harsh for my daughter-in-law like me? If it were you, how would you deal with this? Everyone is welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss. Thank you everyone.
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