I don’t know if you have any time you are confused, or you feel that you are very busy every day, but you gain very little, and you always feel that you are doing useless work.
'It is obvious that I have been working hard, but I don't seem to know what I'm working hard on. ’
This is my idea some time ago, and this idea has bothered me for nearly half a year.
Thinking back and forth during that time, I was really like a headless fly, bumping back and forth. Even if I set a "goal", I was full of confusion. After completing the so-called "goal", I did not have the feeling of happiness as I imagined. Instead, I became more anxious and confused.
Sometimes I always have to emptie myself because I think too much and overdraw myself, so I can only choose to escape first.
In the past six months, I have tried almost any method. I accept my personality, ideas, and abilities. When encountering problems that cannot be solved, I will face difficulties. If I cannot face difficulties, I will avoid them first to protect my emotions from being affected too much.
but obviously, the effect is very little.
I still often ask myself, what am I busy with? What did I get? But the answer is always vague.
until a few days ago chatted with a psychologist. She said, "Maybe you never make choices, blur your goals, and thus make yourself have no goals."
"What do you want to be? Set the biggest goal, and then gradually make small goals. The small goals are finally summarized into this set big goal. The most important thing is that when you choose a path, work hard in this direction, don't change it at will, and you must not be greedy for too many goals."
hang up the phone, I thought about it for a long time, and it is indeed because I greedy for too many things, which caused me a lot of trouble. For example, when I was washing clothes, if I saw that the floor was dirty, I would turn to wipe the floor. After the floor was wiped, I would wash the clothes. It seemed that two things had been done, but after washing the clothes, I would find that the floor I just wiped was dirty again, which means I had to wipe the floor again. I spent more time to complete the same thing.
When I first came into contact with new media, I really hoped that I could show my skills and have a grand career, but in the process of doing it, from articles to videos to audio, I finally wanted to develop every one of them, and I dabbled in various platforms, but I didn’t get much, but I was more tired than before, so I began to wonder if I was not suitable for this industry.
so I focused on writing novels in my old career. I think it would be better to write novels than to write novels, at least to ensure income.
"There is always one that can be successful, right? Video, article, audio, novel." I think so.
When I tied up more tasks and goals like superposition, I found that apart from being tired, it seems that there really is not much 'profit'.
actually does so much, so I will have to spend a lot of time, so that I can't really do the best in any of them.
' is always afraid of losing, so I feel that if I do more, I will gain more. ’
The harder you work, the more successful you are, isn’t this statement right? It is correct in the 'narrow sense', but it may be wrong in the 'broad sense'.
When you separate your efforts and put them on many things, it is too broad. You cannot really focus on a career you love. This will not only be distracted but also distracted. Only when one is mature and then the next one can you see hope for success.
'Young people don't make choices, I want to choose. ’This is actually the voice of many people. Just like a friend of mine just lost his job some time ago. She found a job for half a month but still had no idea. So she was very anxious and complained to me.
"I just want someone who is not too busy. After all, I have to take care of my children, and I don't have to have too low income. I have to have insurance, but I don't know much. It's so worrying."
doesn't seem to have high requirements, but there is a 'paradox' between these sentences. While you want time to take care of your children, your salary cannot be low, and you are not a person with high ability.
This is a typical example of not wanting to give up anything.
If you want to take care of your children, it takes time, and it is unlikely to get the money you want. What's more, the premise is that you don't have a lot of ability.
When we face problems, we must make choices first and make trade-offs first, and it is impossible to get them all.
As long as we have a choice, there will be gains and losses. Life is not short, how can we not leave any regrets at all?
This reminds me of the recently watched "Kim Ji-young , born in 82". Why can the heroine's elder sister live so well? She also gave up the best opportunity for her family. She had to change her dreams and majors for this family and went to normal schools, because this way she could work faster and earn money to support her family.
Do she think? The original intention was not to think about it, but at present it seems that she has no better solution, so she chose a home that needs more 'help', changed her major and went to normal schools, and searched all the normal schools before, working hard to have a better future.
When the heroine asked her not to regret it, she said, "I have made a choice, and I thought about the consequences. "
Don't make choices and work hard. Without goals, it's really easy to get confused.
Once you make a choice, you have to accept all the consequences it may bring. I always feel that you may be wrong in any choice, so don't blame yourself, because you have worked very hard.
Don't let yourself fall into confusion. Gains and losses are coexisting.
Just like there are some married people around me who are not married, everyone has time to be happy and unhappy. This book Body is a choice, there are never any mistakes or right.
Marriage means taking more responsibilities, being single means getting more freedom, and having more conflicts after marriage than being single, while being single has to bear more loneliness than getting married.
So, you see, no one is better or worse, it is just a choice.
But choice is a must-choose. As long as you accept the consequences that will be borne after choosing, many worries and confusion will disappear.
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