The ancients said: "The way to establish one's body is to be hard inside and soft outside; the way to get rich is to be inferior and subordinate. You cannot accept things that you don't agree with, and you cannot suppress things that are not strict."
people must first cultivate their body and mind, and have a state of hard inside and soft outside, so that they can better manage their family. The reason why a family prospers is because the elders are virtuous and the younger generations are humble. If you are not harmonious, you cannot deal with people, and if you are not strict, you cannot control your subordinates.
It is one thing to do it yourself. Whether the whole family is doing well is another matter. Why do the ancients often say that "the upper beam is not straight and the lower beam is crooked"? If the elders do not do well enough, the descendants may be affected.
Want the family to "prosper", simple, complex and complex. Simple, the whole family is united and no longer fighting, that's good. What is complicated is that it involves material conditions and various contradictions.
For families with relatively ordinary material conditions, perhaps the couple will have Cold War , and will "but unlike those who have known that they have been poor together." A family with many conflicts may be like a fragmented family.
Any "good" must not only be supported by external forces, but also driven by internal forces.
A family suddenly got into these three things, and that was God implying that this family was about to rise.
First, the family has a more humble and simple atmosphere.
Throughout history, many "luxury" families have been promiscuous because of excessive arrogance and extravagance, and many "rich" families have fallen into poverty because of excessive arrogance and extravagance.
Extravagance and debauchery are the root cause of the decline of wealthy families. Just imagine, if your family is not vigilant and has a simple concept, how can you "keep up"?
To be honest, starting a business is difficult, and it is even more difficult to keep it. The first generation of entrepreneurs, after experiencing the polishing of life, naturally understands the difficulty of making money and knows how to live a simple life. However, the conservative generation, because they have never suffered, naturally don’t know how difficult it is to make money.
A family, whether you want to start a business or want to keep it, you might as well maintain a "humble" and "simple" mentality. To be humble, that is to reduce pride. Simple, that is to develop good habits.
Historically, the emperor of the Qing Dynasty , maintained a humble and simple concept after taking over the mess left by Shunzhi . In the end, not only did they quell the Three Feudals and destroy the rebellion, they also had Kangxi and Qianlong prosperous times .
Modesty is not cowardice, but listening to other people's opinions and maintaining one's own rationality. Simplicity is not because of poverty, but because we always keep the vigilance of "being prepared for danger in times of peace" so that we will not be lost in "happiness".
Second, family is dedicated to family.
As the saying goes, "If people are united, everything is possible. If people's hearts are dispersed, everything is difficult."
Whether it is a group or a family, it is "one heart". If a husband and wife are united, they will either start a successful business or have a harmonious family; if a parents are united, they will either be affectionate or have blessings.
has such a fable called "Gong Yu Yishan". This is about an old man named "Gong Yu", who have worked hard to remove the mountain in front of his house. Finally, he moved God and sent the gods to move the mountains.
In fact, this is not the contribution of the gods, but the contribution of the Gong Yu family.
Imagine that generations of children in a family are striving for a goal and an ideal. Can those who are wholeheartedly focus on moving mountains and reclaiming seas and eventually becoming extraordinary?
The so-called "things are different." The "artificial" here is not a work of a person, but a new joint effort of a family. I give, you give, and he gives, and the family will be full of vitality.
Fighting with each other and shirking responsibility will not last long. Only a family that is dedicated can be like a solid fortress. Even in windy and rainy weather, it will remain motionless and stay cool.
Third, the family has become stable and full of fireworks.
I like this sentence very much: "The smell of fireworks in the world is the most soothing."
The greatest happiness in life is that the whole family is together, from the elderly to the children, they are in good health. Without too many problems, the family will be harmonious and life will be happy.
Some people will particularly like this kind of "human fireworks" life, while others will feel that it is quite dull. The former can basically live a good life. The latter will ruin the restless family.
Seeing such a family, they have millions of assets, their parents are healthy, and their children are smart, but because their husbands at home feel that their ordinary and stable life is not good, they secretly took all their property at home and finally lost completely and owed millions.
A few years later, the parents of this family went home because they had no money to treat the disease. The children went astray. The wife was depressed, the family was broken, and the wife was separated, and they ended up in an unfortunate end.
Life is stable and time is worry-free, but why do people always like to make trouble? Because they are restless and do not know the preciousness of "quiet years". Being relatives with these people is like falling into a big mess.
Therefore, it is best for families to focus on "stableness" and "the smell of fireworks in the world" as their daily life. Family must keep their duties well and not disturb their thoughts. That family, naturally, rose steadily.
There is no happiness and success that can be achieved overnight. Take every step, be grateful to the plain, keep the division in the plain, and be in line with the way of heaven.
