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excessive vanity is a kind of poverty, because its essence is inferiority. Because of inferiority, one will inevitably lose more things for vanity.
01 Born
I wonder if there are people around you who have such backgrounds, good looks, good academic performance, and their figure is also a figure that others envy. You can go to the card at any time without having to speak up every month. Your parents have good work, so you don’t have to worry about work problems, and there are even more suitors. It's like getting the script of the winner of life.
I have it all around me, she is Nana.
I have to admit that some things cannot be possessed by one's envy, just like being born in .
I don’t have good family conditions and no background to rely on to ensure that I have a worry-free life.
I am very ordinary and very mediocre.
There is such a person by your side every day, everything is better than you. I feel that everyone around me will circle around her and praise her. All the praise is her and all the good things will happen to her.
But I have nothing, no beautiful face, no enviable figure, and no good family conditions.
A sense of frustration for a moment, and a sense of inferiority in my heart arises naturally.
Under the instigation of inferiority, I denied everything about myself and felt that I could not succeed in anything I did.
What is even more terrifying is that vanity is born with inferiority.
No one follows or praises. It makes me feel even more frustrated and unwilling. I also want to pay attention, and I also want to do everything smoothly.
I thought that as long as I dressed beautifully like her and wore famous brands, I could shine like her and become the focus of the crowd.
You can have a dance partner in waltz class and can stand in front of me to choose me.
can be used by others when the club group discusses the plan.
You can have a suitor design a romantic confession for me on the lawn of the playground.
What a childish idea, but that's what I thought at that time.
In this way, my vanity is slowly expanding.
Inferiority and vanity are like candy that costs money, making me unable to let go of my hands if I want to hold it.
During that time, I spent almost all my energy and living expenses on buying expensive clothes and cosmetics.
Just when I was almost crazy, I came up with a repayment record. Looking at the repayment share, I was scared.
02 Put down
I have been consuming, and I use it to consume in advance when I have no living expenses. Soon the debt I owe exceeded my imagination. I was scared and asked my family for help. My family members were very angry when they learned about my mischief and educated me for one night.
That night I was surrounded by unprecedented regret, unable to breathe, lying in bed and unable to fall asleep, my eyes were swollen but I couldn't open it, but something seemed to be opening in my heart.
Yes, just like my family said, I am me, I am not Nana, no matter how close I get to her, I will not become that unique Nana.
Because I am also the only one in this world.
During this period, I have been competing with myself, constantly denying myself and not seeing the beautiful things in life at all.
But in fact, there is nothing that cannot be let go, as time goes by, when you look back, you will find that the things you once thought you could not let go are just a springboard in your life that will make you grow.
03 New generation
Since I began to pay attention to inferiority and vanity, my confidence has disappeared.
I no longer want to be dominated by vanity and inferiority complex. I was anxious and uneasy in those days when I was dominated. I deny everything about myself and I become more and more sensitive.
It was not until today that I realized: Everyone has vanity, but they should not be dominated by vanity. Everyone has inferiority, but they should not be bound by inferiority.
The student days are the most beautiful time. The most beautiful time should be shining with confidence, break free from the constraints of inferiority, and discover a more shiny self.
Learn a new skill and let it increase confidence for yourself.
Take more outdoor activities, it will make yourself happier.
Confidently let go of your voice, let go of your movements, smile, and speak.
When you have the blessing of confidence, you will find that you are your focus.
Only after you get your own affirmation will you gain others' affirmation.
When you become friends with confidence, you will find that vanity is already asleep.
Let it sleep, tomorrow will be another sunny day.
