When love comes, many people will become emotional and impulsive. They will only want to have each other in the moment, but they will not think about what identity the other person is and whether they can get a happy future when they get together with each other.
For a single boy who has been single for a long time, most of them have beautiful imaginations and expectations for love. When they meet a partner they like, they can't wait to have each other and join hands with each other to enter the palace of marriage.
A good marriage relationship is based on the mutual understanding of the couple. If a couple falls in love too quickly and does not yet understand each other, they will date together by living together first and then falling in love, and then falling in love, the love relationship between the two is likely to be a crisis.
27-year-old Lin Jun (pseudonym) is an honest boy. Because he becomes nervous when he sees a girl and does not know how to please girls with sweet words, he has never had the experience of falling in love.
The parents were also very anxious when they saw Lin Jun so dull. They often complained that Lin Jun had no future.
Lin Jun was also very depressed in the face of his parents’ accusations. He was in the prime of his life, so why didn’t he want to find an ideal girlfriend?
Lin Jun secretly made up his mind to find a beautiful girlfriend and let his parents look at him differently. Lin Jun once tried to take the initiative to chat with the girl around him, but just as he wanted to speak, he felt nervous and blushed, and couldn't say a word.
Without helpless, Lin Jun turned his attention to finding a girlfriend on the Internet. Through social software, Lin Jun met a girl named Qin Ru (pseudonym).
Lin Jun felt happy that every message he sent to Qin Ru could receive a warm response from Qin Ru. He felt that he had a speculation with Qin Ru, and the two soon fell in love.
Through chatting, Lin Jun learned that Qin Ru was 26 years old. Looking at Qin Ru’s avatar, Lin Jun also looked beautiful and virtuous. This made Lin Jun very proud. When his parents complained that Lin Jun could not find a girlfriend, Lin Jun took out Qin Ru’s avatar and showed it to his parents, and said proudly that this is my online dating girlfriend.
When my son finally had a girlfriend, the parents also felt very happy. They told Lin Jun that our family’s financial conditions were not good. If the girl was willing to get along with you, you should be more proactive and positive, and never miss her.
With the encouragement of his parents, Lin Jun finally raised the courage to invite Qin Ru to meet offline. Lin Jun was worried at first that Qin Ru would be dissatisfied with him after seeing him, but Qin Ru was very satisfied with Lin Jun after meeting. On the day the two met, they lived together.
Not long after, Qin Ru found out that she was pregnant. Lin Jun was very happy when he learned about it, so he asked Qin Ru for marriage.
At first, Qin Ru ignored Lin Jun's request. She just said to Lin Jun that there is no need to worry about marriage.
Lin Jun thinks Qin Ru's proposal is also very good. After all, Qin Ru is pregnant with his child and he has the initiative in this relationship. And if Qin Ru really wants to marry him, Qin Ru will not ask him for too much bride price for the sake of the child in her belly.
Under such considerations, Lin Jun took care of Qin Ru's life and announced to his relatives and friends in his hometown that he already has a girlfriend and is about to get married.
But 3 months have passed, and Qin Ru still has no intention of getting married. In addition, Qin Ru showed many abnormal behaviors, which made Lin Jun feel uneasy.
First, Lin Jun asked Qin Ru to go to the hospital for pregnancy test, but Qin Ru was still unwilling to go; secondly, Lin Jun proposed to go to Qin Ru's hometown to see Qin Ru's parents, and discuss the marriage between the two families, but Qin Ru did not make any statement; finally, when Lin Jun was looking through Qin Ru's mobile phone, he found that there was a child on the mobile phone called Qin Ru "Mom".
Although Qin Ru defended that the child was the child of her cousin's family, this still could not dispel Lin Jun's suspicion. After Lin Jun learned about the investigation and questioning, he finally learned that his girlfriend was actually married.
Lin Jun himself is an honest person. When he learned that Qin Ru's identity was actually married, he not only gave up the idea of marrying Qin Ru, but also felt fearful and wanted to break up with Qin Ru as soon as possible.
But Qin Ru did not want to give up the child in her womb. She told Lin Jun that although she was still in a marriage state, her husband was not good to her and often attacked her, which made her disheartened. She chose to escape from home and get together with Lin Jun in order to take revenge on her husband.
Qin Ru said that after living with Lin Jun, she was deeply attracted by Lin Jun's kind and honest personality and fell in love with Lin Jun completely. She also wanted to separate from her husband and marry Lin Jun again, but she couldn't find where her husband was at this time.
But Lin Jun was unwilling to believe Qin Ru's words. He said bluntly that he had told his relatives and friends about his upcoming marriage to Qin Ru, but Qin Ru's concealment from him made him lose face in front of relatives and friends. Moreover, Qin Ru already had a marriage contract. If he still insisted on being with Qin Ru, he might be suspected of bigamy, which made him afraid.
Lin Jun believes that he is only 27 years old and is still a young man who has not yet been married. He should have his own happy marriage in the future and should not be entangled with girls like Qin Ru.
Lin Jun said that he hopes to break up with Qin Ru immediately and ask Qin Ru to remove the child in her belly.
But Qin Ru was still reluctant to give up the child. She said bluntly that Lin Jun had packed all his luggage recently and was ready to leave her at any time, which disappointed her. She would rather not Lin Jun have a penny than give birth to the child.
The mediator saw this and persuaded Qin Ru, saying, "Your husband and you are now raising your child, your parents are now raising you. Do you have to leave it to your parents for raising you when you are born? Besides, you and your husband have not divorced yet. If you insist on having this child, you may be suspected of bigamy.
After persuasion, Qin Ru agreed to not have children, but Lin Jun asked her to bear all her medical and nutritional expenses.
At this point, the story between Qin Ru and Lin Jun is over.
Emotional analysis:
Writer Balzac said: Couples should understand each other by knowing each other, and then tolerating and loving each other, so as to maintain a happy marriage.
This passage tells us that the basis of happiness in marriage relationships is the mutual understanding between couples and having children with someone they don’t know yet, which may cause their lives to fall into chaos.
Perhaps because Lin Jun longs for love too much, he lived with Qin Ru without knowing him and made Qin Ru pregnant. This behavior seemed too hasty.
Although Lin Jun’s original intention was to join hands with Qin Ru into the palace of marriage, he did not understand that love can be a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families. If he does not know his girlfriend’s family situation and does not know his true identity, he will talk about marriage with his girlfriend. This is actually a very stupid thing.
, and Qin Ru shouldn't have lived with Lin Jun before she had terminated her marriage. Even if her husband treats her badly, she can negotiate and break up with her husband, and should not take revenge on her husband in a way that hurts her, which will only make her life worse.
Whether it is managing marriage or managing love, it requires rationality. Only those who know how to take marriage and love relationships seriously can obtain a happy love.
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