There is a joke on the Internet, saying that the two most untouchable people in the world are women who are not married in their fifties; the other is men who are getting married. Once a woman figures out what she wants, she will go all the way and never settles. After a woman over the age of fifty, she must have her partner as a soul mate at the beginning, and the difficulty coefficient is self-evident. Once a man enters marriage, he will remove the decoration completely, and those nervous mental states during courtship will remove them. Therefore, many women bluntly say that men before marriage have ears like radar, and men after marriage have no signal.
A man after marriage really cares about anything? The answer is obviously no. Once they touch their minefield, they will be furious directly. After sorting out, I summarized the three minefields that make men furious.
Intimate to the opposite sex without warning
There was something that my friend was confused for a long time and couldn't let go of it for a long time, and even quarreled with his wife.
The reason is that one day he went home and his wife had not come back yet, so he took the child to play in the living room. At this time, someone knocked on the door. It turned out that his wife was back. When the door was opened, a man stood beside his wife. The wife smiled and introduced, "This is Mr. Wang. Today, the unit did not have a car to take me to the meeting, so I asked Mr. Wang to give it to me." My friend looked at Mr. Wang, and he was wearing a suit and ties, and he felt that he was a little old. After a very awkward greeting, his face immediately became dark. The Mr. Wang was also tactful and turned around and left.
The point of a friend is that this person has never heard his wife say before, and in addition, there is no need to send a woman to her door. My friend’s wife is also very wronged. First, there is no need to report to me if I have any friends and friends. Second, if I really have something to do with Mr. Wang, how could I let him go upstairs?
On weekdays, married men are emotionally relaxed and psychologically determine that this woman is mine, so they will focus more on content outside of emotions and run around for life. However, the wife had no warning and had sex with the opposite sex. The sensitive nerves of married men were immediately triggered. They entered a state of fighting at any time in order to protect their emotions.
The wife had dinner with a friend of the opposite sex without any warning, and brought back something from the opposite sex without any warning, and mentioned the work of the opposite sex without any warning. The meaning of this is probably that any man's hair will stand up.
over control
Men will jump to the foot
It is a normal instinct for not wanting to be controlled.
Men are born to love freedom. In the book "Men comes from Mars, women come from Venus", men are described in this way: the process of men's "intimacy cycle" is: intimacy - distant - intimacy. "Men are looking forward to independent space, just as they also look forward to intimate relationships, which sounds contradictory, but it is indeed the choice of men. During the consultation process, a good-looking gentleman chose to divorce, and his wife expressed his grievance and confusion. The husband gave two examples, one was last year's Spring Festival, and he gave his old mother 500 yuan, because he didn't let his wife know in advance, and his wife made a big fuss at home After three days, the host asked the woman why she was so angry. The woman said that I just wanted to understand his financial trends, and I didn’t care about money. The other is that my wife asked to call him at any time. Because it rained heavily once, the man fell asleep and didn’t receive a call from his wife. The wife was always reluctant to give in and made a big fuss. The woman’s reason was really simple. I love him and didn’t want to lose him, so I knew his whereabouts and movements. However, real love can be controlled.
has to give a suggestion. We think that if a man spends less than 1,000 yuan occasionally, as long as he has a look, he does not need to chase him, everyone has some minor thoughts that he is unwilling to share. If those monitoring of whereabouts has reached the point where he needs to be checked at all times, it is probably difficult for his wife to be at ease in the safest area. The focus should not be on monitoring, but on repairing the broken trust.
Happy families have one thing in common, that is, there is no one in the family who has strong desire for control.
Generalized contradiction
Men love face, everyone knows.
Men are social creatures, and their concern for the outside world is far more than their family members’ evaluations of him. Because social resources are the foundation of men's destiny, many men rely on social evaluation to work and survive.
There is a scholar who always boasts about the wealth in his family. The thief heard that the scholar was very rich, so he sneaked into his house to steal. The scholar did not dare to make a sound when he heard the thief rummaging through the cabinet. The thief flipped over and over but couldn't find anything valuable. He cursed in anger, "It's so unlucky, it's even poorer than me!" After that, he walked out with a swagger. When the scholar heard this, he took out the only few cents from the head of the bed, caught up with the thief, and stuffed them to him, "Brother, you came by unfortunately. I just lent all the money. I gave you this money. Please go outside and save me some face. Don't say everywhere that I'm poor!" Although this is a joke, it solidly proves that a man has good face.
There are some wives who often open the window and shout loudly when they have conflicts and disagreements with their husbands, hoping that the whole world will hear her grievances. At this time, husbands usually choose to leave and are too lazy to listen to their wives’ complaints. Some wives were unhappy and began some crazy actions, calling their mother-in-law and brother-in-law; calling their classmates from both of them, and even excessively, the wife called the husband's leader, and a single operation turned the matter of the small family into a "farce".
encountered a conflict. The biggest idea of men is to calm the conflict and minimize the losses. Women go from crying to finding someone to talk to each other, mainly expressing their emotions. This is determined by social attributes, but it creates completely different ways of presenting contradictions. However, generalized contradictions are indeed a taboo in marriage and are also the most unacceptable behavior for men.
Married men have lost their impulse shell and gradually mature. They will be extremely tolerant of their partner to a large extent. The above-mentioned minefields that cannot be touched in marriage actually challenge their views on marriage and life, causing the waves of their already calm marriage to suddenly arise. Men are impulsive animals and tolerant animals. They use the pen of reason to calm their hearts.
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